Women Are Racist

No, not really. But in John Tierney’s continued analysis of dating behavior, he cites some interesting studies that suggest that women are far less open to dating men of other races than vice versa.

African-American women said yes about 30 percent less often to Hispanic men; about 45 percent less often to white men; about 65 percent less often to Asian men.

Black women were the most averse to interracial dating, Asian women were the most open to it, and Asian men didn’t fare all that well.

I’m not going to hypothesize why – after all, I’m a dating coach, not a social scientist – but this very much corresponds with what I’ve heard from clients.

White women said yes about 30 percent less often to black or Hispanic men, and about 65 percent less often to Asian men.

With one exception. I’m a bit surprised at men’s openness to interracial dating. While I’ve personally dated women across the racial spectrum, I’ve only had a handful of clients who ever expressed preferences for women of other races. Then again, the demographics of my clients are probably a bit skewed towards upper-middle class white people.

Any readers with interracial dating experience care to weigh in?

Hispanic women said yes about 20 percent less often to black or white men, and 50 percent less often to Asian men.

Money quote:The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race. Here’s how much less interested they were in the other races, as compared with their enthusiasm for men of their own race:

Asian women didn’t discriminate much by race (except for showing a very slight preference for Asian men over black or Hispanic men).

Click here to read the whole article:

Update:

But wait, there’s some “good news” from those same researchers.

A few days later, after looking at 300 reader comments, researchers sent some surprising news back.

Daters who discriminate by race… also temper these biases once they get to know one another.

“The researchers realize that their results can be depressing, but they also agree with the many readers who caution against reading too much into the preferences of online daters and speed daters. Yes, these daters clearly discriminate by race and height and looks and other superficial qualities, but they also temper these biases once they get to know one another.”

People who are terribly picky in choosing partners online will relax their standards if they spend just three or four minutes talking to someone at a speed dating session.

Click here to read the whole article.

What’s your view? To quote one researcher, Paul W. Eastwick, “do those stated ‘turn-offs’ come back to haunt you later in the relationship, or are they permanently forgotten?”

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  1. 151
    caféOlé

    I prefer Asian men. However not many prefer black women.

  2. 152
    V.

    I would date Asian men. The hottest guy in my high school was South Asian. (That was in the ’80s ‘though, so he’s very married by now!) Also, I would date red headed men. Patty on Millionaire Matchmaker says redheads are undateable, but I don’t have a problem with anyone’s hair color. I just like men with a certain IQ, and I have to say, most men on dating sites are too low-IQ for me. I just can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who has no thought of anything beyond what’s on television, what’s for dinner, and how much longer until Friday. I like men who are smart and inspired; who have some sort of goal or mission in life. I don’t necessarily need a super rich man, just someone who has some idea of accomplishing something in life beyond collecting a paycheck for 20 years and then retiring to the sofa to get old, fat and boring.

  3. 153
    V.

    Also, in the ’80s, some of the (white) girls in the class that graduated a year before me, decided to just ask out black guys to the prom. Some of the white guys in my school got upset about that. There were some nasty racist notes left for those girls in their locker (all written by anonymous cowards, naturally). It didn’t change their plans, and they went to prom with whomever they wanted to. Gen X girls are independent, and have no fear.

  4. 154
    tom

    I have dated many different women and have lived an Asian women I’m white

  5. 155
    BigAsianPackage Blog

    So, yeah, right on. This is from my blog that talks about how it affects me, as an Asian American man….

    Here’s the point: there’s an unanswered simplistic message that dominates the conversation on race and sex about Asian men – They are not sexual, and they have small penises. Social and sexual standing are related, and as such, to those who accept presentation of the world in terms of race and essential racial qualities, Asian men are undesirable socially and sexually.

    That’s something I’ve experienced my whole life. It has been difficult and my life has been worse for it. Imagine in your social circle, it was rumored that you weren’t desirable sexually and had a small dick or wide-set vagina. Whether true or not, I’m guessing it might be detrimental to you. Now imagine in the whole world, every single person has heard this rumor even before you talk to them. That’s the kind of narrative that exists.

    For me, it’s not pleasant, but I also don’t have a problem with saying fuck you and doing my own thing. I’m okay with seeking more individual experiences with women who can appreciate me for the whole package. I speak my mind, I like women a lot, and I think that my particular personality type (perpetually horny) has made it easier for me in the sex department.

    It’s not the same for everyone though. I know a lot of eligible guys sidelined because they’re maybe less assertive (Asian + less assertive = wimp; White + less assertive = geeky). They shouldn’t be penalized for a personality trait. Still now in 2015, it’s commonplace in our society to trash Asian men publicly and ridicule them for an assumed physical racial trait. Which other group of people do we do that to?

    Still, none of this by itself compelled me to write. I was fine letting people go on in their ignorance. I have a nice big cock, and I was fine sharing that in just the bedroom (or bathroom, or kitchen, or wherever, but you get my point).

    It is my young nephew, a fine young boy of nearly 4. He is bright, happy, curious, and sensitive. He’s the only boy in his ballet class, loves pink and purple cars and all utility trucks, and he asks me if I am feeling okay. I love him, and everything about him, and I think it should be okay that he express himself growing up in the world instead of scared into isolation through compounding social rejections. But he will grow up as an Asian man in America, and right now, the chances of going through that without injury and self-hate are none. Zero. I’m serious. I know this, and this is why I write.

  6. 156
    Marcelo Deunnero

    A big part of Asian women’s desirability is their attitude.  Many are very beautiful.  The male psyche is majorly based upon respect and honor,  just as most women love being cherished and desired.  Many Asian women are very feminine, and while not pushovers it is more common for them to show their men a level of respect that men like.  No woman should be viewed as lesser than a man or be subservient or a pushover, but feminism has gone over board in the west and has in many women killed part of what makes them appealing to men.  I love that my wife acts different than me.  It makes her interesting, and appealing.  If a woman has a good man that actually loves her and she respects him then she will get what she wants from him.  I do think black women are more confrontational than many other women, and I think they suffer because of it.  A lot of  men from other races would be with a black woman who is feminine and respectful.  A strong woman or man and a confrontational one are two different things.   I have seen so many videos of  black men absolutely degrading black women for being too confrontational.  I do understand there are always two sides to a coin though.

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