Regarding Shay’s question #5 – how can a woman get a second date, here are a few tips:
1. Be yourself, confident, upbeat, energized, fun!
2. Be open to getting to know him. Avoid snap judgments that make you shut down too quickly.
3. Be aware of showing your best side. Avoid TMI. Your troubles are not attractive and your date is not a therapist.
4. Be appreciative – let a man know you enjoyed yourself, and appreciated his choice of restaurant, etc.
5. Be the woman – let him close the date or ask for a second. Men still prefer the chase.

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I think that women don’t have exactly same desire from a man on a first date (i.e., what she wants most from a man). Fun is good, but not the most important thing. If I could boil it down to one word of what a woman would like to see from a man, it would be caring. This manifests itself in multiple ways, including some that Evan and Robyn #4 pointed out above: paying the bill, being on time, asking questions, helping her in and out of the car and her coat… how could a woman not love such gestures. She’d want to see him again, almost certainly.

Evan’s advice may have worked every time for him, but Evan’s not exactly the average man in the dating pool.

However, I think Evan’s recommendations drastically improve any man’s chance of getting a second date.

Similarly, I don’t think there’s anything a woman can do to guarantee a second date. But she can drastically improve her odds.

Be fun. It’s that simple. After the first date, I’m not trying to decide whether you’re the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. I’m just trying to determine whether I’ll have fun the next time I spend an evening with you.