as for the rest of my personal preferences, they’re just what I like. I don’t believe a person who wants something different is wrong.

“square-jawed hunk types with good hair”….lol as opposed to double chinned balding men (who obviously never get a response).

“men with bachelor’s degrees or higher” ….= I couldn’t possibly be attracted to a plumber,carpenter or an electrician unless he was really hot !!

“I’ve always found people who state their incomes are kinda tacky and probably lying about them anyway” ….gee I always thought if I didn’t put the ballpark figure in women would think I was poor ? Another thing ladies, how much a guy makes doesn’t necessarily correlate to how much he’s worth. Women tend to qualify men and their worth with that magical question “So what do you do ?” then they can figure a net worth/annual income/total value to women from there.

I tend to book mark women with cute faces,nice smiles,that are slim with no kids and under 5’8″ ….lol But after I actually email all 3 of them I’ll email the all the others I kinda like too.

I tend to search for men minus 3 and plus 10 years my age. I search for men with bachelor’s degrees or higher. I look for men who are Atheists, Agnostics, “Spiritual, not Religious” or Buddhists, because their world views are similar to mine. I do specify body type, because I have my preferences. I do not state my income, nor do I search by income. I’ve always found people who state their incomes are kinda tacky and probably lying about them anyway. I also don’t like to travel for romance, so I limit my search to those living within 25 miles of my zip code, which I think is fairly generous, given that I live in a rather populous city.

Then I look for two things in the men who appear in my search results: humor & sincerity. I like guys who don’t take themselves seriously, so I write back to guys who can make fun of themselves a bit, perhaps who post pics doing something silly. I look for men who reveal something they are passionate about, something they have soft spot for, or perhaps something they’re unafraid to show a little vulnerability towards.

I know I run the risk of missing out on good ones by limiting myself to these criteria, but a girl needs to manage her time somehow.

Imagine you’re at a party. You might converse briefly with lots of people, but who do you end up having a conversation with. Someone that makes you laugh. Someone you share interests with. Someone who says interesting things. Someone you share values with.

A good person to contact will obviously vary depending on who you are, but when people are asked to write about themselves they tend to reveal a lot about themselves.

It shows that she has specific interests and tells why she enjoys them. It gives me an idea about her communication style and finally also it’s fodder for not only the first email but also the first date. I also feel that a woman who is comfortable enough to tell a story online is confident enough to meet a guy offline without being extremely nervous. It all comes together rather well for me because I enjoy telling stories too. Little things like that help tremendously!

Markus, you’ll probably thinking of NLP or speed seduction, which has nothing to do with the online dating systems I mentioned. They’re just very solid and tested systems for getting responses via online dating sites. They won’t be very different from the advice you find here or on any other dating advice site.

I don’t think that EMK is a pick-up-artist so I doubt he will even debate this with you. I’ve read his book, website, used the photog site he recommends and I’m doing pretty well. I have no interest in using Jedi mind tricks to get as many vacant women as possible in bed. I’m playing for keeps. Unfortunately, what attracted me the most to my ex-wife, besides the fact that she is beautiful was the fact that I NEVER felt like I needed to play games with her. That is one of the things I want. If it’s not possible, I’ll die alone. Oh well.

Chris,

Kein problem. Ich spreche ein bischen deutsch. “Gott mit dir, du Land der Bayern”.

I just look at it all as hobby. Now I’m off to the bar where I meet real women immediately and I KNOW what they look like right NOW. And I don’t care if they look like their picture. I just pray they’re not on Match or Yahoo (and some are) because I know what will be in their inbox when they get home..20 MORE responses !! LOL Whoever thought it would come to all this ??

I prefer meeting real women.

The only problem, and you would know this, is that so many of them already have boyfriends. It is not as if available women wear badges or anything advertising their availability.

But then, Steve, like you, I thought it was the character from Popeye. Then I thought maybe that was Brutus (named after some ancient Greek guy), and that I was mixing the name of that supporting player in the cartoon with the supporting player from another cartoon–Pluto, in the Jetsons. And you are right — Brutus did need some type of intervention, and you kind of imagine that he would never, ever get to date the likes of Janet, George Jetson’s cute teenage daughter. Brutus must know that on some level. He’d be the type to copy and paste the same message to every woman on the site. Popeye, of course, would mention his love of greens in the profile and all the women would swoon. Or maybe he’d show a pic that reveals his anchor tatoo. I myself do not like men with pipes, but I consider it a character flaw. Perhaps I will “settle” one day.

Und fur Chris: wenn du liebst, sie ist schone.