Comments on: 12 Things Women May Not Want to Know About What Men Think…

By: Cat

Cat — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 08:50:47 +0000

Topic: Equality. That’s about public life. You’re not expected to pull the chair out for your coworkers, take their jackets but are expected not to smack their rears, not negotiate “favors” so that they can keep their jobs, and pay them equally. That’s public life.
In personal life, men want women to be women. Women want men to be men. For the most part–obviously there are variations of people. But generally, this is the case. In all my life, I have never understood why so many men cannot grasp this difference. They can understand compartmentalized sex, but have difficulty with this one very simple, obvious and common sense compartmentalization.
The advances women have made in the past several decades isn’t so much equality, but it’s just downright basic respect from the male population. You can still be a dashing knight on your dates and a respectful coworker by day.
There just will always be a type of woman who tries out husband/father material by how her dates behave chivalrously. And there will always be men who WANT women who want that. Ladies, if he’s not doing that and that’s what fulfills your evolutionary urges, then thank him for the nice evening and be on your way. Same for you, guys. Stop blaming women for what a lot of men actually WANT. And women will appreciate there are men who prefer the modern impersonal way of doing things.
Relationships are not 50/50. They are 100%. Sometimes your 100% will be lower on some days and your partner, giving their 100% will be able to catch you. If you’re too busy being 50/50, one day you will fall short and need her to come through, but you trained her into only doing half since “this is equality”.
The end.

By: Cat

Cat — Sat, 23 Mar 2013 08:35:51 +0000

Women spend so much more money looking good for her date. Just something to consider. She should always be prepared, but men should also appreciate just how much women are (expected to be) involved in looking good for their dates when all he had to do was shower and throw on some pants. MAYBE pull out the iron and run a brush over his shoes.

When a woman goes in half on a traditional “get dressed up” dinner date, really she went in a good 75%. Not all women do, but the type who says she hates a cheap date, she’s not really talking about digging for gold, she’s realizing (even if just subconsciously) how much in time and cash she spent on him.

Something to consider.

By: Amelia

Amelia — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 16:14:08 +0000

@ #12, I feel the exact same way. As I mentioned in a previous discussion, my boyfriend simply wouldn’t have it when I offered to pay even for half for our first several dinner dates. He didn’t make me feel like I had to sleep with him because he was paying. Now THAT was attractive and made me want to see him again. But just like men can’t read our minds, women can’t read men’s and instantly ascertain their personal philosophy on who-pays-for-what.

Granted, I think if you have a good time, offer to pay, or at least split, whether you are man or woman. I also agree with #13 in that if you plan the date, then be ready to pay for it, too.

Also, geez, icicicles. With that attitude, I’d be glad to pay for my shit so I could just get up and leave.

By: icicicles

icicicles — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 12:14:21 +0000

Tattoos are NOT art they are as artistic as looking at the comic pages in the back of the Sundays paper.
They are as beautiful as seeing a two year old with a felt pen.
Over 50 percent of all relationships are now from meeting online and a lot of men are now looking toward foreign women for life time partners.
Reasons; because they are old fashion, they know how to cook real food and maintain the home, they don’t sport body piercings or tattoos and greet you with genuine pleasure to see you after a hard days work. I’ve heard that some will even give you a message.
Check them out online guys, Asian and Eastern European babes will do all the things American women wont and without lips service.

By: icicicles

icicicles — Tue, 11 Dec 2012 11:40:38 +0000

For a woman to call a man cheap if he doesn’t pay for their entertainment is selfish, self centered, piggish and cheap in her own making.
You wanted equal rights of a man so start living up to it.
If I ask anyone if they’d like to go shoot some pool or go golfing, am I required to pay?
Hell no! so why cant a woman be responsible enough to pay her own way for entertainment and refreshments?
I see women out together all the time and they are all reaching into their purses to pay for their own drinks—-isn’t it time women stop taking advantage of men and start being responsible for their own entertainment cost.
STOP BEING CHEAP!

By: rexx

rexx — Wed, 28 Nov 2012 23:10:03 +0000

I’ve dated several women that stated they don’t like men that are “cheap”. I noticed that all these women had amazing expensive clothes and furniture they couldn’t possibly afford on their income. My conclusion was that they were up to their eyeballs in debt. I chose not to date them because of this. I know that not all women are like that, but there are a lot of women that think it’s sexy when a man takes care of her. BULLS**T!
I’m amazed at how women don’t see how amazingly unhealthy this is. I can afford to buy dinner. I can afford to buy ten dinners, but I don’t want to for the same reason I don’t want to give my niece Crystal Meth. It’s bad for her. It says, “I’m the candy man and you will forever be dependent on me.” Plus, when I say jump, you better fucking jump! Is this what you want ladies? Men that pay for your dates are sexist assholes that don’t respect you as an individual. They are telling you to play a role! Numerous studies have proven this. Even feminists agree with this.
The reason us men back lash like this is because we’ve been disrespected and beaten by women that think that just because we want some real equality in the dating scene, we are selfish assholes. My response to that is F*** off!

By: icicicles

icicicles — Sun, 25 Nov 2012 22:45:14 +0000

A lot of us guys are tired of the proliferation of piercings. The ear is nice providing it doesn't look like a Xmas tree. Nose rings, on cold days the cold metal condenses your breath and like a sweating beer runs down the metal like snot. Brow rings, if you have ugly eyes and wanted to distract us away from them, then you succeeded. Nose and cheek post, looks like a mole that need to be burned off until we really get in close (if we really want to) enough to see it. Lips rings, you think I'm that hard up to kiss that? Belly/navel, jewelry is nice, it gives us reason to stair in that direction Clitoris post, REALLY?---too much emphasis on self needs and admiration.

By: icicicles

icicicles — Sun, 25 Nov 2012 12:03:06 +0000

M- all you had to say was your last sentence.
Verbosity- did you have to carry it a hundred time further.
I’ll bet 99 percent of men didn’t bother to read fully ether comments.
Men zone out when women ramble for 2hr’s about something that they easily picked up in 2 seconds by reading between the lines.
If a man wants you to pay your share – then pay your share.
If a man wants to pay your way – then let him.
But be smart and be prepared for ether.
Learn from that!
Ef – has a health perspective.
Leanna – if your dating is so cheap then just stay home, it’s cheaper.

By: Jacki

Jacki — Sun, 30 Sep 2012 23:20:07 +0000

Funny! :)

By: ALittleOldFashioned

ALittleOldFashioned — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:38:31 +0000

A few things that (I, at least) would like men to know:

1. There is a very fine line between “protective” and “possessive”. The latter is not attractive in the slightest. Despite the tough front we girls put on, we really do appreciate it when you stand up to your friends for making fun of us or to anyone else who makes us cry.� However, if you’re telling us that you don’t want us talking to guy friends we’ve KNOWN LONGER THAN YOU, or you start checking our phone messages, that’s controlling/possessive, and THAT pisses us off.

2. Only make promises you’ll keep, and if for some reason you can’t keep a promise, give a good reason as to why.

3. BE SINCERE. You know how you like it when we make you feel like we need you? We like that too. Making it clear how much we mean to you does NOT make you look like a wimp. Not in our eyes.