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I know you don’t read this blog to hear about me or my family.
You read this blog to learn something about men. Something about the human condition. Something that explains why bad things happen to good people.
But to me, any story can be extrapolated to something universal. It doesn’t matter if it’s an anecdote about me, my wife, or my private coaching clients – it all has to do with YOU.
So ask yourself what you would do, say, or think after getting suddenly axed by the same guy who wanted to commit to you only 10 days earlier?
If you’re like ANYBODY, you’d be pretty darned surprised and disappointed.
Given that 99% of men are definitely NOT your future husband, getting upset when this proves to be true is like getting upset that you didn’t win the Powerball.
But if you’re me, a professional dating coach who sees this every day, you’re not at all surprised or disappointed by what happened.
Before you accuse me of being callous, allow me to explain:
How many times in your life have you been in love? Two? Three? Four?
How many of those relationships lasted? Um, zero. (Widows are excused from this exercise.)
What percent of men are cute, successful, smart, kind, funny, compatible and emotionally available for a relationship? (I’ll let you answer yourself.)
What percent of those amazing men also think YOU’RE cute, smart, kind, funny, compatible and emotionally available for a relationship? (Not as many as you’d like.)
When you look at all of these things together, without any emotion, you’ll see exactly what I see: the fact that ANY relationship gets off the ground is remarkable.
And, to the naked eye, FAILURE is the default setting in dating.
You heard me. Failure.
Now, to be clear: I’ve failed a LOT more than you have.
I’ve gone on over 300 dates and committed to probably fifteen “girlfriends” before getting married. Which is why I’m not too fazed by failure.
You shouldn’t be, either.
Given that 99% of men are definitely NOT your future husband, getting upset when this proves to be true is like getting upset that you didn’t win the Powerball. Yeah, it’s unfortunate, but it’s also quite predictable.
Which is why I want you to write this down on a post-it right this very second:
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