Because a charismatic man wants to be the center of attention.
Because he doesn’t want to share the stage.
Because he’s likely to compete with Laura for the last word.
And most of all, because his charisma is probably indicative of a whole bunch of other qualities – his desire to flirt with other women, his bossiness, his stubbornness, his refusal to settle down or compromise…
Yes, Laura’s dated that charismatic guy a dozen times – always with the same result.
Her shift – and yours – is not to swing to the OPPOSITE end of the spectrum. Remember – I’m not trying to pair you up with bland, boring, and lame men.
Just know that if Laura brings 60% of the charisma, her partner should probably bring 40% of the charisma.
If Laura’s bringing in 60% of the income, her partner should probably bring in 40% of the income, and so on.
By having a balanced partnership, you can lean on each other and clearly define your roles without all the ego and conflict.
My wife handles customer service because I have a worse temper.
I handle negotiations because she’s too nice.
My wife handles money because I’m better with words.
I handle paying for vacations; she’s the one who plans them.
Relationships aren’t about two people who like skiing or two people who enjoy live music.
This may seem trivial but this is important. Relationships aren’t about two people who like skiing or two people who enjoy live music. Relationship are about how a couple can negotiate and compromise in every aspect of life.
So when you date the man who is just like you but “better”, you’ll likely end up with a man with the same strengths…and the same weaknesses.
If I married someone with my weaknesses, my wife would be difficult, opinionated, short-tempered.
The reason that we work is because she’s my complement: patient, happy, easygoing.
If it seems like a challenging shift to wean yourself off of men who are just like you, all you have to do is look at the results.
You’re reading my blog for smart, strong, successful single women.
That’s all you need to know.
You don’t need a clone. You need a complement.
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