Comments on: When Is it A Fair Amount of Time for a Guy to “Know” That He Wants You? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/ Wed, 22 May 2013 18:56:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Evan Marc Katz http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-205619 Evan Marc Katz Mon, 21 Nov 2011 16:37:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-205619 Kim, if you can cite exactly where I contradicted myself, I’d be willing to own it. But your claim that sometimes I tell women to stay and sometimes I tell women to go doesn’t make your case. You don’t gain anything by cutting off a man who hasn’t responded to your email on Match.com for 2 days. You don’t lose anything by cutting off the man who’s been sleeping with you for six months without a commitment. These aren’t contradictions. This is common sense.

]]> By: Kim http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-205597 Kim Mon, 21 Nov 2011 15:46:24 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-205597 One more thing,  just what I have noticed (not the truth), I see that Evan flips flops sometimes with his view (Pls dont take offense Evan, I totally like your what you are doing here).    You say:  What did you actually GAIN by cutting him off entirely? but in another post You stated why waste one more minute being with the wrong guy.    Also, I have seen this in your Internet dating book also.   Nothing wrong, it just that everyone has their beliefs and it is good to get guidance from other people, but the best advice is from your intuitive self.   

]]> By: Kim http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-205595 Kim Mon, 21 Nov 2011 15:41:01 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-205595 After reading this, I know when I have seen a man interested (calling 2 days after the date to ask you out, calling you and texting you) and when a man is not that interested (waiting 5 days to call you and not asking you out right away).   I would say, give the benefit of the doubt the first couple of weeks, but after that, if he is not calling you more and asking you out,  then it is time to say goodbye.  Because he is not that into you.

]]> By: Diane http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-83736 Diane Wed, 22 Sep 2010 21:48:15 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-83736 #30

SO well said and SO true Evan

]]> By: Diane http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-83735 Diane Wed, 22 Sep 2010 21:47:13 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-83735 If there was one piece of advice I would have adopted when I was younger (and immature, so I’ll give myself that!) was to be PATIENT!  Now that I’m older, although it’s no my virtue, I totally get the value of patience. I often have to talk myself into patience, but so be it. 

I just don’t get the move across country, uproot your life, move in with guy, meet the whole family, etc., etc., after a week, two weeks or even 4-5 months.  What is the hurry?  Especially if the relationship starts long distance…the only way we really get to know each other is by spending time together, in person.  Not on the phone, not on line, not in IM/chat.  So much about learning about people is situational–what does he do in his free time, what kind of phone calls is he making, how much time does he spend on line, how does he handle stressful situations, how does he handle negotiation, what are his habits, etc. etc.

Just some random thoughts :)

]]> By: Sara Malamud http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-76144 Sara Malamud Tue, 27 Jul 2010 03:19:58 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-76144 While, the inner workings of the male psyche may be a mystery to women, situations such as these are often self explanatory. It doesn’t take a guy or even your girlfriends to tell you that he doesn’t like you. The odds are if you have to ask, he probably just isn’t that into you to paraphrase Greg Behrendt.

]]> By: Katarina Phang http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-75302 Katarina Phang Mon, 19 Jul 2010 17:36:56 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-75302 Sayanta, if you opt to see it that way, that’s not a very empowering place to be in.  See this as an avenue for self-growth.  It’s all about you -how you are responsible for your own happiness and in charge of your own emotions- NOT them, the men.
 
Seek first to understand then be understood.  See how magical that will be.

]]> By: Sayanta http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-75149 Sayanta Sat, 17 Jul 2010 20:51:20 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-75149 KP-

No problem. At the same time…thinking about it a little more, if we go by your theory, doesn’t it mean that men basically have no accountability in their relationships? (ie, they do whatever they want when the mood hits them, but expect women to always be on ‘best’ behavior). Not that all men really do behave that way, just the ones you’re using as examples in your theory,

]]> By: Katarina Phang http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-75147 Katarina Phang Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:20:07 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-75147 Thanks, Sayanta.  Since my breakup I have learnt a great deal about basic differences in men vs. women.

]]> By: sayanta http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/when-is-it-a-fair-amount-of-time-for-a-guy-to-%e2%80%9cknow%e2%80%9d-that-he-wants-you/comment-page-1/#comment-75087 sayanta Sat, 17 Jul 2010 01:29:27 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=3607#comment-75087 KPH-

That’s a really good post! You’ve done some great research. :-D I’ll have to keep all this in mind when I’m dealing with men (not just romantically…I recognize what you’ve written in male family members as well).

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