Now that I got that out of my system, I can tell you, with all sincerity, Michael, that this still seems like a promising venture.
In three lines, you told me that:
You had a great date.
She’s looked at your profile repeatedly.
She texted you a thank you (even though you thanked her for a nice evening).
Apart from the fact that this plays like an episode of “What Not To Do in Dating” Theater, I can’t fathom what other evidence you need to feel confident in asking her out.
Skywriting above your home?
Messenger pigeons carrying a note saying “Ask me out again”?
A candygram from a dancing bear, who then takes off her head to reveal your date?
I’m teasing because it’s a sweet and innocent question – and because there’s only so many ways to say “yes” in a blog post.
And for any guy reading this who also wonders the same thing as Michael, here’s a rule you can take to the bank:
If she had a great time with you on Friday night, you CANNOT go wrong by calling her on Saturday afternoon to ask her out again.
No 3-Day-Rule. No games. No bullshit.
If she likes you, the ONLY way you can mess things up is by hemming and hawing for a week.
Some guys have concluded that the next-day follow up is a failed strategy. Better to play hard to get and make women wait. Not quite.
If she likes you, she’ll be thrilled that you called.
If she had a great time with you on Friday night, you CANNOT go wrong by calling her on Saturday afternoon to ask her out again. No 3-Day-Rule. No games. No bullshit.
If she doesn’t like you, she’ll be annoyed that you called.
Either way, her decision was made on Friday night, not when you made the phone call.
You’re in the clear, Michael. Ask her out now.
Oh, and by the way, do yourself a favor and make a move on her on your next date. Otherwise, I fear I’m going to get another email in eight weeks wondering if she’s “receptive to affection”… Just kidding.
Seriously…good luck…and thanks for writing.
P.S. If you wonder about this kind of dating etiquette, this is exactly what we cover in my 8-week Passion Course – understanding how to be a great first date, always get a second date, date multiple people, deal with sex and intimacy, understand the opposite sex, etc.
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