Comments on: When to Dump Someone – Right Away!

By: Ben Ther

Ben Ther — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 03:39:58 +0000

I agree it’s better to dump as soon as you know it’s not going to last forever. However, I dated one chick who dumped me after six or seven months by telling me she just didn’t see us growing old together. What made me angry was I could look at her past relationships and small things she said and realized she was never going grow old with anyone. She had never had a relationship last more than a year. I sort of felt used at that point. She had and always would date guy for a few weeks to a year and move on. Had I really known that I would never have dated her.

By: what attracts women

what attracts women — Sat, 17 Apr 2010 18:47:17 +0000

I think some people do better at this than others. When you feel it in your gut its probably true, but it doesn’t always make it easier.

By: hunter

hunter — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:36:07 +0000

to jim,

for some reason, one woman, attracts others, a common fact…..

By: hunter

hunter — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:35:10 +0000

to jim,

Stay in the 3-month relationship,you are in right now, see where that goes….

By: Jim

Jim — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 17:53:17 +0000

I am in a really interesting situation right now… I am dating a girl who ADORES me, been going for about 3 months now. She tells me I am the centre of her world and I do lover her back. But my ex, who I have spent some quality time with recently, is completely head over heels having seen how I really am, not what they thought I was. This has made them offer everything – even marriage. Of course, if I were single, I would jump at it. And what is stopping me? Terrible feelings of guilt and empathy perhaps? Or a lack of surity about my ex’s new found love for me? If I wait, I’m doomed to lose both of them. It’s time to take the plunge and go with my gut – back to the ex – or not? I cannot decide.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 18 May 2007 09:10:47 +0000

It’s unfair to both people to stick with a futureless relationship, but what if you’re just unsure?
Its hard to know whether the relationship will work out in a few short months.
How can you be sure that its time to cut the cord?
In your friends case, it should be easier since he’s moved on and found someone else that he’s happier with, obviously thats a sign that the previous relationship wasn’t the right one. But if you’re in a relationship, which you’re investing a lot of yourself into, and you do care about that person, but you feel unsure, what then?
I know you should be honest and voice your feelings to your partner but if you have done so and they don’t understand your uncertainty?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 16 May 2007 13:57:58 +0000

I agree, if you know that this is not he one, why waste their time…

By: a&v

a&v — Fri, 04 May 2007 20:35:27 +0000

This is so true! Since being strung along at the tender age of 16, I’ve made it a point to kindly end things as soon as possible with subsequent relationships I knew weren’t going well. I call it my “cruel to be kind” approach. Unfortunately this credo doesn’t seem all that common.

By: The Relationship Journalist

The Relationship Journalist — Fri, 04 May 2007 00:40:38 +0000

I agree – it’s better to dump someone as soon as you know the relationship is going nowhere. Good call, Evan!

Lisa Steadman
Author, It’s A Breakup, Not A Breakdown