Comments on: Why Do Guys Send Text Messages To Keep In Touch While Dating?

By: Anon

Anon — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 05:01:21 +0000

I think it’s a generational things. I find I prefer face to face over phone but text over phone. As a female, I can say I see no issue with him. Why not just tell them how you feel? But I do agree that is looks weird if you’re in a serious relationship and all you get are texts. Also, why wait for the guy to always make the first move?Why not just call him and let him know that is your preferred method of communication?

By: Tim

Tim — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 05:43:15 +0000

This is both sad and pathetic. I may be wrong in this assumption but I’m pretty sure the phone works both ways. If women want to be confident and independent then they shouldn’t be complaining about not getting five minute phone calls and instead an occasional text from someone they just met on Match.com. Acting in such a behavior is conforming to gender roles and adhering to typical double standards that state men should court and win over a females heart. I have a heart too and nothing makes me love my girlfriend more than her passion and devotion to me; that of which I share with her as well. The key to happiness lies within your own virtues so imagine how he would feel if he knew how you reacted towards him. If he didn’t stop talking to you I bet he would be distant. If you want him to call you give him a reason because right now the only thing you’re doing is giving him a reason to leave.
Devil’s advocate:
That being said always keep your guard up because humans are cruel. Be it man or woman don’t ever let your biggest weakness open. Guard your heart! Show him you’re worth it but dont just give it away either. Best of luck to you.

By: Tiffany N. York

Tiffany N. York — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:56:47 +0000

I just told a guy I had been seeing casually sayanara for this very same reason. I get that people are busy. Hey, I’m a single mother taking care of everything on my own. But if I’m into you, I make the time to text you back. Maybe not immediately, but within the next few hours. I would text this guy in the am, maybe asking him a question, and sometimes he wouldn’t respond until 11pm at night.

You can’t tell me you don’t have 5 seconds to respond in the middle of the day. It is simply rude and inconsiderate. There are two kinds of people: those who respond in a timely manner to texts and those who don’t. If you’re not with “your kind” then you wind up being constantly frustrated.

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By: Warren Unterreiner

Warren Unterreiner — Sun, 06 Nov 2011 15:57:41 +0000

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By: Arrogant

Arrogant — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 05:24:42 +0000

Ok then… Answer me this all of you. With only 5 dates, after a chance meeting on “Match.com” How much do you know about this guy’s daily routine? How much does “this guy” know about YOUR daily routine? I’m going to take a gander and say, you did not tell them what you do as a daily life. I mean, it’s “Match.com” who wants to go spilling their personal life to a person who might be a stalking rapist? These people don’t know what you do in the middle of the day, so they aren’t going to hold a phone to their ear if they think you’re at work, or in the middle of a semi-important meeting (which we know never happens because you have the time to go spilling your guts to the world wide web about what you hate in texting). I mean, you wouldn’t want your phone to ring during work would you? Text messages make it real easy to flip your phone, read it, and get back to your guy when you have the chance. What can a phone call do? Well it can land you in a vacation for 365 days a year, call it unemployment.

By: Cindie

Cindie — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 16:06:46 +0000

I dont agree at all. It depends on personality. Men get an idea real quickly that I dont have time to talk and make negative comments toward that. Im sorry for the disappointment but Im always multitasking and if they want my attention Ill bypass a call unless its late at night. (and then only if I feel like it as I have children and a life) .. yet no matter what Ill always answer the text and almost immediately. Texting is more private to me… definitely ages and personalities view it differently but I believe you who hate it or think its an insult are not giving different personality styles their due respect. I think if you process it knowing each person responds differently and give them their due you would be flattered to know they are thinking of you and took the time to convey that in any manner… takes different forms and many are just trying to make that contact…for what ever reason.

By: Lucy McBees

Lucy McBees — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 17:41:23 +0000

I have some wonderful female friends. Some single, some in relationships. Like you, they are all sexy, intriguing and intelligent women. Yet, you all suffer from a common condition. I call it Men-agitus. You caught it the first time some midget Romeo stole a kiss on the merry-go-round at pre-school morning break, and dropped you for a Tonka truck and a sandpit by lunch. As a result, you seem to spend a significant portion of your lives analyzing men’s actions and words
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Cheers Lucy

By: m

Sat, 24 Sep 2011 02:23:47 +0000

@Kristin, 114 – If you keep answering him back when he keeps treating you like that, then you’re part of the problem. You’re reinforcing his bad behavior by rewarding him with answers.

I’d block him. But that’s just me.

By: Katarina Phang

Katarina Phang — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 02:07:44 +0000

If it really bothers you, you can say “It feels really bad when you don’t respond to my texts and leave me hanging.”

See if that makes a difference.

By: Katarina Phang

Katarina Phang — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 02:06:23 +0000

Kristin, guys do that a lot. I won’t take it personally and waste energy on that. Just keep busy and don’t always be available to respond to texts either.