Comments on: Is it Possible to Have a Conversation With a Guy Online Without It Getting Sexual?

By: Caelii

Caelii — Sat, 28 May 2011 14:00:45 +0000

At last! Someone who udnrestndas! Thanks for posting!

By: vino

vino — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 05:41:09 +0000

“Is it Possible to Have a Conversation Online With a Guy Without it Getting Sexual?”

Yes, but it’s not nearly as fun!

By: JerseyGirl

JerseyGirl — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 05:22:06 +0000

(It’s one of the many reasons I loathe IM. An evil invention for those attempting to be productive. Men interrupt you and then sit dumbly on the other end; women interrupt you and then yatter endlessly on. But I digress.)
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Haha, me too for the same exact reasons.

By: meme

meme — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 01:06:35 +0000

I was reading all the comments, but wondered, a friend of mine met a guy over the internet, in fact mentioning plenty of fish site. That where she met him. He talked to her for months. She started to like him, met him twice and had him over her house three times. within a year, most of the other times they spoke on the phone. (every night) He told her that he only wants to be good friends with her nothing more, she understood that, but it was too late for she feel for this jerk don’t ask me way? However all awhile as they were dating he was on all the dating sites. she mentioned this to him and he said that he didn’t know what he was looking for? But still she stayed with him. After a year passes, his calls and emails to her got shorter and shorter. Now he’ll write her very rear. and shes been writing him, but now he doesn’t even return a reply. But the worse part is that this man is on line everyday on one of the dating sites everyday, but can’t write back an email. She wrote him and asked him if he met anyone and he didn’t acknowledge anything that she said, she told him that she’s confused and wanted to know if they are still friends, he never answered that all he said is that he’s been very busy..And guess what! He started off with his conversations to her nice for the first four months, and then started talking dirty to her and at that time she already started feeling something for him. (but she knew that he didnt want a committment) so I say it’s her fault as well for likeing a pervert! She asked for for advice, i told her to forget him, I don’t know what else to tell her. could anyone comment? (PLEASE DO NOT POST MY EMAIL ADDRESS THANK YOU)

By: Geek Dating

Geek Dating — Thu, 06 Mar 2008 08:43:13 +0000

Of course its possible. I have had many many conversations with women online as friends. Thats such an old fashioned view of the world.

By: hunter

hunter — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 08:49:49 +0000

to m,

…you said, “in mens defense,” I agree with you, women do have tenfold or more of neurotransmitters, connecting the left and right brain, that allow them to process information “quicker”…just part of their “defense mechanism”….

By: hunter

hunter — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 08:23:48 +0000

to m,

…I agree with you, it takes women two paragraphs to say something a man can say, in two words….that is basics….men leave out details, of their trip to the grocery store, to the post office, etc…..

By: m

Sat, 01 Mar 2008 00:51:52 +0000

“I also will add that I hate when a guy expects you to do all the talking and when you try to get a conversation going he answers in one word response. ‘

In men’s defense (I’m sure some are shocked), I’ve read that they don’t have as many connections for neurotransmitters between the left and right sides of the brain as we do, which is why conversation is harder for them (all things being on a continuum, of course; there are some men that are quite verbal).

However, in my gender’s rebuttal defense, I’m wondering why these men don’t *recognize* that they have a handicap in their conversational skills, and if they want to meet women, get out and DO things with the women that are around them locally. That way, they don’t *have* to talk, because they’re *doing* stuff! Problem solved! Shiny!

It’s called compensation for a trait the other sex perceives as a fault. God knows WE do it all the time.

By: Leah

Leah — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 16:59:50 +0000

JerseyGirl–you are so right about that last comment! Last night someone IM’d me and said “hi.” I said hi back, then he didn’t respond…so I asked him a question. I kept getting one word answers from him. I ended up ending the “conversation” after a while of sitting here bored. So I ask this, why say hi to a woman if you’re not willing to have a conversation? I just don’t get it!

By: JerseyGirl

JerseyGirl — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 16:11:03 +0000

I agree that there are plenty of men online with salacious behavior. I always consider these men somewhat pathetic. But there are men out there that are more respectful as well.

I also will add that I hate when a guy expects you to do all the talking and when you try to get a conversation going he answers in one word response. Then when you stop talking with him out of boredom, he IMs you back: “you there?”. The intellectual conversation is…mind-numbing at best.