Comments on: Why Do Men Run From Me When I Act Too Emotional?

By: coria

coria — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 06:07:34 +0000

i dont know that i trust guys after i’ve been divorced and they usually have been divorced too so theyre afraid of any commitment!

By: coria

coria — Tue, 05 Aug 2008 06:06:21 +0000

I dont have trouble having guys find me just have trouble meeting the right guy oh well!

By: Sahaja

Sahaja — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 20:02:20 +0000

Id have to say what qualifies as needy to some is communicative to another. Bottom line, if you sync with someone, we will be there for them and listen to them. And I dont think too much emotion is just a female issue either – I think sometimes how we’re raised or personality affects things. Not all of us are sharing people and sometimes we need someone to open up before we do – and maybe that person who is too emotional for someone else is the one that can help us open up. Or maybe you communicate the same way and appreciate that she shares with you and you can too. One man’s trash…and all that.

By: Sahaja

Sahaja — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 20:01:48 +0000

Id have to say what qualifies as needy to some is communicative to another. Bottom line, if you sync with someone, we will be there for them and listen to them. And I dont think too much emotional is just a female issue either – I think sometimes how we’re raised or personality affects things. Not all of us are sharing people and sometimes we need someone to open up before we do – and maybe that person who is too emotional for someone else is the one that can help us open up. Or maybe you communicate the same way and appreciate that she shares with you and you can too. One man’s trash…and all that.

By: Tom Lee

Tom Lee — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 08:05:20 +0000

I think that too much neediness will scare any man of, just don’t come to early on with too much neediness and you will be fine.

By: pericles

pericles — Tue, 27 May 2008 19:56:15 +0000

It’s been my experience that men who tell me that they think I’m too emotional are usually also uncomfortable with their own emotions, and emotions in general. There is a pattern in this behavior; take a look at how they handle issues in general. Do they need time alone to think things through? Do they isolate themselves instead of reach out to talk or connect? What do they say about their family background–were they punished for having emotions? Do they tell you that they came from a family where there was little affection, love, or tenderness? The likelihood is that your ordinary, run-of-the-mill venting is going to overwhelm them. You can’t survive in an emotionally-imbalanced relationship. It’s like looking for water in the middle of the desert.

By: Hot Alpha Female

Hot Alpha Female — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 05:02:51 +0000

I think when it comes to dating and we want to have a healthy relationship with someone, we really need to look at ourselves and see if we are someone worthy of dating.

Meaning to say are there things in your life that are missing, that you think a relationship will help fulfill.

I mean of course .. its part of life experience to find that someone to walk with you through life. But its another thing to think that they are there to make you happy.

Happiness is something you can only give yourself. You are the only one that can allow fulfillment and love into your life.

Sometimes when we are emotional all the time .. we expect our partners to make it all better.

But here’s the thing. Its not their job to make you feel better. Yes of course they are there for you in times of need. But its not their job to make you happy or to make you feel fulfilled.

That responsibility falls on our shoulders. And so i think when we are too emotional all the time .. guys really sense .. that there is something that is incomplete about us .. that we need to work on first before we get into a serious relationship.

Hot Alpha Female

http://www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com

By: naturegirl

naturegirl — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 19:42:45 +0000

Rikki –

I’m dating an uber-nerd software engineer (Unix OS researcher). I’ve dated for 30 years, and was married for 14 years of that (to a musician with no clue as to his emotions). My new engineer boyfriend is the man most in touch with his emotions, and most comfortable with sharing them, and listening to mine. Don’t give up on all the engineers (or all of the men).

Most importantly, don’t give up looking for someone who will be emotionally supportive, and don’t settle for someone who isn’t. Relationships are all about the emotional connection!

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 03:13:52 +0000

OK, embarrassing confession first. I’m in Kansas, the home of the infamous KS Board of Education members a few years ago who wanted to incorporate creationism into the public education science standards. Hence, the cult of the Flying Spaghetti Monster!

With that out of the way…I have appreciated the comments to this post. Evan, I agree with your comment that perceptions are often what we need to pay attention to. I am mostly a thinking, rational person, but the flip side is that I bury my emotions too much. Then, they erupt on generally the wrong person! Perhaps women and men need to balance each other and give each other some slack.

By: Selena

Selena — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 16:43:02 +0000

Rikki,
You Go Girl!