Comments on: Why Do We Rush to Go on as Many Coffee Dates as Possible, When Coffee Dates Almost Always Suck?

By: harley517

harley517 — Sun, 07 Aug 2011 03:07:56 +0000

I believe that a good way to break the ice is to meet for a cup of coffee an then sit in a park or take a walk and chat. Talking on line is a good way to begin a relationship but I enjoy seeing someone’s reaction to things i say or they say. Until you have spent time just sharing in the conversation you don’t really know who a person is until u do. Coffee is an easy way to do that. Its a quiet relaxing place where you can have stimulating conversation get to know someone and make plans for getting together for lunch or dinner. Things take time to develop to build on the foundation of a solid relationship. A coffee date is a beginning to something more and yes sometimes it doesn’t work out but after the emails an texts u should know before u meet if the chemistry is there and no other time is wasted if u get together for coffee it shows each other that you are interested in getting to know them an to see what becomes of it.

By: Trisha

Trisha — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 15:43:29 +0000

Mary 25 – you are right on. If I get more than a few emails from a guy and it looks like a lifelong virtual partner, I’m out. I prefer to meet up right away, but then it appears I’ve only obtained a first date and nothing further. Grrr….!

By: hunter

hunter — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 05:07:46 +0000

Moon, I am sure you are a real sweetheart on dates.

By: hunter

hunter — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 04:57:17 +0000

Masochist?,,,OMG!…..hhmmhh, I think the movie “Dangerous Laisons” is boring…..LOL!…….

By: JuJu

JuJu — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 21:03:04 +0000

hunter, you some sort of masochist? =P

By: moonsical

moonsical — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 20:55:00 +0000

hunter,

That is SO comforting. Gosh I hope no one ever hopes I will die on the way to the bathroom! Egads.

moon

By: hunter

hunter — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 18:03:40 +0000

Keep in mind, the anxiety level is very high, on the first three dates. I ask all women out at least three times, even the ones I wish would die on the way to the bathroom!……

By: A-L

A-L — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 03:25:12 +0000

Just as an addendum to my last post, if a guy seems as though there’s potential from his e-mail/phone conversations, even if the chemistry isn’t popping and the conversation could be more scintillating, I’ll frequently give him a chance with a date to see if things improve. I tend to have the philosophy that I’ll continue to go out with someone until I can say definitely that I’m not interested/don’t see long-term potential with them. Of course, I can usually tell within 1-2 dates at the most (few guys get to 3 but not beyond).

By: A-L

A-L — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 03:23:21 +0000

After reading JB’s post, I have to say, not really. Or maybe it means that I’m not willing to go out on as many dates as possible. Frequently my choices are zero or none in terms of new dates with guys I’m interested in. Guys who e-mail me one liner e-mails like “write me back” or have other horrendous errors…maybe. Guys who legitimately seem interesting and have potential? Maybe if I was a 10 I’d have all those offers, but as it is now, not so much.

By: moonsical

moonsical — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 21:57:31 +0000

Hunter,

Better yet, men can read profiles or have conversation with said woman and think to themselves, “Ah! She likes art! So do I! Maybe a Gallery Walk?” Possibly this is too much work for a man, though I find the men I actually do date have this going for them.

moon