Comments on: Why Do Women in Their 30s Not Want to Date Men in Their 40s? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:00:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Paula http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-256902 Paula Tue, 07 Feb 2012 14:13:53 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-256902 I think Adam's statement is very general; I'm 32 and have always dated older guys because the men my age were not as mature as I'd like.  That said, I am an active person and I tend to be drawn to that type; I'd have trouble dating an older man who was unhealthy looking and inactive.    People have their preferences and these should be respected; Evan, I'd like to get to know Adam, if he's interested in meeting someone who wants to settle down and have kids forward him my edress please :-) BTW, I am full employed, well educated, intelligent and well travelled.     I think Adam’s statement is very general; I’m 32 and have always dated older guys because the men my age were not as mature as I’d like.  That said, I am an active person and I tend to be drawn to that type; I’d have trouble dating an older man who was unhealthy looking and inactive.
  
People have their preferences and these should be respected; Evan, I’d like to get to know Adam, if he’s interested in meeting someone who wants to settle down and have kids forward him my edress please :-)

BTW, I am full employed, well educated, intelligent and well travelled.    

]]> By: Saint Stephen http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-255290 Saint Stephen Sat, 04 Feb 2012 09:21:45 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-255290 @Candy First, the majority of divorce cases are initiated by women who married men within a narrow age range, I.e. 2 to 3 to 8. I don't have time now to look up the stats but i learnt that marriages with wide age range tends to last longer.  Secondly, you contradicted yourself when you made this statement.  <em>We do not need men for financial gain in this era, when are men going to get it. </em>And here you said: <em>the only time younger women marry older men is for their money, (I know of younger women who marry rich men, but play with gorgeous young men their age group during the day), haha that teaches men</em>. If women do not need men for financial gains anymore - what then would you say about the women you know who married these men for their wealth, are they she-males?  Besides the majority of men (even the ones I know) who married much younger women aren't wealthy millionaires - they mostly are men of average and slightly above average incomes. Candy Said: <em>or you will get one and they will leave you with half of your wealth or cheat on you when you are not there. </em>Infidelity and divorce isn't age related. Even men who married women their exact age still experience infidelity and divorce whenever the women gets bored.  Candy said: <em>anyway you men cannot perform in your 40 as well as men in their 20 sor 30s.  </em>Since all the men your age can't perform (and aren't physically in shape as you are) why are you bothered about who they chose to date? You should also be dating men that are much younger, otherwise - judging by your comment - you'll have an unsatisfying sex life. I bet you don't want that.   @Candy
First, the majority of divorce cases are initiated by women who married men within a narrow age range, I.e. 2 to 3 to 8. I don’t have time now to look up the stats but i learnt that marriages with wide age range tends to last longer. 

Secondly, you contradicted yourself when you made this statement. 
We do not need men for financial gain in this era, when are men going to get it.

And here you said:
the only time younger women marry older men is for their money, (I know of younger women who marry rich men, but play with gorgeous young men their age group during the day), haha that teaches men.
If women do not need men for financial gains anymore – what then would you say about the women you know who married these men for their wealth, are they she-males? 
Besides the majority of men (even the ones I know) who married much younger women aren’t wealthy millionaires – they mostly are men of average and slightly above average incomes.

Candy Said:
or you will get one and they will leave you with half of your wealth or cheat on you when you are not there.
Infidelity and divorce isn’t age related. Even men who married women their exact age still experience infidelity and divorce whenever the women gets bored. 

Candy said:
anyway you men cannot perform in your 40 as well as men in their 20 sor 30s. 
Since all the men your age can’t perform (and aren’t physically in shape as you are) why are you bothered about who they chose to date? You should also be dating men that are much younger, otherwise – judging by your comment – you’ll have an unsatisfying sex life. I bet you don’t want that.

 

]]> By: Candy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-255147 Candy Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:08:59 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-255147 Sorry the only reason men want younger women is because they are selfish and think it is their right to have younger women, the main reason is to boast their ego walking down the road to show off a younger woman, also they think younger women are horny, the fact is the only time younger women marry older men is for their money, (I know of younger women who marry rich men, but play with gorgeous young men their age group during the day), haha that teaches men. We do not need men for financial gain in this era, when are men going to get it,  I live in UK and have British Citizen but I got approached by men 20-30 older than me, stating that nob-British women will date old men, these men are wrong, yes, if one does not have visa one will date and marry an older man. People do not believe my age, I look 12 years younger than my age, in real life many young men ask me out, but on internet dating old men approached me, so I closed my profile and will not go there. One man who is 20 years older than me approached me and I told him that I did not fancy older men, but I can be just friend, now he is dating an Oriental woman half his age from Philip who is student here, he is so arrogant, he says that she loves him for him and not visa and his wealth.  He is marrying her soon.   Good luck to him and all the men who think women love old men.  I do not, in fact I find men my age group and older have not looked after their appearances as well as I and many women have.  We women in our 40 and 50 these days look much better than men in our age group, no wonder we get approached by younger men.  However, I am not into younger men and definitely not into boosting my ego like men do, but I am not adverse to dating someone 2-3 younger or older if he is slim and trendy.  the type of music I listen to my son's girl friend likes.  People do not believe when I introduce my 18 year old son, they think he is my brother. So to you men who think it is your right to marry younger women, remember we are now financially independent, unless you are millionairs, movie star, keep on dreaming about marrying these women, or you will get one and they will leave you with half of your wealth or cheat on you when you are not there, anyway you men cannot perform in your 40 as well as men in their 20 sor 30s. In fact when I was on dating site I was getting very offended to get approached by these men, and their assumption.  Sorry the only reason men want younger women is because they are selfish and think it is their right to have younger women, the main reason is to boast their ego walking down the road to show off a younger woman, also they think younger women are horny, the fact is the only time younger women marry older men is for their money, (I know of younger women who marry rich men, but play with gorgeous young men their age group during the day), haha that teaches men.

We do not need men for financial gain in this era, when are men going to get it,  I live in UK and have British Citizen but I got approached by men 20-30 older than me, stating that nob-British women will date old men, these men are wrong, yes, if one does not have visa one will date and marry an older man.

People do not believe my age, I look 12 years younger than my age, in real life many young men ask me out, but on internet dating old men approached me, so I closed my profile and will not go there.

One man who is 20 years older than me approached me and I told him that I did not fancy older men, but I can be just friend, now he is dating an Oriental woman half his age from Philip who is student here, he is so arrogant, he says that she loves him for him and not visa and his wealth.  He is marrying her soon.   Good luck to him and all the men who think women love old men.  I do not, in fact I find men my age group and older have not looked after their appearances as well as I and many women have.  We women in our 40 and 50 these days look much better than men in our age group, no wonder we get approached by younger men.  However, I am not into younger men and definitely not into boosting my ego like men do, but I am not adverse to dating someone 2-3 younger or older if he is slim and trendy.  the type of music I listen to my son’s girl friend likes.  People do not believe when I introduce my 18 year old son, they think he is my brother.

So to you men who think it is your right to marry younger women, remember we are now financially independent, unless you are millionairs, movie star, keep on dreaming about marrying these women, or you will get one and they will leave you with half of your wealth or cheat on you when you are not there, anyway you men cannot perform in your 40 as well as men in their 20 sor 30s.

In fact when I was on dating site I was getting very offended to get approached by these men, and their assumption. 

]]> By: NonExist http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-254483 NonExist Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:12:44 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-254483 Being a man in my early thirties I'd accept a woman of any age if she wanted a committment with me.  What is important that our interests are close enough that we can enjoy each other's company. In my high school and university days I did chase after the "hot" women.  But back then I was just interested predominantly in something that was pleasurable to the eyes and the touch and a sense of humor and laid back demeanor were just pluses. Now that I am older, I realize that even with a great diet and fitness regimen that age is going to hit somewhat.  So I'd just prefer someone with whom I can enjoy my time spent with them with little drama. Even though I've pretty much given up on finding anyone, a guy can still dream. Being a man in my early thirties I’d accept a woman of any age if she wanted a committment with me.  What is important that our interests are close enough that we can enjoy each other’s company.

In my high school and university days I did chase after the “hot” women.  But back then I was just interested predominantly in something that was pleasurable to the eyes and the touch and a sense of humor and laid back demeanor were just pluses.

Now that I am older, I realize that even with a great diet and fitness regimen that age is going to hit somewhat.  So I’d just prefer someone with whom I can enjoy my time spent with them with little drama.

Even though I’ve pretty much given up on finding anyone, a guy can still dream.

]]> By: Tina http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-253776 Tina Tue, 31 Jan 2012 22:38:28 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-253776 First of all, all this talk about "wanting children," is putting the cart before the horse.  If you're simply looking to have children then you are looking at something superficial; a number.  So you want to marry a number to have kids because you  somehow feel like you'll be immortalized.  I've got news for you, you won't.  The problem with most everyone is they are not looking to improve themselves or their world and then their not looking for people with good character and if they have not themselves then they have nothing to measure it by.  If you develop your own good character and look to share that with someone and develop a deeply bonded relationship built on comapssion you have everything, if a child comes of it or you adopt, then that is wonderful.  What you have is too many people reproducing, not because they love raising children but because that's what your supposed to do or it fills in their empty lives.  If they are so full of love for children why don't most of them adopt all the unwanted children? Then they get divorced or they simply lead cardboard consumer lives and shove their kid in daycare, torture it shopping, take it everywhere.  Find someone your own age and develop some character, you obviously look only at the superfical, you needs some depth. First of all, all this talk about “wanting children,” is putting the cart before the horse.  If you’re simply looking to have children then you are looking at something superficial; a number.  So you want to marry a number to have kids because you  somehow feel like you’ll be immortalized.  I’ve got news for you, you won’t.  The problem with most everyone is they are not looking to improve themselves or their world and then their not looking for people with good character and if they have not themselves then they have nothing to measure it by.  If you develop your own good character and look to share that with someone and develop a deeply bonded relationship built on comapssion you have everything, if a child comes of it or you adopt, then that is wonderful.  What you have is too many people reproducing, not because they love raising children but because that’s what your supposed to do or it fills in their empty lives.  If they are so full of love for children why don’t most of them adopt all the unwanted children? Then they get divorced or they simply lead cardboard consumer lives and shove their kid in daycare, torture it shopping, take it everywhere.  Find someone your own age and develop some character, you obviously look only at the superfical, you needs some depth.

]]> By: MILLER62 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-252801 MILLER62 Sun, 29 Jan 2012 18:34:06 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-252801 back to the original question about women in 30s not wanting men in 40's. Depends on woman and man -- but woman who want families know their time is limited,  and most especially after mid 30s certainly dont have that time to be that particular. back to the original question about women in 30s not wanting men in 40′s. Depends on woman and man — but woman who want families know their time is limited,  and most especially after mid 30s certainly dont have that time to be that particular.

]]> By: MILLER62 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-252797 MILLER62 Sun, 29 Jan 2012 18:31:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-252797 Supply and demand is of course a massive factor- if men want younger woman they have to lower their demands in relation to other factors e.g they might have to be prepared to have a longer distance relationship than they wanted. Women up to 32ish have a lot of power in deciding what they want -- being beautiful and fertile is very much in demand.. a woman of 29 has much more in demand than a 40 year old woman. maybe 6 to 1-- with a man i guess that ratio would be 2.5 to 1.. Woman do have to fully understand that most men dont care if a woman who want a child bearing relationship will choose a younger woman anyday... Telling the original poster that he should have an older woman is unhelpful -- he should be told to raise hkis appeal to his target group. Supply and demand is of course a massive factor- if men want younger woman they have to lower their demands in relation to other factors e.g they might have to be prepared to have a longer distance relationship than they wanted. Women up to 32ish have a lot of power in deciding what they want — being beautiful and fertile is very much in demand.. a woman of 29 has much more in demand than a 40 year old woman. maybe 6 to 1– with a man i guess that ratio would be 2.5 to 1.. Woman do have to fully understand that most men dont care if a woman who want a child bearing relationship will choose a younger woman anyday… Telling the original poster that he should have an older woman is unhelpful — he should be told to raise hkis appeal to his target group.

]]> By: sephornet http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-251744 sephornet Thu, 26 Jan 2012 13:26:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-251744 John @ #293: "I don't even consider any woman above 34 for a relationship...You won't believe how many younger girls in their early and mid-20's want a relationship with me." When is the wedding? John @ #293: “I don’t even consider any woman above 34 for a relationship…You won’t believe how many younger girls in their early and mid-20′s want a relationship with me.”

When is the wedding?

]]> By: Lance2012 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-251549 Lance2012 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 02:20:37 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-251549 I can relate to the original poster. I think a lot of the comments impute actions to the original poster that he did not take. I have made the same observations about women's online profiles, that does not mean I am looking for women younger than 35, I most certainly am not, my target age is 36-43 (I am 43). I too think (thought?) that online dating is an effective way to screen for women that want to have a family.  I think the age ranges that women specify in their online profiles is just a response to the supply and demand dynamics of online dating. Women specify younger ages because they can, and men will still email them, it is an ego boost, they see other women do it, so they do it also. I do not think online dating profiles are reflective of what women want or can attract in the real world. Though I recognize the dynamics of the online market and I can understand why women react to it the way they do, I am not going to waste my time emailing some 40 YO woman that says she wants to have a family, but her late onset cognitive dissonance only allows her to be interested in dating men 35-40. I can relate to the original poster. I think a lot of the comments impute actions to the original poster that he did not take. I have made the same observations about women’s online profiles, that does not mean I am looking for women younger than 35, I most certainly am not, my target age is 36-43 (I am 43). I too think (thought?) that online dating is an effective way to screen for women that want to have a family.  I think the age ranges that women specify in their online profiles is just a response to the supply and demand dynamics of online dating. Women specify younger ages because they can, and men will still email them, it is an ego boost, they see other women do it, so they do it also. I do not think online dating profiles are reflective of what women want or can attract in the real world. Though I recognize the dynamics of the online market and I can understand why women react to it the way they do, I am not going to waste my time emailing some 40 YO woman that says she wants to have a family, but her late onset cognitive dissonance only allows her to be interested in dating men 35-40.

]]> By: Miller62 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-do-women-in-their-30s-not-want-to-date-men-in-their-40s/comment-page-6/#comment-250560 Miller62 Sun, 22 Jan 2012 21:21:12 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=2352#comment-250560 Hi Ruby, Yes of course you are correct they look good. I just meant that George Cloony could have a family with a younger woman, whilst in the other direction it is a different issue. I dont see anything wrong with women dating younger guys.. However, in relation to the author he clearly wants to have kids so people saying that he should get together with an older woman or someone his age are being unrealistic- and asking for van outcome that pleases no one. He needs to work on his statergies to find the one he wants. If he wants a younger woman, of course, it might be more difficult and in that case he has to widen his net. Obviously I dont know him so I cant say more. However, the idea that someone of 32 would be too young -- i simply dont buy it. Most guys i know look fine in their 40s. --- Women generally are very aware of their clocks so someone in her 30s might be please to find a nice guy who likes her- obviously it depends on many factors..And yes the author could always find someone abroad. Why not. We forget that there are a lot of educagted women in these countries-- and very attractive... I live in the UK and most of my friends have married foreign women -- Of course that is not a sample of the whole uk. In my very limited experience the women who really go hard for the younger guys are often those past child bearing years. They just want fun and have given up on the biological clock. -- they know that the relationship swith the guy often wont last..... Hi Ruby, Yes of course you are correct they look good. I just meant that George Cloony could have a family with a younger woman, whilst in the other direction it is a different issue.

I dont see anything wrong with women dating younger guys.. However, in relation to the author he clearly wants to have kids so people saying that he should get together with an older woman or someone his age are being unrealistic- and asking for van outcome that pleases no one. He needs to work on his statergies to find the one he wants. If he wants a younger woman, of course, it might be more difficult and in that case he has to widen his net. Obviously I dont know him so I cant say more. However, the idea that someone of 32 would be too young — i simply dont buy it. Most guys i know look fine in their 40s. — Women generally are very aware of their clocks so someone in her 30s might be please to find a nice guy who likes her- obviously it depends on many factors..And yes the author could always find someone abroad. Why not. We forget that there are a lot of educagted women in these countries– and very attractive… I live in the UK and most of my friends have married foreign women — Of course that is not a sample of the whole uk.

In my very limited experience the women who really go hard for the younger guys are often those past child bearing years. They just want fun and have given up on the biological clock. — they know that the relationship swith the guy often wont last…..

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