Comments on: Why Don’t Men Like Smart, Strong, Successful Women?

By: ange

ange — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 20:34:48 +0000

The way things are going, in 100 years women will be the leaders of the world
If you don’t believe me, take a look at the young men in their teens to late twenties who are obsessed with a little girls show called My Little Pony, and young Japanese men who’s girlfriends are pillows with anime girls on them.

By: NonExist

NonExist — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:27:43 +0000

The other men I know are not really concerned with how successful a woman is financially nor how smart she is aside from her keeping up with current events and enough culture to be able to enjoy a wide range of entertaiment together.

But the women I know who fit the apect spoken of in the article prefer men who are either socioeconomically, culturally, and in terms of education on their level or at least close but end up with men who are not because the men on their level seem to have this power struggle with them.

Speaking for myself I’ve had a few women like that interested in me after conversation(at work, through associates) but since I’m no longer concerned with conversing about certain things, and since I’m financially stable but not even close to the top echelon, I turned them down back when I was actively dating.

As Amy mentioned, I’m not interesting enough for that type of woman not to get bored. And having lady friends who are like that, they are always saying that many of the men they date they lose interest in because there is not enough substance.

By: amy

amy — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 05:12:17 +0000

Goldie, why are you talking to that man? He obviously isn’t nice.

By: Goldie

Goldie — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 23:45:24 +0000

@ Joe #529, wow talk about a stretch. How do you go from me disagreeing with another commenter who said that no man would want Hillary Clinton, to “you’ll accept a lying cheat if he’s handsome and powerful enough, despite what you’ve said elsewhere on this blog.”

What I’m saying is, the woman is happily married, we don’t know what they did to reconcile and frankly it isn’t any of our business, but the fact remains, they’re still together. The rest is your imagination running wild.

By: Ruby

Ruby — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:13:46 +0000

John #531

You mention that women are looking for qualities like “educated, family oriented, dependable, stable income, generous”, and that for men. it’s just about how hot a woman is, but then you call us far more shallow?

By: john

john — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 19:01:38 +0000

men are far less shallow then women. A woman’s list for her ideal man would be: tall, dark, handsome, rich, educated, family oriented, exciting, spontanious, dependable, stable income, generous, etc….

men judge a woman basically on how hot she is, and if she is not that much of a bitch.

By: amy

amy — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 20:43:48 +0000

Wow. I’d forgotten all about this thread.
It must be a couple of years since I posted. In that time, lots of dating and a suicide. Man who felt himself to be useless. His daughter, I’m sure, would disagree, but it’s too late for that now. I’ve also been fired from a small job for failing to preserve my boss’s good name — while doing professional work, and doing it well, for $25/hr. His flipped-out rage at the loss of face (I’d posted an opinion on something unrelated on a forum, with my sigfile attached) was something I won’t soon forget.
Someone upthread asked me if I really wanted to date. The answer, I can say honestly now, is no. I’m not interested in men’s needs and desperation, particularly as they swim on through middle age. I don’t want to spend time unraveling their lies. I don’t give a rat’s ass about their position in their hierarchies. I don’t want to mother either them or their children. I am myself, not a pillow or a massage chair.
I’m also tired of the game in which a man thinks it’s great to go find a smart woman, and then, when he’s got one (me), he discovers that this is actually a lot of work and kind of scary, because if he can’t keep up, I’ll be bored and lose interest and he’ll feel stupid. “Smart” is not code for “she’ll figure things out for you and make your life easier” or “trophy” – it actually means the woman has a mind and will likely have it turned on all the time. And Chris, who wrote about finding an artist or some such — you know, just because they’re interesting doesn’t mean they won’t expect you to be. A serious artist is working all the time, no mater how poor. If you can’t speak her lingo, she probably won’t be interested in you.
I’m tired, too, and saddened by the fact that so few men really know what they want, what their own work is. I’m a writer, I know what my work is. Is it more important than the man is to me, yes. That’ll always be true. Has nothing to do with money. But I’ve organized my life so as to be able to do the thing I love, and that’s plain to people who meet me. I find men, middle-aged men, are envious of this, and that it makes them feel competitive. I’m not interested in that, either.
So: if there is a sane, exceptionally bright and talented (and I mean way far out there on the right of the bell curve), non-mopey/addicted single man out there who takes care of his body, grownup with his own work that he’d do come hell or high water, who doesn’t have the politics of an 18-year-old, and is not looking to be taken care of or move in with me, yeah, I’d make room for that. Otherwise…I’m sorry, men. I’ve done a lot of shopping. What I’m looking for is not to be found in this here department store.

By: Joe

Joe — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 21:35:03 +0000

@Goldie # 527

I can’t believe you’d call that “not doing too badly”. Wow. You’ll accept anyone then if you’d keep a lying cheat like him! I mean the guy was caught red-handed cheating, more than once, darn-near perjured himself (actually, I think he did perjure himself but Congress voted to not impeach anyway).

So what you’re saying is, you’ll accept a lying cheat if he’s handsome and powerful enough, despite what you’ve said elsewhere on this blog.

Just trying to be clear.

By: Greg

Greg — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 21:04:18 +0000

The Clintons marriage is not ideal. Lying, cheating and allegations of sexual assault are the foundations of a great, loving marriage. Yep!!! on a serious note I don’t think any woman wishes to have that kind of marriage. I also believe that the Clintons would have split a long time ago if they were just a normal couple. However, they probably stayed together because they can accomplish more politically and financially as a team. I would be shocked if they still loved each other and even sleep together. I don’t believe they will ever divorce because their marriage seems more like a business agreement.
By the way most men do not find women like Hillary Clinton to be attractive. She’s too arrogant and combative. I’d rather have dinner with Laura Bush or Michelle Obama. Hillary is my least favorite first lady. I’ve only been alive for Nancy, Barbara, Hillary,Laura and Michelle.

By: Goldie

Goldie — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:09:20 +0000

I had to check Wikipedia because, from Greg and Joe’s posts, looked like I’d missed the news of Bill and Hilary’s breakup. Guess what… they’re still together. So, whatever issues they had, they must’ve worked them out. That qualifies as not doing too badly in my book. If you guys personally aren’t interested in Hilary as a woman, that’s a different story. I’m pretty sure it’s no big deal to her.