Comments on: Why Men Don’t Write to Curvy Women on the Internet http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:00:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Ivan http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-256388 Ivan Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:48:00 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-256388 I do not contact curvy women, reason being even though I just started on this online dating thing I've come to realize that curvy means thicker than what I like and I have perceived this due to the fact that the dates I've been on have been somewhat lies on the woman's part. I do agree about thinking what curvy is to me with some of the comments on here, but seriously if your outline is not an hourglass and its more of a Kool-Aid pitcher, than that does not make you "curvy"...just sayin. I do not contact curvy women, reason being even though I just started on this online dating thing I’ve come to realize that curvy means thicker than what I like and I have perceived this due to the fact that the dates I’ve been on have been somewhat lies on the woman’s part. I do agree about thinking what curvy is to me with some of the comments on here, but seriously if your outline is not an hourglass and its more of a Kool-Aid pitcher, than that does not make you “curvy”…just sayin.

]]> By: Single Mom http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-251515 Single Mom Thu, 26 Jan 2012 00:41:41 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-251515 Regardless, much of this is superficial.  Even thin/athletic people don't always stay that way forever.  It makes me sad to think that a woman (or a man for that matter) can't get sick and gain weight or have a mastectomy or serve his or her country and lose a limb without second guessing their relationship.  It is time out for all of this superficial crap and people need to refocus on what's really important.    Regardless, much of this is superficial.  Even thin/athletic people don’t always stay that way forever.  It makes me sad to think that a woman (or a man for that matter) can’t get sick and gain weight or have a mastectomy or serve his or her country and lose a limb without second guessing their relationship.  It is time out for all of this superficial crap and people need to refocus on what’s really important. 
 

]]> By: E http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-250812 E Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:30:11 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-250812 Oh also I have to add that I think the younger men ages probably in their early 20's to mid to late 20's the college men like the stick slim ladies but then when men graduate from college and start thinking about relationships/marriage I think a lot of men change and go more for the Curvy ladies. Oh also I have to add that I think the younger men ages probably in their early 20′s to mid to late 20′s the college men like the stick slim ladies but then when men graduate from college and start thinking about relationships/marriage I think a lot of men change and go more for the Curvy ladies.

]]> By: E http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-250808 E Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:23:25 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-250808 I love Curvy/hourglass ladies but there are a lot of women now days that think Fat is Curvy and or think Fat as a bad term. Fat is fat plain and simple and Fat is NOT CURVY!! Also like this lady said she described herself " A few extra pounds" that honestly scares a lot of men when they see the words "A few extra pounds" even with a good picture. If women are truely just slightly curvy and not at all FAT they should also put up a full completely updated accurate pic of themselves so we men can completely see. Nothing worse then being deceived and some men are guilty of that as well. But Curvy is super hot and like the lady pictured here she is hot and she is the perfect example of curvy, not fat, but the hourglass figure. Women that are pencil thin are just not that attractive cause they usually have really small boobs. It's totally contrary to women's beliefs that men want these stick completely size 0 to like size 7 women and to a lot of men those stick women are classified as anorexic or the super picky eater women that she only will eat like a rabbit and is super extremely hard to know what exactly those type of women like to eat cause those type of ladies complain a lot lol. Curvy is so sexy but in the right size like size 12 to 14 would be perfect :) (nice but (not to big or small) (nice big boobs are always nice :)) and the waist that goes in just like an hourglass :)!!    I love Curvy/hourglass ladies but there are a lot of women now days that think Fat is Curvy and or think Fat as a bad term. Fat is fat plain and simple and Fat is NOT CURVY!! Also like this lady said she described herself ” A few extra pounds” that honestly scares a lot of men when they see the words “A few extra pounds” even with a good picture. If women are truely just slightly curvy and not at all FAT they should also put up a full completely updated accurate pic of themselves so we men can completely see. Nothing worse then being deceived and some men are guilty of that as well. But Curvy is super hot and like the lady pictured here she is hot and she is the perfect example of curvy, not fat, but the hourglass figure. Women that are pencil thin are just not that attractive cause they usually have really small boobs. It’s totally contrary to women’s beliefs that men want these stick completely size 0 to like size 7 women and to a lot of men those stick women are classified as anorexic or the super picky eater women that she only will eat like a rabbit and is super extremely hard to know what exactly those type of women like to eat cause those type of ladies complain a lot lol. Curvy is so sexy but in the right size like size 12 to 14 would be perfect :) (nice but (not to big or small) (nice big boobs are always nice :) ) and the waist that goes in just like an hourglass :) !!   

]]> By: Iris http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-243987 Iris Wed, 11 Jan 2012 08:59:31 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-243987 I agree with almost everything you have to say Evan, except one thing: "women know that men prefer thin".  I really do not agree with that at all.  Yes, society is obsessed with thin women, athletic bodies, etc etc. but that does not neccesarily mean men PREFER that.  Yes, there are plenty of men out there who would want a slender woman, but there are just as many men who prefer a 'normal' sized woman, curvy woman, etc.   If you personally feel this way about women (which you have every right to do of course) does not mean that that counts for all the men out there, just like my opinion about men would not be an indication of what all other women are thinking.  The media really has brainwashed a lot of people into thinking that thin is the only way to be beautiful and good enough.  Telling Nicci that us women know that men prefer thin is a lie, and I think we both know that. I agree with almost everything you have to say Evan, except one thing: “women know that men prefer thin”.  I really do not agree with that at all.  Yes, society is obsessed with thin women, athletic bodies, etc etc. but that does not neccesarily mean men PREFER that.  Yes, there are plenty of men out there who would want a slender woman, but there are just as many men who prefer a ’normal’ sized woman, curvy woman, etc.   If you personally feel this way about women (which you have every right to do of course) does not mean that that counts for all the men out there, just like my opinion about men would not be an indication of what all other women are thinking.  The media really has brainwashed a lot of people into thinking that thin is the only way to be beautiful and good enough.  Telling Nicci that us women know that men prefer thin is a lie, and I think we both know that.

]]> By: AnonymousWoman http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-205355 AnonymousWoman Mon, 21 Nov 2011 04:09:34 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-205355 Goldie-I was reading up on ladies like Kim Kardashian and Beyonce. They describe themselves as curvy and not thin.  But, the best bet is to show a full body picture of yourself and let others decide. Goldie-I was reading up on ladies like Kim Kardashian and Beyonce. They describe themselves as curvy and not thin.  But, the best bet is to show a full body picture of yourself and let others decide.

]]> By: AnonymousWoman http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-205327 AnonymousWoman Mon, 21 Nov 2011 02:33:55 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-205327 This is true, Nicole. The online world can warp your sense of reality. I've seen dating coaches that also give some of the worst and misognistic advice (not Evan, but others). I came across a blog where a female dating coach was trying to minimize a woman's concerns about a man  forcefully kissing her. What?  If someone disrespects your boundary and makes you uncomfortable, you're supposed to ignore it?   You're absolutely right that there are tons of people in the world that will still fall in love with you and adore you regardless of whether you  look like a Victoria's secret model.   Confidence is far more attractive than perfect looks.  This is true, Nicole. The online world can warp your sense of reality. I’ve seen dating coaches that also give some of the worst and misognistic advice (not Evan, but others). I came across a blog where a female dating coach was trying to minimize a woman’s concerns about a man  forcefully kissing her. What?  If someone disrespects your boundary and makes you uncomfortable, you’re supposed to ignore it?  

You’re absolutely right that there are tons of people in the world that will still fall in love with you and adore you regardless of whether you  look like a Victoria’s secret model.   Confidence is far more attractive than perfect looks. 

]]> By: Nicole http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-205297 Nicole Mon, 21 Nov 2011 01:11:37 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-205297 I wish people would get over themselves. Your paradigm for pulchritude is largely shaped by your own tastes and your culture. So I've noticed that white people love to say that Black and Latino men like heavy women, then in reality, the ideal for Black men at least would be, to quote Cedric the Entertainer, a little woman with a big ass...small waist, flat stomach, and chest size is largely irrelevant. Odds are the "ethnic" man messaging a heavyset non-ethnic woman is doing it b/c of her skin color and in spite of her body type, not because of it. So I'm kind of tired of people hijacking what is considered to the be beauty standard of many people of my race/ethnicity to mean something ugly. I'm quite sure that what a lot of white or Asian men prefer is not what a lot of Black or Latino men prefer. I'm sure they don't really care what you think of their tastes. I don't care if I don't meet your standards. I meet some people's standards. You probably don't meet mine either, and I won't bother to list the physical imperfections that I dislike in men but will point out that while people complain about fat women hijacking curvy (although I've heard white people call women like J.Lo, Kim K., and Beyonce obese), maybe you should complain more about the fat men who also hijack athletic and tones or about average. It goes both ways. But it also is a matter of personal taste, and just because you are too short, bald, old-looking, or badly shaped to me doesn't mean that there isn't someone who thinks you are perfect. I just don't get the irrational level of anger that people have when they think someone's picture doesn't measure up to their personal definitions. If they don't, then move the hell on but stop complaining about it. I mean, should men who are really 5'10 complain that men who are 5'7 or 5'8 "hijack" that number and make it so that no one believes the height of a man shorter than 6 feet tall? The way people gripe you'd swear that no woman over a size 6 and no man under 6 feet tall EVER found love, and yet I see couples who are happy with each other who aren't perfect, or I see people that you'd dismiss as being not worth your time with perfectly attractive partners. But maybe the biggest difference is that those people aren't bitter jerks who think that they should be with Cindy Crawford despite looking like James Gandolfini or vice versa ("hot" man, not "hot" woman). It's the same old thing. I'm so gorgeous and awesome and no one will pick me on line b/c all men/women suck and are liars about what they look like. I wish people would get over themselves. Your paradigm for pulchritude is largely shaped by your own tastes and your culture. So I’ve noticed that white people love to say that Black and Latino men like heavy women, then in reality, the ideal for Black men at least would be, to quote Cedric the Entertainer, a little woman with a big ass…small waist, flat stomach, and chest size is largely irrelevant. Odds are the “ethnic” man messaging a heavyset non-ethnic woman is doing it b/c of her skin color and in spite of her body type, not because of it.
So I’m kind of tired of people hijacking what is considered to the be beauty standard of many people of my race/ethnicity to mean something ugly. I’m quite sure that what a lot of white or Asian men prefer is not what a lot of Black or Latino men prefer. I’m sure they don’t really care what you think of their tastes.
I don’t care if I don’t meet your standards. I meet some people’s standards. You probably don’t meet mine either, and I won’t bother to list the physical imperfections that I dislike in men but will point out that while people complain about fat women hijacking curvy (although I’ve heard white people call women like J.Lo, Kim K., and Beyonce obese), maybe you should complain more about the fat men who also hijack athletic and tones or about average.
It goes both ways.
But it also is a matter of personal taste, and just because you are too short, bald, old-looking, or badly shaped to me doesn’t mean that there isn’t someone who thinks you are perfect.
I just don’t get the irrational level of anger that people have when they think someone’s picture doesn’t measure up to their personal definitions. If they don’t, then move the hell on but stop complaining about it.
I mean, should men who are really 5’10 complain that men who are 5’7 or 5’8 “hijack” that number and make it so that no one believes the height of a man shorter than 6 feet tall?
The way people gripe you’d swear that no woman over a size 6 and no man under 6 feet tall EVER found love, and yet I see couples who are happy with each other who aren’t perfect, or I see people that you’d dismiss as being not worth your time with perfectly attractive partners. But maybe the biggest difference is that those people aren’t bitter jerks who think that they should be with Cindy Crawford despite looking like James Gandolfini or vice versa (“hot” man, not “hot” woman).
It’s the same old thing. I’m so gorgeous and awesome and no one will pick me on line b/c all men/women suck and are liars about what they look like.

]]> By: Goldie http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-205177 Goldie Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:23:39 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-205177 #126, this has got nothing to do with political correctness, and everything to do with people wanting to have a nice-sounding profile. Same way I've seen men put it on their profile that they're "a social drinker", and found out later that, in some cases, it means "I'm sh!tfaced every night and hungover every morning". But hey, they drink with friends, so that's a totally social event! So, no, women aren't the only ones to stretch things a little in order to put themselves in a more favorable light. That's human nature.   I'm in the same position as #129 - when I'm posting my profile online, I'm not comfortable listing myself as "thin", because I'm not really rail-thin, but all other terms seem to have already been hijacked to mean "overweight" and "obese". I listed "fit" when it was one of the options and "thin" where it wasn't, even though in reality, I'm probably kind of curvy in the sense #129 describes it. Very weird. But, oh well, this is life. #126, this has got nothing to do with political correctness, and everything to do with people wanting to have a nice-sounding profile. Same way I’ve seen men put it on their profile that they’re “a social drinker”, and found out later that, in some cases, it means “I’m sh!tfaced every night and hungover every morning”. But hey, they drink with friends, so that’s a totally social event! So, no, women aren’t the only ones to stretch things a little in order to put themselves in a more favorable light. That’s human nature.
 
I’m in the same position as #129 – when I’m posting my profile online, I’m not comfortable listing myself as “thin”, because I’m not really rail-thin, but all other terms seem to have already been hijacked to mean “overweight” and “obese”. I listed “fit” when it was one of the options and “thin” where it wasn’t, even though in reality, I’m probably kind of curvy in the sense #129 describes it. Very weird. But, oh well, this is life.

]]> By: AnonymousWoman http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/comment-page-3/#comment-205157 AnonymousWoman Sun, 20 Nov 2011 16:46:43 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-men-dont-write-to-curvy-women-on-the-internet/#comment-205157 ^Typo, I meant I've been told by other men that I have a nice hourglass physique. ^Typo, I meant I’ve been told by other men that I have a nice hourglass physique.

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