Comments on: Why Reality Sucks, Fantasy Rules, and My Advice May Make You Upset

By: Denver Julie

Denver Julie — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 16:50:06 +0000

I have been following your blog for about a month now and I find that I find my dates seem more interesting, attractive, fun, and (quite honestly) men I would like to get to know better and possibly date long term. So, that’s an improvement and I thank you. Where I’m still struggling is that I’m having a hard time getting out of the starting gate. I can attract men I like and they do take me out once or twice but then they go ghost on me. I wish I knew what I was doing on those first few dates that keep me stuck in the mud.

By: Parker Lee | howtomingle.com

Parker Lee | howtomingle.com — Sun, 27 Jun 2010 00:08:01 +0000

wow. good stuff Evan, I seriously respect your advice. very legit.

By: CoatMan

CoatMan — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 23:11:59 +0000

I’m a tall man who likes curvy/fuller figured women. And still have no luck in dating. Does that confound any of your theories…?

By: starthrower68

starthrower68 — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 00:29:34 +0000

Well I will say it this way: Evan your advice/observations are clear, concise, and I do appreciate how you get to the bottom line of things. I believe it works for people who are really serious and motivated to find the right person.

By: happygirl

happygirl — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 20:37:02 +0000

Evan,

I just wanted to share with you that you have a really great website. All your advice is straightforward makes a lot of sense,

I read your dating advice on a regular basis and I admit that I really feel that I learned a lot from it. I even referred it to a friend who thanked me for it.
Even though I am over 40… I believe you should always be open to learn and willing to make changes in your life. If that change is your outlook on dating, relationships. Why not!

Thank you

By: Sahaja

Sahaja — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 20:23:50 +0000

Well here’s another easy to read response – Way to go, Evan! I love your approach – you are clear, concise, and open about what you think – with out being condescending to women or men. I hate the “how to nab him or her” advice columns that do nothing but put down people. They seem to assume that all women and/ or men are doing the same thing, and that none of us are level headed and can listen to advice, and deem to talk like we are nerdy adolescents. We all make mistakes and sometimes need someone else to point them out. Its like how I never realize ive gained or lost weight until i look at pics of myself- an extra lens can add focus.

By: Janice

Janice — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 02:45:05 +0000

Bravo! Very well said. As Boz Skaggs once sang, “check out your own backyard, before you go checking someone else’s …”

By: Alison

Alison — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 15:04:43 +0000

Evan,

What you say is SOO true. I have come to the same conclusions and observations from my own personal life, discussions with both men and women, and experiences with online dating (and reading profiles). Many do need to change expectations, face themselves fully (with humor would help), and just take a chance. Learning ones own preferences and communicating them, learning how to read cues from others, and developing better judgement leads to more chance for success. Also just plain luck!

Good luck to all, and Evan keep writing!

Alison

By: Alan

Alan — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 13:32:59 +0000

Paraphrased from a Stephen King short story titled “Quitters, Inc.”:

When a romantic tries and fails, he is praised. When a pragmaticist tries and succeeds, he is scorned.

Keep succeeding.

By: tom pandolfo

tom pandolfo — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 20:46:08 +0000

Reality can suck, fantasy occasionally rules, but your article makes sense.