Comments on: Why Would a Younger Woman Want to Date a Much Older Man? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:00:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Lady Helena http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-248931 Lady Helena Thu, 19 Jan 2012 02:36:12 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-248931 I'm 18...and I find myself strangley attracted to guys in their 30's...or late twenties...I just love their charm. they speak well, they move nicely... I like them! People say that It's because of "Daddy issues". Well...My dad hadn't really been around much... that might say a lot... I’m 18…and I find myself strangley attracted to guys in their 30′s…or late twenties…I just love their charm. they speak well, they move nicely… I like them!
People say that It’s because of “Daddy issues”. Well…My dad hadn’t really been around much… that might say a lot…

]]> By: Mike S http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-236234 Mike S Sun, 01 Jan 2012 15:48:05 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-236234 I just turned 49 and I date young women because a couple of factors. 1. Most women in my age are married or they may be single or divorce and with kids and they are just not interested in starting a relationship. I also guess they are dealing with menopause so they withdraw from the dating scene. So that eliminates a good 90% of the women in my age range out of the dating pool. That leaves slim pickings for me. 2. The biggest available pool of single women that I can find is women in their 20s and early 30s. So just by sheer numbers the chances that I can find a match in this age range is much greater. 3. For some unexplainable reason to me it just happens that young women (in their 20s and 30s) are attracted to me. I don’t get it. I do look younger than my age but they want to continue dating even after I tell them my age.   Hey, I find it exciting and fun to date young girls but I also find it a bit embarrassing. This is especially so when I start to meet her friends and even worst when it comes time to meet her parents. My older married guys think it is great and they wish they were in my shoes but it is not that easy.   There have a few of girls that I’ve dated that I really fell in love with. Girls I actually thought that I could marry. But eventually I get in this relationship-destructive pattern of doing age number calculations combined with my desire for her to be happy for a long time. So I eventually end the relationship out my love for her with the hope that she meets someone her age that will make her really happy for a long time.   In the meantime I continue my search for someone close to my age that is available and fun. I suppose I could date Jennifer Anniston. She is available but unfortunately but she is also way out of my league. I just turned 49 and I date young women because a couple of factors.
1. Most women in my age are married or they may be single or divorce and with kids and they are just not interested in starting a relationship. I also guess they are dealing with menopause so they withdraw from the dating scene. So that eliminates a good 90% of the women in my age range out of the dating pool. That leaves slim pickings for me.
2. The biggest available pool of single women that I can find is women in their 20s and early 30s. So just by sheer numbers the chances that I can find a match in this age range is much greater.
3. For some unexplainable reason to me it just happens that young women (in their 20s and 30s) are attracted to me. I don’t get it. I do look younger than my age but they want to continue dating even after I tell them my age.
 
Hey, I find it exciting and fun to date young girls but I also find it a bit embarrassing. This is especially so when I start to meet her friends and even worst when it comes time to meet her parents. My older married guys think it is great and they wish they were in my shoes but it is not that easy.
 
There have a few of girls that I’ve dated that I really fell in love with. Girls I actually thought that I could marry. But eventually I get in this relationship-destructive pattern of doing age number calculations combined with my desire for her to be happy for a long time. So I eventually end the relationship out my love for her with the hope that she meets someone her age that will make her really happy for a long time.
 
In the meantime I continue my search for someone close to my age that is available and fun. I suppose I could date Jennifer Anniston. She is available but unfortunately but she is also way out of my league.

]]> By: hum http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-225423 hum Tue, 20 Dec 2011 20:07:00 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-225423 Im old, almost 40, probably richer than most 40 somethings, certainly much wealthier than when I was 20 or 30, married almost 20 years, I think you get tired of dreading your spouse who constantly berates you, always having to initiate sex or intamacy, recivieing insults daily, So, when a 20 something, who is nice, and pretty and fit, comes along, wh is energetic and positive (about you) they are vry attractive. What do I have to offer, I am not sure, I am considered to be very handsome, but I am not 20 and am not fit, I have money, I travel, I can spend 200 on a meal and not think about it or expect anything in return, I would have no expectations from a 20 something year old just kindness. I don't know about the stage in life thing it would bother me, I had allot of great expereinces with my wife in the 20s and most of the 30's I would want a 20 year old women to be able to enjoy falling in love, and building something together, but sometimes the romantic notion of building something together is just that a struggle, some times its shit, sometimes the age appropriate spouse or older spouse is just an ass. So, maybe as an older + Younger women its just different expereinces, I don't know. I don't think its akin to prostitution, plenty of 20 year old women marry-date 20 year old men who they feel can take care of them, the only difference is the 20 year old with the 40 year old rich guy is a little more attune to financial reality. I am not really sure why I seem to be able to attract women 20-30 but I think being better looking, and richer certainly is relevant, in terms of sexual prowess, I think its silly to assume any 20 year old will be superior to a 40 year old, I was better at 20 than at 40, but the fact is not every 20 year old is physically endowed either in terms of stanima or orther wise. Also women hit thier mid thirties and think it makes them younger to lop off thier hair, short hair rarley looks good on any women, it might make you look younger just younger and ugly. Im old, almost 40, probably richer than most 40 somethings, certainly much wealthier than when I was 20 or 30, married almost 20 years, I think you get tired of dreading your spouse who constantly berates you, always having to initiate sex or intamacy, recivieing insults daily, So, when a 20 something, who is nice, and pretty and fit, comes along, wh is energetic and positive (about you) they are vry attractive. What do I have to offer, I am not sure, I am considered to be very handsome, but I am not 20 and am not fit, I have money, I travel, I can spend 200 on a meal and not think about it or expect anything in return, I would have no expectations from a 20 something year old just kindness. I don’t know about the stage in life thing it would bother me, I had allot of great expereinces with my wife in the 20s and most of the 30′s I would want a 20 year old women to be able to enjoy falling in love, and building something together, but sometimes the romantic notion of building something together is just that a struggle, some times its shit, sometimes the age appropriate spouse or older spouse is just an ass. So, maybe as an older + Younger women its just different expereinces, I don’t know. I don’t think its akin to prostitution, plenty of 20 year old women marry-date 20 year old men who they feel can take care of them, the only difference is the 20 year old with the 40 year old rich guy is a little more attune to financial reality. I am not really sure why I seem to be able to attract women 20-30 but I think being better looking, and richer certainly is relevant, in terms of sexual prowess, I think its silly to assume any 20 year old will be superior to a 40 year old, I was better at 20 than at 40, but the fact is not every 20 year old is physically endowed either in terms of stanima or orther wise. Also women hit thier mid thirties and think it makes them younger to lop off thier hair, short hair rarley looks good on any women, it might make you look younger just younger and ugly.

]]> By: Colin http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-221528 Colin Fri, 16 Dec 2011 21:13:47 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-221528 Very small-minded article and (for the most part) posts on this.  I am a divorced 43 year old man currently dating a 26 year old woman.  It is the best relationship I have had in my entire life and she feels the same way. I am a professional, but by no means rich.  She is a professional too.  She makes less money than me but not by a huge margin.  Perhaps there are some exceptions to our relationship, in that I am very very youthful for my age physically.  I am in perfect health and as virile as I ever was.  I do not have children neither. Having said all this, I will tell all of you naysayers why a relationship like this can and does work.  A man of my age and wisdom simply knows how to appreciate a young lady.  25, 30, 35 year old men either do not, or often (usually) go the opposite direction and give a woman way too much control.  I don't care how much money or testosterone a 30 year old man has--he simply cannot compete with me.  I understand woman 10 times better.  I am older, wiser, more focused on my life and my woman.  I also know how to be in control, without being controlling.  At 43, I am all MAN and all the BOY is long gone.  The article makes conventient use of stereotyping.  What about character?  A young woman wants me, and so she has "Daddy issues"?  What about the possibility that I am exceptional, and that time has made me wiser, gentler, and even more exceptional and even attractive?          Very small-minded article and (for the most part) posts on this.  I am a divorced 43 year old man currently dating a 26 year old woman.  It is the best relationship I have had in my entire life and she feels the same way.

I am a professional, but by no means rich.  She is a professional too.  She makes less money than me but not by a huge margin.  Perhaps there are some exceptions to our relationship, in that I am very very youthful for my age physically.  I am in perfect health and as virile as I ever was.  I do not have children neither.

Having said all this, I will tell all of you naysayers why a relationship like this can and does work.  A man of my age and wisdom simply knows how to appreciate a young lady.  25, 30, 35 year old men either do not, or often (usually) go the opposite direction and give a woman way too much control.  I don’t care how much money or testosterone a 30 year old man has–he simply cannot compete with me.  I understand woman 10 times better.  I am older, wiser, more focused on my life and my woman.  I also know how to be in control, without being controlling.  At 43, I am all MAN and all the BOY is long gone. 

The article makes conventient use of stereotyping.  What about character?  A young woman wants me, and so she has “Daddy issues”?  What about the possibility that I am exceptional, and that time has made me wiser, gentler, and even more exceptional and even attractive?         

]]> By: whatthelol http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-210354 whatthelol Thu, 01 Dec 2011 02:57:38 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-210354 I didn't have the time to read thru all the posts here but I will throw my hat in the ring so to speak. I think Vino made some comment abt. prostitution..? Ummm yeah!? Truth is ppl have forgotten how to be who "they are" and be comfortable within themselves without someone else telling them what to think. Whomever dates whomever older guy younger woman/older woman younger guy, If your looking at the money, and if that is on either end then you just answered allot of questions about yourself, and who you are as a person didn't you?! That's called introspection, and motivaters regarding inner personal relationships with eachother. My dad met my mother in 1952 on a crap job both of them hated. They're was no expection of anything "grand" just that they cared and loved eachother. Going out was a treat, they'd split a burger and fries and thought it was the most important time of they're exsistance together because it "wasn"t about where", but whom they were with. Money or status should never be 1st with anyone dating ANYONE regardless of age. Psyco babble aside, Oh she wants a daddy, oh he wants a mommy etc. No one should ever go into a relationship looking at financials. (setting criminals aside here! Don't Be STUPID for God sake!) If you can't manage you're own financial situation then you shouldn't be looking at someone else to do that for you should you?! I relize thats an older hard line position, but untill you have a goal for yourself, <strong>"without the imput of media" Telling you what that is or should be? </strong>then you're allways going to be the one trying to keep up with the Jone's! They have this so I need that one better! it's retarted thinking and clearly shows a lack of thought, and ones own identity in the spectrum of life. <strong>No one "owns" anyone!</strong> And NO ONE is Promised Tomorrow! if a person brings Joy, contentment, and fulfillment into your life embrace it for as long as you have it... (that's on both ends of the spectrum) But <strong>NEVER</strong> build a wall around anyone. It was free and easy when you met, and the parting should be just the same. weather you ride it all out together, or weather you part as you grow in seperate ways... WHO's the judge of any of it? Everyone allways looking at the picture but never seeing the trees. From experiece? yeah I dated a girl much younger, in retrospect even I didn't know what I wanted in a relationship, I thought I wanted marrage, and children, I was 31 she was 18... We were both just caught up! I learned allot about myself as did she. and we're still friends, and still remember the wonderful times we had together. We wrote a chapter in the scrapbook of our exsistance in this world together. Some wonderful, some bittersweet... But it was worth it all if only for the memory's and the finding of ourselves without any drama or bitterness. It was just a chapter in this strange and wonderful sometimes painful thing called life. So I can't make a judgement call on others, nor do I want too. I believe that every stage we all have to account for... For our OWN motives weather selfish, or noble. So judge yourselves on the issue... I didn’t have the time to read thru all the posts here but I will throw my hat in the ring so to speak. I think Vino made some comment abt. prostitution..?
Ummm yeah!? Truth is ppl have forgotten how to be who “they are” and be comfortable within themselves without someone else telling them what to think. Whomever dates whomever older guy younger woman/older woman younger guy, If your looking at the money, and if that is on either end then you just answered allot of questions about yourself, and who you are as a person didn’t you?! That’s called introspection, and motivaters regarding inner personal relationships with eachother.
My dad met my mother in 1952 on a crap job both of them hated. They’re was no expection of anything “grand” just that they cared and loved eachother. Going out was a treat, they’d split a burger and fries and thought it was the most important time of they’re exsistance together because it “wasn”t about where”, but whom they were with.

Money or status should never be 1st with anyone dating ANYONE regardless of age. Psyco babble aside, Oh she wants a daddy, oh he wants a mommy etc. No one should ever go into a relationship looking at financials. (setting criminals aside here! Don’t Be STUPID for God sake!) If you can’t manage you’re own financial situation then you shouldn’t be looking at someone else to do that for you should you?!

I relize thats an older hard line position, but untill you have a goal for yourself, “without the imput of media” Telling you what that is or should be? then you’re allways going to be the one trying to keep up with the Jone’s! They have this so I need that one better! it’s retarted thinking and clearly shows a lack of thought, and ones own identity in the spectrum of life.

No one “owns” anyone! And NO ONE is Promised Tomorrow! if a person brings Joy, contentment, and fulfillment into your life embrace it for as long as you have it… (that’s on both ends of the spectrum) But NEVER build a wall around anyone. It was free and easy when you met, and the parting should be just the same. weather you ride it all out together, or weather you part as you grow in seperate ways… WHO’s the judge of any of it?

Everyone allways looking at the picture but never seeing the trees. From experiece? yeah I dated a girl much younger, in retrospect even I didn’t know what I wanted in a relationship, I thought I wanted marrage, and children, I was 31 she was 18… We were both just caught up! I learned allot about myself as did she. and we’re still friends, and still remember the wonderful times we had together.

We wrote a chapter in the scrapbook of our exsistance in this world together. Some wonderful, some bittersweet… But it was worth it all if only for the memory’s and the finding of ourselves without any drama or bitterness. It was just a chapter in this strange and wonderful sometimes painful thing called life. So I can’t make a judgement call on others, nor do I want too. I believe that every stage we all have to account for… For our OWN motives weather selfish, or noble.

So judge yourselves on the issue…

]]> By: igetit http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-205851 igetit Tue, 22 Nov 2011 04:19:04 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-205851 I get it.  The truth is that if you want to have an intelligent conversation without the ego and jobtalk, you can usually find it with an older man. The older man has usually learned a thing or two about acceptance and would like someone who makes him feel young but at the same time, someone with whom he can discuss things. A younger woman (one who is NOT interested in money, career, power, etc) may crave an older man because the men her age are SO into appearance, social climbing, and greed that they don't care to find someone who can talk--just someone who can show up, look good, produce beautiful children, pass the family sniff test, and shut up until called on.  A younger man often finds his worth in the ability to have a "wife-in-waiting" with nothing to do but spend her time in the salon and in the gym with her $200 workout clothes. An older man usually finds that crap ridiculous and if they are attracted to, intrigued by, humored and humbled by a woman (no matter the age), find that awesome.  Women would like fun, intimacy, to be taken seriously, to have their humor appreciated, to have someone attracted to them without their appearance being everything--a woman who doesn't care about status or the opinions of family and friends and just spends time with people she enjoys--that is someone who could fall in love with a MUCH older man I get it.  The truth is that if you want to have an intelligent conversation without the ego and jobtalk, you can usually find it with an older man.

The older man has usually learned a thing or two about acceptance and would like someone who makes him feel young but at the same time, someone with whom he can discuss things.

A younger woman (one who is NOT interested in money, career, power, etc) may crave an older man because the men her age are SO into appearance, social climbing, and greed that they don’t care to find someone who can talk–just someone who can show up, look good, produce beautiful children, pass the family sniff test, and shut up until called on.  A younger man often finds his worth in the ability to have a “wife-in-waiting” with nothing to do but spend her time in the salon and in the gym with her $200 workout clothes.

An older man usually finds that crap ridiculous and if they are attracted to, intrigued by, humored and humbled by a woman (no matter the age), find that awesome. 

Women would like fun, intimacy, to be taken seriously, to have their humor appreciated, to have someone attracted to them without their appearance being everything–a woman who doesn’t care about status or the opinions of family and friends and just spends time with people she enjoys–that is someone who could fall in love with a MUCH older man

]]> By: Ganzoo http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-202762 Ganzoo Wed, 16 Nov 2011 16:06:26 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-202762 If any of you were to take the time to read some evolutionary biology, or study the behavior of other primates, none of this would be a mystery at all. Almost all males of other species are attracted to younger healthy females, almost all females of other species are attracted to powerful, generally older males. It's just nature.   If any of you were to take the time to read some evolutionary biology, or study the behavior of other primates, none of this would be a mystery at all. Almost all males of other species are attracted to younger healthy females, almost all females of other species are attracted to powerful, generally older males. It’s just nature.

 

]]> By: Beautasia http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-194999 Beautasia Mon, 31 Oct 2011 05:43:42 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-194999 I can speak on my experiences honestly, I am seriously in love with a guy 13 years older than me,I am 23 and he is 36,although our relationship has not gotten really serious yet(we are still both youthful and not completely ready to settle down togehter yet, eventhough the feelings are still there,and we still have a special bond and a love for each other) to me the thirties are not that old. 40's and up is considered old to me. I have messed with a few "old" dudes and I don't normally go for older guys, but I realized that the few I did mess with had some kind of appeal to because they had their owns ways of being "youthful" whether it was how they looked, their sense of humor, if they liked to party and have fun etc. I'm a very intelligent girl, which is sometimes seen as "mature" since people tend to equate being young with being dumb, but I'm a very youthful chick, I still act and think like a young person does, and I love to have fun and joke around alot. I'm such a flirt and I have come in contact with alot of different guys, I have talked to old and young, there are some mature good young guys out there my age too. I do think there are some girls out there hwo have old souls, in my opinion they are a minority compared to the majority of young girls who think old men are creepy. Just the same as there are some men out there who like"morbidly obese fat women" but compared to the majority of guys that don't; there are not that many, so I agree that it is more old men seeking younger women than it is younger women seeking older men. Fast forward to now I am currently talking to two "old" men  one is a 53 year old firefighter with the perfect muscular body, he does not look a day over 35,no wrinkles or anything, he looks so damn handsome for his age that I must admit that I keep forgetting that he's that old, he's my exception eventhough I dont like guys in their 40's.. and the other one is 47 but he looks 65 (talk about aging really badly), he's my business partner, he's teaching me what I need to know for the business that I'm just getting started in; which is one he knows the ins and outs to; which is great to me because I want to develop my career and make good money and I am quickly approaching the stage where my life is just starting; because basically I have not had a real life, not the life that I desire.. The issue with him is that he's strongly attracted to me and I am not attracted to him at all, but he won't stop being sexual with me because that's how he feels around me, and I recently found out that he has played games with young girls my age to get them to have sex wit him, he did try to play a game on me, but I don't fall for games because I talk to so many men; so I'm always 10 steps ahead of him, and that's when I realized that this particular guy targets young women so he can play games and feel in control. So I cannot trust him at all. He seems to have a desperation, like he needs a strong connection with a woman, and since he's divorced he seems to be looking for that in young girls (since he told me he thinks of me as a girlfriend, which doesn't sound right since he acts really insecure around me, like he's questioning me if I look at a guy and telling me that he can't take me where a business meeting is because "there's too many guys over there; that stuff pisses me off because in my mind in still single and I know in my heart that I don't love him and that I cannot give him the love and committment that he wants,I've already told him that and he knew I was serious because he stopped answering my calls for awhile then he got upset when I stopped calling him) so I think he needs to be looking for the connection that he needs in an older woman; since there's nothing youthful about him for him to be able to connect or relate to with a young chick like myself, and he's aging super fast and the way he's aging is making him look unattractive .(Like it or not looks are very important especially to young people).. So when it all boils down to it, the only reason I am still talking to him is because I still need his help, knowledge, and expertise in order to succeed and make good money in the business that I am just getting into, and I realize that I may have to have sex with him because he can't seem to take no for an answer without forcing himself on me, the bottom line is Im just using him and it sounds harsh but it's really not because he has lied to, played games with and hurt a lot of young girls my age just for his own sexual pleasure. But now he's met his match, because he can't play those same games on me that he does on them... I can speak on my experiences honestly, I am seriously in love with a guy 13 years older than me,I am 23 and he is 36,although our relationship has not gotten really serious yet(we are still both youthful and not completely ready to settle down togehter yet, eventhough the feelings are still there,and we still have a special bond and a love for each other) to me the thirties are not that old. 40′s and up is considered old to me. I have messed with a few “old” dudes and I don’t normally go for older guys, but I realized that the few I did mess with had some kind of appeal to because they had their owns ways of being “youthful” whether it was how they looked, their sense of humor, if they liked to party and have fun etc. I’m a very intelligent girl, which is sometimes seen as “mature” since people tend to equate being young with being dumb, but I’m a very youthful chick, I still act and think like a young person does, and I love to have fun and joke around alot. I’m such a flirt and I have come in contact with alot of different guys, I have talked to old and young, there are some mature good young guys out there my age too. I do think there are some girls out there hwo have old souls, in my opinion they are a minority compared to the majority of young girls who think old men are creepy. Just the same as there are some men out there who like”morbidly obese fat women” but compared to the majority of guys that don’t; there are not that many, so I agree that it is more old men seeking younger women than it is younger women seeking older men. Fast forward to now I am currently talking to two “old” men  one is a 53 year old firefighter with the perfect muscular body, he does not look a day over 35,no wrinkles or anything, he looks so damn handsome for his age that I must admit that I keep forgetting that he’s that old, he’s my exception eventhough I dont like guys in their 40′s.. and the other one is 47 but he looks 65 (talk about aging really badly), he’s my business partner, he’s teaching me what I need to know for the business that I’m just getting started in; which is one he knows the ins and outs to; which is great to me because I want to develop my career and make good money and I am quickly approaching the stage where my life is just starting; because basically I have not had a real life, not the life that I desire.. The issue with him is that he’s strongly attracted to me and I am not attracted to him at all, but he won’t stop being sexual with me because that’s how he feels around me, and I recently found out that he has played games with young girls my age to get them to have sex wit him, he did try to play a game on me, but I don’t fall for games because I talk to so many men; so I’m always 10 steps ahead of him, and that’s when I realized that this particular guy targets young women so he can play games and feel in control. So I cannot trust him at all. He seems to have a desperation, like he needs a strong connection with a woman, and since he’s divorced he seems to be looking for that in young girls (since he told me he thinks of me as a girlfriend, which doesn’t sound right since he acts really insecure around me, like he’s questioning me if I look at a guy and telling me that he can’t take me where a business meeting is because “there’s too many guys over there; that stuff pisses me off because in my mind in still single and I know in my heart that I don’t love him and that I cannot give him the love and committment that he wants,I’ve already told him that and he knew I was serious because he stopped answering my calls for awhile then he got upset when I stopped calling him) so I think he needs to be looking for the connection that he needs in an older woman; since there’s nothing youthful about him for him to be able to connect or relate to with a young chick like myself, and he’s aging super fast and the way he’s aging is making him look unattractive .(Like it or not looks are very important especially to young people).. So when it all boils down to it, the only reason I am still talking to him is because I still need his help, knowledge, and expertise in order to succeed and make good money in the business that I am just getting into, and I realize that I may have to have sex with him because he can’t seem to take no for an answer without forcing himself on me, the bottom line is Im just using him and it sounds harsh but it’s really not because he has lied to, played games with and hurt a lot of young girls my age just for his own sexual pleasure. But now he’s met his match, because he can’t play those same games on me that he does on them…

]]> By: anon http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-193288 anon Wed, 26 Oct 2011 13:20:18 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-193288 I'm in love with a guy who is 16 years older. It just happened. Apart from him, I would not date a much older guy. If I were on a dating site I would automatically rule out all guys more than 5 years older than me. All my ex boyfriends were about the same age as me. This guy I love is not rich, just comfortably employed. I would love him even if he were broke; I would support him. He's an amazing person to me, we have amazing chemistry and have known each other for a long time. I do worry what will happen further down the track, with the big age difference. But the heart wants what it wants, I can't change it. I’m in love with a guy who is 16 years older. It just happened. Apart from him, I would not date a much older guy. If I were on a dating site I would automatically rule out all guys more than 5 years older than me. All my ex boyfriends were about the same age as me. This guy I love is not rich, just comfortably employed. I would love him even if he were broke; I would support him. He’s an amazing person to me, we have amazing chemistry and have known each other for a long time. I do worry what will happen further down the track, with the big age difference. But the heart wants what it wants, I can’t change it.

]]> By: Vicki http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/comment-page-3/#comment-183007 Vicki Sun, 25 Sep 2011 13:19:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/why-would-a-younger-woman-want-to-date-a-much-older-man/#comment-183007 I think younger women are attracted to older men for the same reasons any women are attracted to any men: it fulfills some aspect of whatever dating script they're operating on.   If you have low self-esteem, and you seek outside yourself for approval and admiration, and an older guy will supply it (in many but not all cases). If you're saddled with huge student loans and you want a sugar daddy to help you out, then there's certainly a financial incentive to date an older man, although it's probably harder to find a financially stable older guy since the financial crisis. A lot of baby boomers are really struggling, with underwater mortgages, etc, so the financial incentive is more fantasy than reality these days.   I think optimally, if you and your man are basically at a similar level of maturity (some people mature faster than others, and there are plenty of 25 year old "old souls" as well as 40 year old "babies"), you'll click because you have a similar view of the world, regardless of your age gap. Also, your parents, and your birth order, have something to do with this. If there is a big age gap with your parents' marriage, you might be attracted to that situation in your own life as well. If you are the youngest and you have much older brothers, you are probably well socialized into their cohort, and you might relate better to guys their age than to guys your own age.   I have a lot of female friends in their 40s and 50s. Those with younger brothers, especially firstborn girls with younger brothers, seem to be a lot more comfortable dating younger guys. The ones who have married younger guys seem to pick guys 2 to 4 years younger on average. I don't see a lot of big 10 year age gaps in my own social circle. I still think the giant age gap relationships are sort of rare, at least in the South/Midwest, where I live. I think younger women are attracted to older men for the same reasons any women are attracted to any men: it fulfills some aspect of whatever dating script they’re operating on.
 
If you have low self-esteem, and you seek outside yourself for approval and admiration, and an older guy will supply it (in many but not all cases). If you’re saddled with huge student loans and you want a sugar daddy to help you out, then there’s certainly a financial incentive to date an older man, although it’s probably harder to find a financially stable older guy since the financial crisis. A lot of baby boomers are really struggling, with underwater mortgages, etc, so the financial incentive is more fantasy than reality these days.
 
I think optimally, if you and your man are basically at a similar level of maturity (some people mature faster than others, and there are plenty of 25 year old “old souls” as well as 40 year old “babies”), you’ll click because you have a similar view of the world, regardless of your age gap.

Also, your parents, and your birth order, have something to do with this. If there is a big age gap with your parents’ marriage, you might be attracted to that situation in your own life as well. If you are the youngest and you have much older brothers, you are probably well socialized into their cohort, and you might relate better to guys their age than to guys your own age.
 
I have a lot of female friends in their 40s and 50s. Those with younger brothers, especially firstborn girls with younger brothers, seem to be a lot more comfortable dating younger guys. The ones who have married younger guys seem to pick guys 2 to 4 years younger on average. I don’t see a lot of big 10 year age gaps in my own social circle. I still think the giant age gap relationships are sort of rare, at least in the South/Midwest, where I live.

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