Comments on: Women Are Racist http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:43:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: jj http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-243054 jj Mon, 09 Jan 2012 20:09:50 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-243054 This is for the woman who wanted tips on dating an Asian guy.  The quick way is to have a business card and give it to the guy.  Don't worry about flirting - a lot of Asian guys are not into the public flirting thing so much; one-on-one is easier.  Talk on the phone, email, and chat online.  Don't give it up on the first date - you have to get him to call you and ask you out a couple times. About marriage - if you're looking for a relationship, find out how he feels about the interracial relationship.  Maybe it depends on the city or race or social circle, but a lot of guys are totally cool with it.  Some are not.  Of the American born on the West Coast, I'd say that around half are going to be married interracially, and of the Asian-Asian pairings, a little more than half will be inter-ethnic or inter-religion.  (In other words, maybe 1/4 of the guys will find someone within their ethnic community... and that's mostly going to be 2nd generation guys who live in or near ethnic centers like SF or LA.) If you spot a dude who is hanging in an inter-ethnic or inter-racial crowd, you're so in, it's ridiculous. This is for the woman who wanted tips on dating an Asian guy.  The quick way is to have a business card and give it to the guy.  Don’t worry about flirting – a lot of Asian guys are not into the public flirting thing so much; one-on-one is easier.  Talk on the phone, email, and chat online.  Don’t give it up on the first date – you have to get him to call you and ask you out a couple times.
About marriage – if you’re looking for a relationship, find out how he feels about the interracial relationship.  Maybe it depends on the city or race or social circle, but a lot of guys are totally cool with it.  Some are not.  Of the American born on the West Coast, I’d say that around half are going to be married interracially, and of the Asian-Asian pairings, a little more than half will be inter-ethnic or inter-religion.  (In other words, maybe 1/4 of the guys will find someone within their ethnic community… and that’s mostly going to be 2nd generation guys who live in or near ethnic centers like SF or LA.)
If you spot a dude who is hanging in an inter-ethnic or inter-racial crowd, you’re so in, it’s ridiculous.

]]> By: ATLdude http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-237852 ATLdude Tue, 03 Jan 2012 05:50:41 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-237852 i myself is black and i live in atlanta georgia. I have a child by a white women i dated alot of white women and black women throughout my life... But one thing i have to say and i would say im not an ugly guy! Im about 5'11 215 i have an athletic build with a little tummy.... I attend georgia state university study accounting and i graduate next semester and i also play football! At my school there are id say about 20% asian, 30% indian 10% Latino, 40% of the rest... But i never see indian women with blackmen or asian women with blackmen or even latino women with blackmen! All i know is i bring something to the table but never can i get any of these women! So you tell me if its not racist can someone please tell me where i can find the women of these ethnicities who date blackmen! O and also middle eastern women! i myself is black and i live in atlanta georgia. I have a child by a white women i dated alot of white women and black women throughout my life… But one thing i have to say and i would say im not an ugly guy! Im about 5’11 215 i have an athletic build with a little tummy…. I attend georgia state university study accounting and i graduate next semester and i also play football! At my school there are id say about 20% asian, 30% indian 10% Latino, 40% of the rest… But i never see indian women with blackmen or asian women with blackmen or even latino women with blackmen! All i know is i bring something to the table but never can i get any of these women! So you tell me if its not racist can someone please tell me where i can find the women of these ethnicities who date blackmen! O and also middle eastern women!

]]> By: Sayanta http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-229572 Sayanta Sat, 24 Dec 2011 18:40:43 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-229572 Noname- Huh??? Most Asian men (and women) I've met almost exclusively like whites!  Noname-

Huh??? Most Asian men (and women) I’ve met almost exclusively like whites! 

]]> By: noname http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-229536 noname Sat, 24 Dec 2011 17:42:11 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-229536 I'm a white female, and I'm into foreign men pretty much exclusively. It's not so much what race you are, it's if they're not from Canada. I love Nordic, Irish, Jamaican, Korean, Australia, anywhere! However, Asians hold a special place in my heart. Japanese and Korean men are the greatest. Especially Koreans. Unfortunately... it's hard to find Asian guys who like white girls. lol =(   I’m a white female, and I’m into foreign men pretty much exclusively. It’s not so much what race you are, it’s if they’re not from Canada. I love Nordic, Irish, Jamaican, Korean, Australia, anywhere!

However, Asians hold a special place in my heart. Japanese and Korean men are the greatest. Especially Koreans. Unfortunately… it’s hard to find Asian guys who like white girls. lol =(  

]]> By: L http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-197824 L Sun, 06 Nov 2011 04:35:47 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-197824 Women discriminate more than men because of child bearing.  Usually, the females are the ones that choose the mate (women like to be desired) while the males choose to mate with any females (men just can't get enough). Women discriminate more than men because of child bearing.  Usually, the females are the ones that choose the mate (women like to be desired) while the males choose to mate with any females (men just can’t get enough).

]]> By: Anne http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-176294 Anne Tue, 30 Aug 2011 12:36:38 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-176294 I think everyone should have their own PREFERENCES. I don't mind interracial couples. In fact, my parents are an interracial couple BUT I can't help but be physically attracted to a certain "type" or even a certain "race" which I happen to be 75% of because of my own family background and growing up during the 80s when I saw mostly Caucasians in the media and even in my neighborhood. In fact, I even read in Scientific American... an article about how people normally talk/hang out etc. with those that are "similar" to themselves (i.e. gender, race, size, apparel or just Anything that would make two people find themselves "similar" to each other or Something to that effect.) It's true, I do see "mixed race" groups of people hang out, date etc but (at least in my town) I still Normally* see those of the same/similar race date/hang out etc. In my opinion, people should date who they are attracted to, and not because they are dating someone that makes them look more politically correct. I also want to point out Lesbians (for example) supposedly can't help but be attracted to only women no matter how hard they could attempt to be straight, they can't force themselves to be attracted to someone they aren't into. I believe it's the same with race. If a person isn't attracted to a white person or a "little person" for example... they can't just switch off what they aren't attracted to  so they please the rest of society. Attraction doesn't work that way. Just my opinion. I think everyone should have their own PREFERENCES. I don’t mind interracial couples. In fact, my parents are an interracial couple BUT I can’t help but be physically attracted to a certain “type” or even a certain “race” which I happen to be 75% of because of my own family background and growing up during the 80s when I saw mostly Caucasians in the media and even in my neighborhood. In fact, I even read in Scientific American… an article about how people normally talk/hang out etc. with those that are “similar” to themselves (i.e. gender, race, size, apparel or just Anything that would make two people find themselves “similar” to each other or Something to that effect.) It’s true, I do see “mixed race” groups of people hang out, date etc but (at least in my town) I still Normally* see those of the same/similar race date/hang out etc. In my opinion, people should date who they are attracted to, and not because they are dating someone that makes them look more politically correct. I also want to point out Lesbians (for example) supposedly can’t help but be attracted to only women no matter how hard they could attempt to be straight, they can’t force themselves to be attracted to someone they aren’t into. I believe it’s the same with race. If a person isn’t attracted to a white person or a “little person” for example… they can’t just switch off what they aren’t attracted to  so they please the rest of society. Attraction doesn’t work that way. Just my opinion.

]]> By: OBSERFUSE http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-176084 OBSERFUSE Mon, 29 Aug 2011 17:40:50 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-176084 Hi, your posting is very invaluable for me. I will, no doubt continue to keep a close eye on your web site. Please do update. Hi, your posting is very invaluable for me. I will, no doubt continue to keep a close eye on your web site. Please do update.

]]> By: Some Things are Obvious http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-164862 Some Things are Obvious Mon, 11 Jul 2011 17:40:12 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-164862 It's a simple answer why males seem more open to dating interracially, especially white males. To White males "interracial dating" only means "Interracial f*cking". They look at dating (when it comes to other races, in particular) as an opportunity to have a different variety of sexual conquest. However, women date with a long-term mindset. They date in expectation of finding 'the one'. So black women, having dealt with the racism in this society for centuries, know that it's going to be difficult to come home after dealing with racism in the outside world and have a man who can relate to the experience (on the victimized side of the coin) on a personal level. It’s a simple answer why males seem more open to dating interracially, especially white males. To White males “interracial dating” only means “Interracial f*cking”. They look at dating (when it comes to other races, in particular) as an opportunity to have a different variety of sexual conquest. However, women date with a long-term mindset. They date in expectation of finding ‘the one’. So black women, having dealt with the racism in this society for centuries, know that it’s going to be difficult to come home after dealing with racism in the outside world and have a man who can relate to the experience (on the victimized side of the coin) on a personal level.

]]> By: Ed http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-145985 Ed Mon, 21 Mar 2011 05:21:55 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-145985 <cite>@valmont Let's get one thing straight racism is not just about hate. It's can be about bias and preference. A person who is truly not racist is someone who has the ability to love and fall in love with someone regardless of their race. Having a racial preference is unfortunately a part of being american. It may not be about hanging someone or kicking someone off the bus but it's still racist. We should be striving to be more open to viewing all races as attractive rather than accepting that we supposedly have preferences that we have no control over.  As for Asian women, well they take internalized racism to amazing levels. I feel sorry for the Asian community. </cite> <em> </em><em></em> @valmont Let’s get one thing straight racism is not just about hate. It’s can be about bias and preference. A person who is truly not racist is someone who has the ability to love and fall in love with someone regardless of their race.

Having a racial preference is unfortunately a part of being american. It may not be about hanging someone or kicking someone off the bus but it’s still racist. We should be striving to be more open to viewing all races as attractive rather than accepting that we supposedly have preferences that we have no control over. 

As for Asian women, well they take internalized racism to amazing levels. I feel sorry for the Asian community.

]]> By: Cindy http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/women-are-racist/comment-page-2/#comment-143239 Cindy Fri, 04 Mar 2011 09:14:53 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/women-are-racist/#comment-143239 I don't think these stats are altogether true. I think they are skewed by only representing the type of people prone to internet dating and leave out a good number of people who rely way more on their networks in the real world than those online. For example, I am a white American female of European descent from NYC and I've dated across the spectrum, and you know what, I LOVE Asian men the best!  My boyfriend, who I met in grad school, is from China (foreign student) and I think he's one of the most awesome guys ever. He is 5'6" by the way and I like that too. I am 5"4' so consider him to be the perfect height for me. I guess just looking at me though, one wouldn't peg him as my type. He surely didn't! Had a mutual friend not confided in me that my boyfriend initially assumed by default I would never be interested, (i.e. had written off the possibility), and so if I wanted to turn the tide so to speak, I would have to be <em>really, painfully</em> obvious, (and oy vey I'm flirt-shy by nature), in my flirting with him, which worked! Otherwise I would have assumed he was just not interested in me and/or that he only liked Asian women, and given up. It would have never occurred to me that he would assume because I was white, though I might be friendly I would never be interested in him in <em>that way</em>. I mean in my circle of friends, about 65% of the interracial marriages are between AM/WF - that's eight couples out of 12 for you. (The other four couples are: white husband/black wife, WASP husband/Middle Eastern wife, Jewish husband/Latina wife and East Indian Gujarati husband/white wife (technically AM/WF)).  These 12 couples all met through friends, work, travels or at school but none online. Actually most of the people I know who are in interracial relationships met in the real world and the vast majority of these couples are either married or together for many years. I can't think of one interracial couple who met online. Now my friends who went for online dating however, ended up with someone from their own race ironically enough. @Jink - I went to a high school in NJ, near NYC, that was 95% Hispanic in population, and many of my Latina classmates positively drooled over Asian men (well mostly Filipino or Hapa to be precise) but had the hardest time getting their attention (such as at interscholastic sporting events). They flirted to no avail or were too shy. Many of these girls went to the same University as me and would always wistfully look at the Asian guys from a distance as a result. Seems to me there might be some wires crossed here, since I know a lot of Latina women in the NYC area more than happy to date an Asian guy. I think they just don't know how to approach them since typical flirting has failed them in the past or they feel that Asian men prefer Asian women exclusively. And I see many more AM/WF couples in NYC (at the very least one couple every time I am there), mostly around Korea Town and typical date spots in Midtown or the West Village. I don’t think these stats are altogether true. I think they are skewed by only representing the type of people prone to internet dating and leave out a good number of people who rely way more on their networks in the real world than those online.
For example, I am a white American female of European descent from NYC and I’ve dated across the spectrum, and you know what, I LOVE Asian men the best!  My boyfriend, who I met in grad school, is from China (foreign student) and I think he’s one of the most awesome guys ever. He is 5’6″ by the way and I like that too. I am 5″4′ so consider him to be the perfect height for me. I guess just looking at me though, one wouldn’t peg him as my type. He surely didn’t! Had a mutual friend not confided in me that my boyfriend initially assumed by default I would never be interested, (i.e. had written off the possibility), and so if I wanted to turn the tide so to speak, I would have to be really, painfully obvious, (and oy vey I’m flirt-shy by nature), in my flirting with him, which worked! Otherwise I would have assumed he was just not interested in me and/or that he only liked Asian women, and given up. It would have never occurred to me that he would assume because I was white, though I might be friendly I would never be interested in him in that way. I mean in my circle of friends, about 65% of the interracial marriages are between AM/WF – that’s eight couples out of 12 for you. (The other four couples are: white husband/black wife, WASP husband/Middle Eastern wife, Jewish husband/Latina wife and East Indian Gujarati husband/white wife (technically AM/WF)).  These 12 couples all met through friends, work, travels or at school but none online.
Actually most of the people I know who are in interracial relationships met in the real world and the vast majority of these couples are either married or together for many years. I can’t think of one interracial couple who met online. Now my friends who went for online dating however, ended up with someone from their own race ironically enough.
@Jink – I went to a high school in NJ, near NYC, that was 95% Hispanic in population, and many of my Latina classmates positively drooled over Asian men (well mostly Filipino or Hapa to be precise) but had the hardest time getting their attention (such as at interscholastic sporting events). They flirted to no avail or were too shy. Many of these girls went to the same University as me and would always wistfully look at the Asian guys from a distance as a result. Seems to me there might be some wires crossed here, since I know a lot of Latina women in the NYC area more than happy to date an Asian guy. I think they just don’t know how to approach them since typical flirting has failed them in the past or they feel that Asian men prefer Asian women exclusively. And I see many more AM/WF couples in NYC (at the very least one couple every time I am there), mostly around Korea Town and typical date spots in Midtown or the West Village.

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