Comments on: Women Who Earn More Than Men – And The Men Who Resent Them!

By: Jeff

Jeff — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 15:15:54 +0000

This article proves that women only want equality when it benefits them and never when it doesn’t. I don’t think most men have a problem with a woman making more money than them (I certainly don’t) but I do believe most women have a problem with a man that makes less than them.

Feminists need to remember that for every positive thing they “think” they are accomplishing for women there is also a negative thing for women as well. The reason for this is because there is only two genders on this planet and neither one can survive without the other. If women want to be the breadwinners then they are going to have to get used to lots of social changes that to most people will just seem really awkward.

For instance, males will begin to expect females to ask them out instead. The reason for this is because males are not going to want to appear greedy by asking a wealthy girl to take him out on a date. He will expect her to take him out if she likes him.

Males will expect females to pay for all the dates and propose marriage with an expensive engagement ring as a sign of their financial competence of being a suitor for him and their future children together that he will be raising while she’s off working. It’s going to turn into a choice for him to work or stay at home as most women will be expected to be the main breadwinner.

Females will also have to accept that males will be granted custody of their children more often in order to raise them while the female is expected to go off to work and provide financial support to her ex-husband and her children that she won’t get to see as often as she’d like.

Women’s liberty?! More like women’s enslavement! Welcome to hell ladies, hope you enjoy your stay. I doubt men will be foolish enough to ever give you the opportunity to go back to the way things were once they see how much better it is by having women slaving away for them in the labor force. Yep, feminism is driving women straight towards a world of social slavery, and as a man – I’m not complaining at all. LOL!

By: DMC

DMC — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 03:10:10 +0000

Truth be told, I have never had this problem, as I was successful at a young age. That said, as much as I think it could be ego for guys, I think there is something to be said about fuel to the materialistic fire that engulfs the large majority of women. This was exemplified in the article by the girl who wanted to fly first class. Basically women expect a certain lifestyle from men – if they can’t provide it or impede it, it’s held against them. Not really much room to compromise. Basic snobbishness, like the last two women in the article. Also, I think the term “dating down” shows subtle bias. It’s basically assuming the man is less worthy b/c he makes less.

One final point a poster made – it’s sad men can celebrate there more successful partners success. This is probably difficult when they are being looked down on.

By: Joe

Joe — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 02:47:24 +0000

I think that women want to ‘have their cake and eat it too’! I have dated many women whom all made more than I do, before I got married. There was always a problem-not mine……(I never brought it up), but the woman’s. I hate being ‘pre-judged’ and all, not just a few, of the women that I dated just automatically assumed that I had a problem. I wasn’t ‘pissed off’ at the earnings-I was ‘pissed off’ at the fact that these women were so smug in their beliefs.
I always started dated women by going ‘dutch’ until I felt that I had more feelings for them. Invariably, I would be ‘gifted’ many things which I never asked for, could not afford, and the women were always offended that I preferred to purchase for myself, whatever I wanted…..I didn’t want anyone to buy me something I really wanted….in my opinion, it sort of ‘cheapens’ the thing you want. So, I always preferred that women would not ‘gift’ me anything, except, perhaps, on my birthday or Christmas. I ALWAYS made it clear that whomever the woman was, was not to spend more on me than I spent on her.
I married a woman who was upwardly mobile. I earned many times more than she did, but as time went on, and as I helped her establish herself in a similar business that I am in, the earnings changed. However, it changed at a point that we had a child, so we (or so I thought ‘we’ did), made a decision that I would be a ‘stay at home dad’. This turned out to be the worst mistake of my life.
Every time we had an argument, it always went back to ‘you’re just jealous because you don’t make as much as I do’. I had to constantly remind my wife that, although I earned 6 figures in a part-time job, that I was the one feeding, cooking, cleaning, taking my child to child care or preschool, doctor appointments, picking up my kid every day to and from school, and even making all the vet appointments for all the animals my wife insisted on having.
The fact is, and I’ve never seen it different (well, maybe once……an older couple where the wife was a ‘headhunter’ and the husband was a retired software developer who had invested in a bed and breakfast, which they ran together), that women have an ego, possibly even bigger, than a man’s! Sorry. It’s true. Remember the old addage ‘hell hath no fury like a woman scorned’, well…….I believe that every career woman that I’ve met acts as if they are already ‘scorned’……by virtue of the fact that they always assume that ‘some man is lurking, waiting to take me out’. That’s paranoid! But most women belive it.
Ok, so I can hear women out there saying ‘yes, but it’s true….men have alwyas…….(fill in the blank)’. But how do women expect to have any sort of relationship with men if A) They don’t understand men, and B) They EXPECT the man to always take advantage? That isn’t love…….that isn’t security…..that is no way to begin a relationship.
I am currently in the throes of a separation. Did I cheat? No. Did my wife? Yes, in a very tangled ‘emothional’ relationship which she still denies. Why did she feel the need to cheat? Because, as she ‘ascended’ in her career in the corporate world, I became ‘uninteresting’.
It’s sad that the very person, whose career I have literally poured millions of dollars into, made connections for and supported all these years, used my credit and borrowed money from to start her own business (a debt I carried for her) has decided that I am just a ‘disposable appendage’ and all because of the very career that I helped her to achieve. AND THAT IS WHY MEN DON’T WANT TO COMPETE AGAINST THEM! It isn’t safe.
The next time you want to accuse a man of being ‘jealous’ of a woman who makes more than he does, try to understand why. Simple feminism, as a patent answer, just doesn’t cut it, in my book.

By: Lollysan

Lollysan — Wed, 19 Oct 2011 15:09:02 +0000

I am currently dating a 29yr old guy, father of three, earns 50% my salary! He is nice, but I am scared! He is talking marriage!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 31 May 2011 17:16:26 +0000

@Marc 76…trust me, not that I want to support anyone, but I wish that I got as much credit for having a great job and education. A man with my stats could probably get a lot of action and get away with being a real playboy. It would definitely be a much needed boost if anyone cared.

Actually though, while men may not marry women for their education and income, people do tend to marry from within their socioeconomic class.

So a lot of i-banker, doctors, lawyer, and people who graduate from elite schools do in fact marry their colleagues and classmates, but once kids come, the women quit. I definitely have a lot of classmates who fit this description. Even though the men didn’t care long term if the women continued earning, they still choose people from their circles, as opposed to say, a hairdresser or a waitress at Hooters. And I personally think that within these sets, there is a lot of cache to being able to stay at home with an “ivy-coated” grad degree hanging on your wall.

So it also should be said that while men don’t marry women for their income potential, they do usually marry their EDUCATIONAL and ACADEMIC equivalents. I don’t know of any of my college classmates who are married to women who aren’t college grads, and in many cases, they have grad degrees, although a fair number of them no longer work and will never work again barring divorce or death of the husband.

I think that a lot of rich men who marry women from nowhere aren’t the most educated guys…so they might have made a ton of money, but women who dont’ have formal educations still fit with them better. And seeing a rich, but uneducated guy with an educated professional woman has always shocked me too.

I’m surprised by Anita’s situation b/c like her, I’d have assumed that having equivalent education would trump income disparities, b/c if your wife winds up being a partner in a law firm or a surgeon, she could outearn you if you work in nonprofits or are a college professor.

By: SS

SS — Tue, 31 May 2011 16:12:36 +0000

As for the article… I have mixed feelings. I hate when a woman goes out on a date with a man and goes on and on about how independent she is. Well, you’re an adult. You should be. And regardless of how independent you are, if you want to be in a healthy relationship, everything won’t always be about you. It will be about we, and us. So stop trying to show how much you don’t need someone when you want to actually be with someone!

I can’t relate to the women here who only fly first class and can’t rough it in coach or who go to fancy restaurants all the time and buy multiple $15 cocktails. Maybe this is another one of these East Coast/West Coast/large city things that just don’t apply to me.

But that being said, it was very difficult trying to date in my 20s because of this phenomenon. I wasn’t making great money, but I was starting my career and made an entry-level salary that was comfortable for where I lived. The men in my age range (up to five years), however, seemed to be perfectly content living a life of odd jobs/no jobs/rooming with four other dudes in a house or apartment and spending any extra cash on beer and pizza. And these were college graduates! But they all were deciding to just take a few years off from life before going on to either professional/graduate studies or finding a career track that was more permanent.

I didn’t have a problem with them making less money than me, but the reasons why they made less money bothered me… because they were admittedly being slackers. And even the ones who weren’t slackers felt that they didn’t want to get serious with me because I seemed “settled” and they said they felt they had “nothing to offer me.”

So, like a lot of the ladies here, I just stopped trying. I looked for someone who was a bit older, done with school and firmly on their intended career path. Annual salary was not necessarily a big deal — I come from a family of teachers (dad included) so I had no problem dating a man who was a teacher. I just didn’t meet them.

I think a lot of women and men might seem to be open minded about this topic, but our “traditional values” start kicking in perhaps more than we think and resentment starts to abound… I just stopped fighting it and had better luck that way.

I’m not remotely married to a wealthy man and we live in a small house in a mid-sized city. But I like his work ethic, he likes mine and we’re not terribly far apart in income level (he makes more, but not by a whole lot, and if the roles were reversed it would be okay… we’re in similar fields.)

By: SS

SS — Tue, 31 May 2011 15:49:49 +0000

Mark @76
Um, I don’t quite get the point of men saying that they don’t care if a woman makes less or has less education than they do.

Isn’t that kind of how it’s always been through history? That’s nothing groundbreaking or new… women looked for protectors and providers and men looked for beauty, fertility, and indicators that one would be a good wife or mother. Men NEVER (until recently) considered a woman’s income, educational level or earning power in the wife equation (because women didn’t usually work)… and even today, isn’t everyone always telling women that they don’t care all that much about her education and career?

So all you’re doing is simply reiterating what’s been true for most of recorded history. Women are wired to “marry up,” while men don’t typically consider a woman’s financial status when he marries. You don’t get a cookie for saying you don’t care how much a woman makes when you date her… you’re just falling in line with the historical script!

By: Liz

Liz — Tue, 31 May 2011 15:07:45 +0000

I won’t date blue-collar men and the income disparity has nothing to do with it.
I can’t stand the anti-intellectual attitude, the racism, the sexism, the homophobia, and the tendency to vote Republican (Hey, you wanna be an idiot and vote against your own interests? be my guest! that these men tend to bring to the table.
And plenty of them are jealous, too, calling middle-class women names like “rich b*tch.” Tell me, ladies, would YOU pleasure a man who thought of you as nothing more than a “b*tch?”

By: m

Tue, 19 Oct 2010 20:24:10 +0000

Holy hell, Mattie.

I’m terribly sorry for the misfortunes that have befallen you, and I hope you get everything you want.

By: m

Tue, 19 Oct 2010 20:04:53 +0000

Anita’s situation is far, far more common than some people seem to want to admit to here.

(Maybe because it’s one of those situations that just don’t fall into the commonly accepted social narrative of what certain people would rather have be true …?)