Why The Bachelor Sets Women Up To Fail

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Imagine a dating site that had ONE man on it.

Now imagine women voluntarily signing up to meet that ONE man and promising that – whoever he is – they WILL fall in love with him within 6 weeks.

Doesn’t matter if he’s short or tall or funny or interesting or kind or a good communicator. You sign up for this website, you’re falling for that ONE man, sight unseen.

That’s The Bachelor.

Once upon a time, I watched The Bachelor. It was a juicy diversion – a not-so-guilty pleasure for a newly married dating coach.

But eventually – after about 2 seasons – I stopped.

I wasn’t concerned about the exploitation. Hell, I was asked by a producer to try out for The Bachelor in 2007. I said no. If you choose to go on TV to find love, you don’t have much of a right to complain that the story editors are making you look bad.

I wasn’t concerned that the contestants never stayed married. Of course they never stayed married. The Bachelor and Bachelorette date for SIX WEEKS before the big proposal. You know how long they date exclusively before putting a ring on it? Not one second!

Men are at their best in dating when they are not forced to choose, but when they’re doing so by their own volition.

Could you imagine getting engaged to someone who wasn’t even your BOYFRIEND before?

We are talking about total strangers leaping off a cliff together like Thelma and Louise and expecting to survive. Girlfriend, please!

The main reasons I stopped watching The Bachelor were the following:

Feel free to watch The Bachelor for the cute people, the drama, and the fantasy. Don’t watch because you think that these couples are going to live happily ever after.

Feel free to watch The Bachelor for the cute people, the drama, and the fantasy. Don’t watch because you think that these couples are going to live happily ever after. They’re not – any more than any two strangers who happen to meet on Tinder this week.

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