In a recent article on TheFrisky.com, “limerence” is described as a constant state of compulsory longing for another person.
In an essay for Marie Claire, Samara O’Shea writes about finding out that her profound and seemingly never-ending grief following a breakup was the result of limerence. “It doesn’t matter if their affection is returned,” a doctor told her about people who suffer from the condition. “Nothing will satiate their need for emotional reciprocation.” Those afflicted with limerence basically never leave the honeymoon stage of their infatuation with someone, high on a “hormonal cocktail” of oxytocin, dopamine, and elevated levels of estrogen and testosterone. Never coming down from that high can cause heart palpitations, loss of sleep, and chest pains, not to mention the truly horrible feeling of loving someone who doesn’t love you back and not being able to get over them.
The only available treatments for limerence right now involve beta-blockers, cognitive behavioral therapy, and even a 12-step program in which patients learn to regulate their thoughts. O’Shea has made some progress, writing, “I look forward to falling in love–the real way–someday.”
Read the article here. Have you experienced limerence? How is limerence different from love? Share your experiences in the comments below.