Do Women Trade On Their Looks To Get Men With Money?


Rich men, beautiful women. It’s sort of a cliche, right? Ugly old man, young blonde gold digger. The Millionaire Matchmaker. Men make money to get hot women. Women try to look hot to land men with money. What is there to argue with?

Evidently, quite a lot. A really interesting article by James Hamblin in the Atlantic goes deeper. Yes, “physical attractiveness is exquisitely, at times incomparably, important to both men and women. Status (however you want to measure it: income, formal education, etcetera) is often not far behind. In real-life dating studies, which get closer to genuine intentions, physical attractiveness and earning potential strongly predict romantic attraction…On these “consensually-ranked” traits, people seem to aspire to partners who rank more highly than themselves. They don’t want a match so much as a jackpot.”

Men make money to get hot women. Women try to look hot to land men with money.

But there’s a caveat, according to a study by Notre Dame professor, Elizabeth McClintock.

“Women spend a lot more time trying to look good than men do,” McClintock said. “That creates a lot of mess in this data. If you don’t take that into account then you actually see there’s a lot of these guys who are partnered with women who are better looking than them, which is just because, on average, women are better looking. Men are partnering ‘up’ in attractiveness. And men earn more than women–we’ve got that 70-percent wage gap–so women marry ‘up’ in income. You’ve got to take these things into account before concluding that women are trading beauty for money.”

It’s subtle but we’re talking about a controlled study here – and McClintock concludes that it’s a fallacy to suggest that dating is a straight-up trade of looks for money.  “Rather, hearteningly, people really are looking for … compatibility and companionship. Finding those things is driven by matching one’s strengths with a partner who’s similarly endowed, rather than trying to barter kindness for hotness, humor for conscientiousness, cultural savvy for handyman-ship, or graduate degrees for marketable skills.”

Most men don’t want to be sugar daddies, most women don’t want to be gold diggers, and, as a result, the vast majority of us are not.

The fact is, reports McClintock, women value men’s attractiveness just as much their wallets. And men value women’s kindness and personality just as much as their looks. To suggest otherwise diminishes what happens in genuine happy marriages, which are based on much more than a mercenary exchange for looks and money.

Most men don’t want to be sugar daddies, most women don’t want to be gold diggers, and, as a result, the vast majority of us are not.

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  1. 41

    To any women wise enough to read this and really understand it.   Here is why you are not finding the man you want and are having difficulty attracting and keeping men. It may seem trivial but truth is in the following songs using humor to make a social statement.
    The woman song
    The man song
    The songs detail modern realities about how women see themselves, how they treat men and why men react to this treatment because they are desperate for sex and will tolerate deeply selfish and exploitive behaviors from women when they know it will only lead to personal misery and loss of significant resources.   Men are politically defenseless with the rapid rise in female control of progressive socialism. They know there is a social war fought in the media and in the courts to replace men with primarily women and minorities in the job market using discriminatory factional group coalitions demanding racial, gender, religious and ethnic privilege rather than consider or support individualism and the US constitution.   This is a political war waged on the news every day.   Men have no political means to defend themselves or to claim what makes them happy as politically correct. Their voices are suppressed by factional group coalitions against them and men are angry with the way women treat them in the new feminism-sexism that teaches women to hate men and to exploit men only for money and with no promise or expectation or desire for real intimacy with most of them.
    If you want a man you need to do only two things to make him happy.   All men know you are not willing to do these two things and so they are not willing to give you the money, security, attention and glamour you crave so you can make your girlfriends jealous about your material possessions.   Go ahead keep hoarding your money and never sharing it with men until no man will ever have a relationship with you long-term from age 30 to age 90 ever again.
    This is all men want: It does not make us bad. It makes us true to our DNA and personal happiness. You want to throw us in jail for this and call all of our behaviors “sexual assaults” while you have no “financial assault and exploitation” liability or accountability for how you use sex and your looks to manipulate men to obtain money. You don’t care about anything else, and lie that you are the kinder and more loving gender.   But not toward men, only to other women and children.   Still men only need two things to be happy long-term in a relationship.

    A woman who gives them sex and real intimacy and does not exploit them for security and money without any desire or expectation of intimacy given freely.

    A woman who is not difficult.   Men define difficult as needy, desperate, selfish, controlling, manipulative, greedy, angry, jealous and insecure to be rescued because women are afraid of growing old alone without financial security.

    All men know you resist giving sex or intimacy until you get money and security first.   All modern men no longer want to give you that money and security until you give them intimacy first. Men know you don’t need them, especially if you are stealing male jobs and replacing them with female jobs so you no longer have a reason to want men anymore. Marriage is a trap for men and there is no longer a reason for them to be married as they get nothing from it except a divorce and loss of independence and freedom to be male.
    Here’s   a tip. Marry a man 10-20 years older than you are when you are young under 30 and when you reach 40-50 and the man has the money and resources to attract younger and more beautiful women, he will look around and realize he can’t find anyone better than you because you are that younger and more beautiful woman way out of his league.

    1. 41.1

      You’re just an old man hoping to attract a young woman for cheap . Keep dreaming. If I’m marrying 10-20 years older, you have to be super wealthy to compensate for the privilege. If I’m doing mediocrity, it’s with good-looking men my age.

  2. 42

    Well the way that i look at it which Most of these type of women that are like this are really such pathetic losers anyway since they’re the most greediest and the most selfish people known to mankind since it is all about them being very money hungry today unfortunately.   I feel sorry for any man that would go with this type of a woman to begin with since they will take a lot of these men to the cleaners which they have done already which is a real shame that many of these men don’t know any better which has certainly caused many divorces as well.   Smart men will definitely stay clear of these women which will save us a lot of pain too.

  3. 43

    Women have one problem they cannot be uplifted given freedom and power without consiquence. Beauty vanity and cultural status is of the Devil
    True beauty of a woman is innocence. Seeing that American life is born from the back of satan its easy to influence her since its her weakness like what happened in the Garden is still happening today.

  4. 44

    I was “down-to-earth” (really a doormat) for a long time. I went for artistic men with great senses of humor and deep ideas, not for money or looks. I listened to the movies and went for love only. I missed out on a lot of fun experiences and good quality of life.

    I dated  poor guys with low class friends and I barely was taken on dates because the guys couldn’t afford it. I went on too many hikes, watched too much netflix. Wore Forever21 far past that age. Sometimes got to go out when someone got free tickets, otherwise not. Lived with second hand furniture and a crappy apartment.

    I’ll never do that shit again. I stopped listening to the media or movie-esque idea of what romance and love is. I started making a lot of money, moved out of the poor artist area and am going to find myself a guy with a heart of gold who I love that is also wealthy and handsome.

    If you can get the whole package, go for it! Don’t listen to anything that tells you to aim small or feel bad for high standards.

  5. 45

    As I said before, it is up to women who they date and marry or don’t date and don’t marry. It is really her body and her decision.

    Now, I know this is going to offend some, but I have to be brutally honest with you ladies. Dating based primarily on a guy’s bank balance rarely ends well. Yeah, you do hear the stories of some lovely woman marrying a geezer for his money, he dies and she gets all of his cash. You do hear those stories. But as someone who has interacted with some of these rich men, they aren’t nearly as naive as movies and books make them out to be. Most of the guys I know in this position have married girls who they started relationships with BEFORE they were successful. Another category of women I see these guys marrying is women who are ALSO successful in their own way. In other words, he owns a business and she is a successful artist. Or a successful manager. Or successful in something else.

    If a guy is dating some hot actress/model type who has nothing going for her besides the fact that she is hot and she is dating him because he is rich, he is almost certainly aware of this fact. And what these rich guys do is simply date these girls, throw a relatively small amount of money their way and simply have sex with them until they get tired of this and then move onto another woman. The vast, vast majority of the time, these men are NOT marrying these women. There are a nearly endless supply of super beautiful women who are willing to play this gold digging game, so it is not like they will run out of women any time soon. I remember hearing about one particular multi-millionaire guy who had four different gorgeous girls he was doing this with. He wasn’t exclusive with any of them and they were aware of this fact, but they were OK with it because even though he was in his late 40s and not “cute,” he had tons of money and was OK with spending thousands on each of them. Of course this whole gold digging game starts to end when she gets into her mid 30s. If there is no real emotional connection and it is all about how a woman looks and how big his bank account is, why would he choose an older woman over a more beautiful, younger woman. There is no reason. Yeah, their are some older gold diggers, but women find it harder and harder to be gold diggers the older they get. Eventually these women can’t land any millionaire men, they have absolutely no skills and have to settle for a man they may feel is “beneath” them.

    1. 45.1

      Dating guys based solely on love isn’t always the best solution either. All the women I know who married for money are still married.

      1. 45.1.1
        Sum Guy

        Of  course they are, as long as the terms of the contract are met, he has money she provides sex.   Why wouldn’t they be.   Maybe he falls in love with her and she gets out of the sex or she is really just for show.   Maybe the money starts to dry up but she would rather hang on than support herself, or he spends less yet has a solid pre-nup.


        That’s perfectly fine by me if that is how you want to live, but I wouldn’t call it a intimate emotional relationship.     I guess they laugh at someone like me all the way to the bank or private jet.

  6. 46

    for me, I wouldn’t trade my man for the world. I love him for him and genuinely care about him as a person. What was important to me, was that we started as good friends, were compatible, had fun together, and just enjoyed each others company. It wasn’t his looks or income that made me want to be with him(average in both) and I’ve been friends with (and worked with) hot men before, but nope, my fiance is the love of my life and I would do anything to fight for him, and he would do the same for me 🙂 I think There’s no better feeling than knowing that you genuinely care and love someone, on their good and attractive days, and on their bad and *ugly* days haha

  7. 47

    Most men don’t want to be sugar daddies, most women don’t want to be gold diggers, and, as a result, the vast majority of us are not.


    Actually most of us don’t have the capacity to be either.   Most guys can’t make enough money to be able to change our level of attraction, and  if the recent stat I read is correct in that the average U.S. woman is now “plus sized.”   Most of us, on both sides of the ball, are within one standard deviation of average.

    As an aside, I remember a quote I heard over 30 years ago from a movie star on a talk show that has always stuck in my mind.   She said,   “A woman wants to be treated as an equal, by a man who is better than her.”

  8. 48

    well I have to say rich men want a woman who looks good and is good in bed they are not interested in  mature   Ladies even if they are mature guys   them selves   ,, I joined the date site  MM   to see what it was all about I found women throwing them selves at these guys reading some of the comments on guys profiles from women even ugly old guys had lovely comments left about them by young women it made me think if these guys were not rich would these women be interested in them then I really do not think so,   these rich guys are not looking for your average mature women who can cook and take care of them they would rather live on takeaways if the young woman cant cook as long as she is young beautiful and a good body and good in bed because if she has then she will have the life as a Goddess these rich men will spoil them with what ever these women want these guys want other guys to see them walking out or having a yacht party showing this beautiful women off to his friends and these  rich guys can have there choice of 50 or more women cuing up    ,, so if you are a mature Lady save your money and forget about caching a rich guy they are not interested ,,

  9. 49

    On my opinion, based on what I’ve seen. When a woman is attractive earning an average income she will settle for the old undesirable gentleman. It’s an exchange. But an attractive successful woman will not. Because she doesn’t have to. She will go for the rich young guys. It’s all about where you go find them. A quality/smart woman would not waste her time or entertainment these men. Look at Instagram. The woman having their own success feature there hot rich boyfriends/fiancé/husbands. Not a older man that they would be too embarrassed to be seen with.

  10. 50

    Most women nowadays will sleep around with most men that are rich anyway since most of these women are a real low life anyway to begin with since these type of women are just real golddiggers.   It is very unfortunate that the kind of women we have out there now are just very horrible creatures altogether now since they will make a very horrible wife as well.     A single man would have to be very crazy to get married today,   unless they are willing to lose everything they have when the divorce is final.

  11. 51

    Men like me who have millions, tall, slim, with decent looks, normal and funny as hell just want to have sex with as many different beautiful women as possible.     It’s just the genetic makeup.   Women in general have an unfair advantage in looks.   With cosmetics, hair, clothe, surgery, a woman can raise her attractiveness by 2 to 3 points – men cannot.     So a 6 can become a 9 with no problems.   Bottom line there are tons of guys with decent looks, just not to many decent guys with millions.   Also women don’t really want money, they are attracted to what it represents, success, power, and security.   That is evolution!!!







  12. 52

    And tons of beautiful women are more than happy to give it up.   I have noticed that it has actually gotten even worse over time.   All of these TV shows and movies have glamorized money and that it is the the most attractive thing in the universe.     So all of the young girls are being influenced by the Kardashians, – i.e its okay to make a sex tape and you will get even more famous and wealthy.

  13. 53

    Does this “70 per cent wage gap” include the large indexed pensions that women get from the secure government jobs that they dominate?   I also wonder how this wage gap would look with some of the top alpha males excluded. Alpha males are making more than ever but there is not enough of them to satisfy enough women. The average man started earning less than the average father(when the father was the same age)in real(inflation adjusted)terms back in the 1970s.

    In the end, nothing really matters as women are designed to love children, not men.


  14. 54

    All this mumbo jumbo, semantics and euphemisms. I personally outside of money find men extremely- no exceptionally boring, the type of boredom that could literally kill. Money is the single ONLY reason I date men. So yes, women like Money and men like youth, beauty, sex when all the play on words is over and done. Meh.

  15. 55
    Jan Kvapil Jr. ( European man name)

    Tbh, most men don’t go so low as to get rid of a woman after she ages. Men know women age. We honestly don’t care at THAT point. As long as you were beautiful when you were young it doesn’t matter. This is because people desire good looks for indicators of HEALTH and Fertility, not just simply because they look good XD. It’s the same for women, they dont want money because it’s money, they don’t care about the shitty piece of paper, they care about the resource, the power ( money also equals power ) This is felt at a subconscious level, instinctively. So don’t worry, your man probably won’t leave if you grow old. Most men wouldn’t.

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