If You Want To Get Happy, Do This One Thing

grateful woman

I hope you enjoyed last Tuesday’s blog post.

It’s not often that I show my vulnerable side on here, but the reaction from you was overwhelmingly positive.

Maybe I should consider sending out a tweet every time I trip over my son’s toys.

In any case, I’ve got three great things to offer you today.

One of them is a video.
One of them is an offer.
One of them is a challenge.

But before we get into all that, I want to give you a quick update on my new site.

After nearly a year, there are only three days left until the new EvanMarcKatz.com goes live.

Now, finally, it’s done, and I can breathe once again. For that, I am grateful.

I’m excited: The site is GORGEOUS. This ain’t a paint job; it’s an overhaul.

If you’ve ever hired a contractor to redo your house and were surprised that it took twice as much time and cost twice as much as you planned, you have an inkling of what I’m talking about.

I honestly had no idea how tricky a new EMK.com would be: colors, fonts, borders, spacing, headers, footers, video, audio, responsive design — My God!

For a writer like me, it just made my head hurt — for nearly 11 months. The designers did 15 iterations of it before it got final approval – and then it took my team four more months before I felt comfortable sharing it with you.

Now, finally, it’s done, and I can breathe once again. For that, I am grateful.

Grateful to Edgar, Tyler, Riley, Marisa, Deb, Chris and Mas, all of whom worked tirelessly to bring you the fancy new site you’ll see on November 1st.

Grateful to my wife, for listening to me and putting up with my venting at the end of every day.

And, of course, grateful to you for turning to me for advice. It’s not false humility to say that without you, there would be no Evan Marc Katz, dating coach.

Evan Marc Katz, insurance salesman, would be more like it. ☺

Before we move forward, how did you feel when I said I was grateful to you?

Pretty sweet, huh?

It’s nice to be acknowledged. To be appreciated. To get credit for what you do at work, at home, and in your relationship.

You know what else is pretty sweet? Doing the acknowledging.

Which brings me to the 3 things I’m giving you: a video, an offer and a challenge:

1. The video is an absolute delight. I got a glimpse of it a few weeks ago on Facebook (and if you were my Facebook friend, you would have already seen it.)

Click here to view the magical power of gratitude
. This is a simple video with a handful of people calling loved ones to acknowledge them.

If you don’t start to tear up near the end, please, check your pulse.

2. The offer I want to make is a preliminary one. You’ll get the details in a separate blog post on Thursday.

But since I’m in full-on gratitude mode, I wanted to give you something that would rock your world and change your life.

So next Tuesday – one week from now – I’m going to make you the proverbial offer you can’t refuse: SIX HOURS of FOCUS Coaching for $1.

That’s right; I’m pretty much giving away my best stuff for nothing. I’m only letting you know what’s coming so you have time to save up. ☺

Seriously, if you have 1 dollar to your name, I expect to see you invest it with me next Tuesday, then watch as your investment compounds to a lifetime of happiness.

Time to overcome your fear, embrace your vulnerability, and express gratitude to that one special person.

And before I bid you adieu today…

3. I want to give you a challenge.

In the video I linked to above, you got to watch various folks calling one special person to express appreciation and gratitude. Great stuff, huh?

Well, as soon as you’re done reading this email, I want you to do the same thing.

Call one special person to express appreciation and gratitude.

I know you’re busy. You’re at work. You’ve got kids. You’ve got errands.


Fact is: if you’re hesitant to do something that immediately increases your joy by 17%, then you’re really just admitting one thing:

You’re afraid.

Afraid to be vulnerable, authentic, and grateful to the one person you love the most!

How crazy is THAT?!

Time to overcome your fear, embrace your vulnerability, and express gratitude to that one special person.

Pick up the phone, dial, and share your love and appreciation.

You can do it!

And you’ll be very glad you did.

Warmest wishes and much love,

Your friend,


P.S. Have you connected with me on Facebook and Twitter yet? Hope so!

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  1. 1

    Hi Evan, I just saw the video.   That was cute.
    Thank you for sharing it and for being around on this site.   And for all the team and those who contribute and make those few seconds online, a giggle, challenging or informative.
    (Incidentally, this could not have come at a better time – a guy who more or less left me hanging for a month, suddenly resurfaces and sent me a rather useful piece of information which was unexpected and rather sweet and very considerate.
    My spontaneous reaction was……Get lost (:o) because he wanted to see me again  (after a MONTH with no news) but after some thoughts, saying thank you and see ya around doesn’t cost much, does it?

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    Dancing queen

    I don’t have your number Evan but I’d call you. I don’t comment but read and look forward to each post.  
    You have given me a brand new perspective, higher self esteem, greater confidence and a whole new enthusiasm for dating. I felt I was done for. Not dated in many many years and at 41, I’ve raised my children into fine young adults and now it feels it’s my time. Thank you Evan.
    Thank you for your input in bringing out the best in me. For making me realise all the mistakes of the past and my potential for the future. Thank you for helping me to remember that, other roles aside, I am still a women worthy of love and affection And life’s not over yet.
    Thank you for caring about me, being a good friend and supporter, even though we have never met. Thank you for bringing me back to life because before I started reading your blog I convinced myself I’m better off alone.
    Thank you for the sparkle that’s appeared in my eye and the spring that’s back in my step.
    i’m not on any dating site or actively looking, yet, it’s a thrill just being a new person.
    Your effort here is greatly appreciated so if you didn’t catch it before THANK YOU SO MUCH!  
    And thank you also to all the commenters sharing wisdom and experiences. I’ve laughed, cried, shouted at the screen and wish you all the very best.

  3. 3

    Congratulations again, to Evan and your team!   Looks like your creativity and persverence paid off.   Looking forward to the new site.

  4. 4
    Karmic Equation

    What a generous thing to offer. I hope many of the ladies for whom Focus Coaching was out of reach can now participate.
    Thank you for your special gifts. Thank you most of all for freely sharing your wisdom and experience with others, simply because you care.

  5. 5

    wheee, new site coincides with my winter staycation, plenty of time to check it out. Hope it’s a terrific success.

  6. 6

    I certainly am looking forward to the offer as I am a student and on a budget. I have the ebook already so it would be useful to take it to another level and within my financial means

  7. 7

    The new site looks absolutely awesome Evan!! The hard work paid off, congrats

  8. 8

    Looks great, definitely more welcoming and warmer! I also like that posts are filed by category!

  9. 9

    Wow look at all the pretty colors! lol Seriously, congratulations, love the new interface. I just had to sneak back onto the site to say this. It is so much easier to search for a post that you need now.
    Quick update, I activated my OKC acct a week ago, two months sooner than I’d planned to (my ex had emailed me saying he’d reactivated his, and that got me thinking that I should probably do the same). A week in, so far so good. Had one date last weekend, it was meh, although he wanted more. Had a very cool 1-hr phone conversation last night. Three first dates lined up for this weekend and another one for next week. (Would’ve been more, but I will be out of town for half of next week.) Two hundred unique visitors, and emails from 30 people, in the first 24 hours. And they are all quality people, no spammers, no robots, most of them are in my age/social group and my location, and have decent first emails and interesting profiles. I am quite honestly in shock. This had never happened when I registered on a site before (and I was younger then). The three years that I’ve spent reading Evan’s blog are paying off! (That, and I’ve had a lot of personal growth as a result of my last relationship.) One of the emails that I got, said that I have “one of the best damn profiles I’ve read on this infuriating site”. Thank you Evan, and my fellow commenters, for all the wisdom you’ve shared over the years!!

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