Why Do Guys Send Text Messages To Keep In Touch While Dating?

Over the last several months, I have dated 3 men (not simultaneously) that I met on Match.com. They all seem to have one thing in common: after 2-4 dates, they like to touch base with me during the week by sending me text messages to my cell phone! Although I appreciate them thinking about me in the middle of the day, if we have gone out on several dates, at what point is it appropriate to expect a 5 minute phone call a few times a week? Is it too early in the dating process for phone contact? How are you supposed to progress the relationship if you never “touch-base” by actually speaking to one another? Is this typical of people you meet on line? Or, am I just old fashioned (39) and not used to this new aspect of dating?


Dear Rikki,

Guys across America are saying, “Hey, babe. You’re not important enough to get five minutes of phone time. Please accept this weak form of communication and allow me to keep on sleeping with you.”

You struck a chord with this email.

I HATE text messaging. I think it should be used exclusively for only a handful of things:

Letting someone know that you’re lost or running late.

Telling someone where you’re located in a crowded theater or bar.

Writing flirty or dirty notes to be provocative and naughty.

Everything else should be banned. I mean, email is bad enough. And I say this as a guy who lives by email. But anyone who’s ever used it knows how conversations can easily take a wrong turn. There’s no context, tone, voice, or facial expressions to modify your message. The next thing you know, you’re having a vicious argument that could have been easily avoided in person. Plus you have a transcript to commemorate it!

Texting is ten times worse. You’re encouraged to misspell, you’re discouraged from saying anything deep or meaningful. Essentially, texting is emailing for the lazy, illiterate and mobile. You send a text when you don’t want to talk to someone, but you want to let them know you’re thinking of them. And what can be more flattering than conveying, electronically, the idea that you DON’T want to talk to the woman you’re courting? Essentially, guys across America are saying, “Hey, babe. You’re not important enough to get five minutes of phone time. Please accept this weak form of communication and allow me to keep on sleeping with you.”

And as long as you let them do it, they will continue to do it. Because texting is only enabled by the person who writes back to the text. If you don’t respond to texts, guess what? You’re letting him know that it’s a poor way to reach you.

If you don’t respond to texts, guess what? You’re letting him know that it’s a poor way to reach you.

Understand this about men: they will usually do the least that they can to maintain their relationship. So if he can text you at 11pm on Friday night after a week of silence and charm you with something like: “UR 2 hott! Cum over now?”, well, you get what you deserve. But here’s the real problem: there are women everywhere who are complete suckers for this crap. Maybe it’s a low self esteem thing, but as long as some desperate girl lets him get away with it, he’ll always have a low-maintenance sexual outlet. Therefore, he’ll never feel the need to do all the heavy lifting of relationships such as “calling” and “dates”….

But the truth is, Rikki, you don’t need men who won’t call you. It’s a self-selecting process. If he’s a good man who is genuinely interested in you, he will make the kind of effort that reveals this. If five minutes on the phone is too much work for him, it speaks for itself.

As to how you redirect a lazy man to give you more effort, the trick is to do it with wit and charm. Nothing will turn off a guy faster than: “I HATE TEXTING. IF YOU THINK THAT LITTLE OF ME, GO TAKE A HIKE, DOUCHEBAG!” Try to redirect his energy in a positive way that encourages him to keep working for you.

As long as he’s working for you, you’re still in control. So maybe the next time he texts, let him know that you turn off your cellphone at work, and he can best reach you on your regular phone. Or maybe you tell him in a flirty way that the way to your heart is through your voice – and that, if he’s lucky, he might be able to catch you on your cell at 7:30 before you go out tonight. What you don’t want to do is sound like a stick-in-the-mud, my-way-or-the-highway woman. But you can refuse to play his game and still make him feel attractive, which will keep him chasing you through whatever medium you choose. Good luck.

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  1. 181
    Michelle Baker

    I have been courting a guy for 4 weeks now, going out once a week so 3 dates so far. Texting is fine but when you only see a person once a week it can slow down the relationship process. I would phone him if I was not on pay as you go. I am getting frustrated with the pingpong texting ‘what did you do today … how was your day … what film will you be watching tonight. Due to this poor level of communication when we meet up it is like taking two steps backwards before going forward, meaning I feel I need to warm up due to it being a new relationship. I did mention in a text earlier today that he could call me when he gets back home but received a text when he was on the train telling me how cold it was. There are things i would like to say which are too much to put in a text and I never get to say everything when we meet once a week. I have really missed him this weekend so would have been nice to hear his voice -TEXT MESSAGES CAN FEEL SO COLD

  2. 182

    Texting is just a sign of the time. However, when getting to know someone, it should not be use as a major form of communication. A text throughout the day just to say hello or I am thinking of you, is fine. But if someone is using text to hold major conversations that is a red flag to me. Testing can be very impersonal and can suggest a lack of true interest if used as the major form of communication. If someone is really trying to get to know someone, I feel that time should be taking to use more intimate forms of communication.

  3. 183

    My ex girlfriend was in her early 50’s and she pushed me to only text, even having our conversations after work via text. I HATE texting as a means of conversation. I am old school and when I suggested we talk over the phone like grown adults, she would not back down. I finally called the relationship off out of disgust for that and other reasons. So it’s not a gender thing in my perspective. 

  4. 184

    Thank you so much for posting this. I know I’m in the minority, but I HATE texting. And I’m only 2 years younger than Rikki who you quoted above. I think I was in my mid-late 20s when texting became the rage, and I just never got it. As someone who is divorced and is getting back into the dating scene, it drives me nuts when a guy wants me to text him. Even if it’s someone you just met, what on earth is wrong with taking a few minutes out for a short phone call? I hate texting. I think it’s lazy and only good in a few circumstances, such as the ones you listed. I’m not into flirting via text messages, maybe that makes me a prude but I’m not someone who is attached to her phone every minute of the day.


    It’s annoying and it’s a shame that some people can’t accept that (and yes, the folks who have said that girls do it too are right…and I believe it is mostly a generational thing because most of the people I see doing it are Millennials).

  5. 185


    I do agree that texting is not quite the same as talking to someone face-to-face.  Some

    people are timid and therefore, use texting to relate to others on the surface.  But by

    no means do I agree that texting is not a powerful tool of getting to know someone.

    I don’t believe that texting someone implies no interest in that person.  In some cases,

    texting is probably more effective because it can be done almost anywhere and the cell

    phone is constantly in a person’s possession to text and/ or ring others’ line from time

    to time.  It’s convenient and easier to actually reach the person.  The fact that the person

    doing the texting wants to ensure contact with us is what’s important, along with the depth

    of those text.  The statement about how texting avoids deep meaning is silly.  You can say

    just as much in a text as you can verbally.  A person either has it in them to deal with real/

    and authentic stuff or they don’t ” A phone call is not going to make a difference if I do not

    want to get close to you.”  We have to really hear the person rather it’s by text, cell phone

    or even face to face contact.  There is a guy who both text and phone me but the text was

    particularly important due to his place of employment demanding much of his time.  He

    just isn’t in a position to do the phone call interaction as much as he would like.  Sometimes

    we have to pay attention to why the texting is so significant at the moment.  Text are more

    guaranteed to reach people as opposed to calling them is the entire point.


  6. 186

    Everything is in the details.  If somebody is using texts as a main form of communication, that is a problem.  If it is being used to enhance communication, that is great.


    My guy will send me a quick text, sometimes just a smiley face, just to show me that he is thinking about me.  That makes my heart smile!  I do the same for him.


  7. 187

    Good grief! Are there really men who text their girlfriends? Yuk,yuk and thrice yuk.

    Whatever happened to calling and going out?




  8. 188

    I am so glad I found this post now I don’t feel that it was me!!!  I met a guy online a few months ago.  When we first met he emailed me and we did got out on our first date.  We had a nice time and he said he would call me and we would go out the next Friday to dinner.  I received an email the next day telling me I was just lovely and he couldn’t wait to see me again.  I get an email on Tuesday asking me to dinner on Sunday (not Friday), which I accepted and he asked if I wanted him to “swing by and pick me up”).  I met him at the restaurant because I still didn’t know him that well and didn’t want him picking me up at my home.  I would like to mention that we are both in our 50’s.   He has a 14 year old daughter and travels a lot during the week for work.   Anyway, when he walked me back to my car after dinner I asked him whether he did not like talking on the phone because never called me.  His response was – he didn’t want to call me too early – whatever that meant.  I just dropped it after that.  Also – he would always hug me after a date – never kiss me.  Which I thought was strange since most guys I meet are all for that.  I even had one guy lean in and smell my hair — strange.   He said he was going out of town for a couple of days and would call me when he got back.  I did not hear from him for a whole week so I texted him and asked if everything was fine since I never heard from him (which I regret now).  He did respond with he had just gotten back the day before and was catching up on life and he loved spending time with me.  He said that he wasn’t going out of town the next week and we should plan something – I never heard from him for another week so I just wrote him off.  A week later, on a Tuesday I received an email from him asking if I wanted to go to dinner the next night.   I told him I had other plans and he wrote back saying how about Sunday.  I told him it was my son’s birthday but Friday or Saturday would be better.  He then wrote back saying Friday he was going to be coming home from a “trip” and Saturday was father daughter day, but he was free – Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday of the next week.   I waited a couple of days until I cooled off and sent him an email telling him very nicely that we were in difference places in our lives and  I wished him well.  I also mentioned in the email that I felt any guy who depended totally on email and text as a form of communication was not that interested in me.  Of course I never heard back — but I am glad I did nip that in the bud.   And I am glad I came across this site.

    1. 188.1

      I had similar experiences. Always trust your gut. He knew he couldn’t string you along. It sucks if you really liked him, but it shows you have respect for yourself.  We teach people how we want to be treated. He doesn’t deserve you:) the right guy is out there! And don’t beat yourself up for contacting him about the issue. You should communicate, there may have been a simple explanation as to what was going on. To do that once…is fine. I think you would have questioned about what You could have done differently had you not called him out on it in a nice way. Now you know. Players will only play with the girls who allow it:) good luck on meeting a GOOD MAN:)

  9. 189

    Deaf people prefer texting

  10. 190

    Texting is perfect for married men who are communicating with their mistress!

  11. 191

    I totally agree with this article-a guy texting screams “Im so lazy”–I had been seeing someone for about a month-at first he would call every night even if it was just a short chat-then it became only texting-after a few days he would text me and not even look at my message till the next day (thank you Iphone) ..and it took him just as long to respond to my reponse-a whole 12 hours–huge red flag to me either he was married, or dating other girls.. “He would say I had nothing to worry about” when I asked about the delay in texts.

    Texting is great to send funny pics-say you are running late or the like… I dont buy the excuse “he is shy” or “it’s what pple do these days”.   I like to hear a guy laugh, tell a story and enjoy the sound of his voice-its forms an intimate bond–besides -how do you know who you are REALLY talking to?   Are you sure its him?  Hard to be sure he hasnt handed his boring texting duty to a buddy.  Just saying.

  12. 192

    i had an ex who called me 2-3 times a week, before I was reading this blog. I feel like I undervalued his effort to call, and while he wasn’t right for me anyway. I can now appreciate the effort he took to call me and its something I will start looking for in the next guy.


  13. 193

    Lotta stick-in-the-mud people here, who don’t get that texting (like email) is just a way to communicate when other things get in the way, like environment or time (text/email allow responding at a different time, or when talking isn’t an option).

    To hear youngsters complain about it is really humorous – I though us “old farts” were the inflexible ones!

    1. 193.1

      Yep yep yep.

      and it is much easier to have a personal conversation via texting in certain types of jobs.

  14. 194

    I do not like it when a guy calls me. In fact, I’ve told some guys not to call me and text instead, and they got offended. I’m in my mid 20s. I’m busy throughout the day I understand that a guy is putting effort, but I prefer getting texts and answering them when I can. I love getting texts from guys I’m seeing or dating.

    1. 194.1

      I can understand this if you are in class, at the doctor’s office, at work, or any other place where it is impossible to talk, but any other time, you should reconsider this.  The tone that comes across is that you have a great life, and you like your life, likely with a heavy does of being a social butterfly, and there is nothing criminal about that.  I feel that you have carved out a small, tidy partition in your life for a man to fit neatly into.   However, keep this in mind.  We are all the star of our own SOAP opera.  When you look for a mate, you are looking for a co-star.  Friends and family are supporting cast, and the rest are extras.  If you make a man feel as if he is just an extra, or at best, supporting cast, he will find somebody who makes him her co-star.   Relationships aren’t tidy, they are messy, and they are that way for both people.  And, regardless of what so many pop and country songs say, both people have to sacrifice part of themselves for the relationship.  Yes, even the man does.  If you aren’t ready to do that, you aren’t ready for a serious relationship, which is probably why so many who get married before 25, end up divorced.  If you are mid-20s, you should be at or near the point where this is understandable to you.  You should be at the point where you can still look out for your own needs, and yet take the spotlight off of yourself.  In my experience however, not all men and women come to that point in their lives.  They tend to also run off or damage most, if not all of the relationships in their life as a result.

  15. 195

    First, thank you Evan I have been reading your advice and applying to my situation, which thanks to you he officially confirmed I’m his girlfriend, without me asking for a status and learning to play it cool.

    Now, my opinion. I agree with Evan, it depends on what standards you want from the guy.  When I started dating my boyfriend,  I prefer texts, only because I work on the phone all day. However, I also realized I couldn’t fall, or let him think to put in bare minimal with just texts. When he texted me, I would kindly remind him that I appreciated he was reaching out to me, but it would be great if I could hear his sexy voice, or text him back asking, don’t you want to hear my voice? It work. To this day, we text and call. We text everyday, call 3/4 times a week, and see each other 2/3 times a week.

    Bottom line, just be honest and truthful with what your standards are with the guy. If he leaves, it just opens the door for someone better. Believe me, if he likes and want you, he will make the effort. And also remember to give him appreciation/acknowledgement for those efforts, that’s also important.

  16. 196

    Personally I don’t mind texts as a form of communication. I hate talking on the phone sometimes and prefer to touch base with texts. For someone I really like I will talk on the phone, make an extra effort. Funny thing is I’m 52 year old female,so it’s not just a young person thing lol. I will admit tho, you really can’t get to know someone via text and email. Plenty of guys are very funny and articulate in writing but get them on the phone and their true self will show up! One guy I was communicating with via messaging on POF turned out to be rather obnoxious on the phone! Didn’t even seem like the same guy!

  17. 197

    I set up a fake “auto reply” on my phone that says “Auto Reply: 4######### does not accept text messages from unknown callers.  You can contact this customer by calling this customer’s phone number 4#########” That way, if a guy does text me, he knows that I am not responding. Helps to weed out the ones that are not compatible with me. If you don’t have the balls to call me, we will not be a good fit.

  18. 198

    I agree with Evan and personally I am completely off social media and I’ve broken away from using my phone that often. The next person I date, I will be honest about this and would like to schedule in phone calls. I used to really enjoy the ‘good morning babe’ type texts, especially when getting to know someone. Now I’ve seen that some people can use this to be ‘all words no action.’ We connect better and create intimacy through our bodies and sharing experiences. And texts are so disruptive for those of us who love our space and love to miss you and think about you as well as to connect. So call me and we’ll chat, better still let’s make plans and look forward to our pending plans with the kind of excitement that only comes when we are not constantly replying to texts. The slow and genuine build up where we know exactly how we feel because there is space for the love to grow.

  19. 199

    Texting is easy and somewhat of a lazy way to keep in touch with someone. However, if he is also asking you out then I wouldn’t worry about getting texts. If all you are getting texts and promises of getting together, then maybe you want to ask him to delete your number. At least you are getting lots of attention!

  20. 200

    Thank you ! Your post was well said !

  21. 201
    54 yr old dating

    I was texting a guy the other day, we only seem to text not talk and I have been trying to figure out how to get him to call.  I don’t mind texting at times depending on where we are and what we are doing.  I do not expect or want a man or most people call me at work.  Work is work it is not a social setting and I think it is best not to get calls at work unless you and him/her can set the call for your break/meal time.  So, the quick text at work letting me know someone is thinking of me is okay with me.  Other then that I agree I think phone calls are better, less miscommunication or guessing and you can say so much in a more effective way.

  22. 202

    I haven’t seen anyone respond to text or not to text who is my age.  I’m a woman, 68.  My weird adventure lasted less than a month.  It began with me winking at a year-long widowed man on a dating site.  He responded pretty quickly and we got off the dating site and moved to E mail.  He gave me his phone# in one of these emails.  I returned w/ my # but he never called.  He later told me he liked texting and I wasn’t opposed cuz I like the charged kick of bantering back and forth.  You can exchange a good bit of info and get answers faster than waiting for a return E mail.  Of three texting sessions, two of them lasted for hours.  In a text he suggested meeting for coffee or something. and we could work out the details.  So in a heady charged time of a few texts it came to a screeching halt 3 1/2 days ago.  Nothing.  I read and reread our texting looking for clues.  I made the usual excuses….He’s busy, he’ll be traveling soon. But soon it nagged at me…Why not a text like thinking of you or much to be done before leaving town for Christmas.  I’ve been ghosted…Before I even got a phone call or that cup of coffee. I’ve been reading and talking to the younger crowd, and it’s recommended to not contact him.  What I’m seeing is complacency and a somewhat avoidant approach which I see as borderline rude.  Hate to break it to you young people but bad behavior is not new and is not going away soon.  Don’t waste time on this friends.  There’s another ad in the dating sites that may produce phone calls and coffee!

  23. 203

    I am a 49 year old female who is online dating.  This IS a great article and calms me to know I am not crazy or being too picky on what I find reasonable in the initial start up phase of  a relationship.

    i see many people are taking the article the wrong way and defending the texters. Most of you,  however, add that it is a supplement to your phone calls.  I absolutely agree with you.  Sure, it’s easy, quick and convenient and we all love that short and sweet ‘I miss you’ ‘I’m thinking about you’ and the flirty and sexy ones to prepare us on whats to come later:) ….but it should not replace the phone call.  Not hours long.  I mean a simple 5 minute phone call to hear a voice and have that intimate connection.  No one is too busy for that.  Ok, when you are in an exclusive relationship you already know each other, phone calls don’t have to happen regularly when you are going home to them in 8 hours:) again, those flirty texts keep things alive. I’m talking new potential relationships. On match.com  once things get to the phone number stage. (Especially for people my age who didn’t grow up with cell phones)  I do not get a good feeling when a man only communicates through texts. It’s cold. And not a good way to really get to know someone.  It shows disinterest.  But on the flip side I can see how texting can string multiple women along until he sorts through the ones he wants to pursue. It is the minimum he is giving me.  Yes, I know we don’t owe anyone anything when first meeting online.  So no hate mail saying I am too demanding please:)  simply put, if someone wants to get to know me, call me. That’s a true way to start a connection. That 5 minute phone call a few times a week isn’t too much to ask. And yes, throw in some texts too, why not? The VOICE and the effort of the call is much more appreciated.  Oh, and I also can attest to the fact that the calls weed out the players too as someone said here. Asking simple getting to know you questions are much harder to lie and keep up with lies than how easy they are to avoid and ignore in a text.  If anyone accepts the minimum right from the start, they won’t receive any more than the minimum ever. Example. I met who seemed to be a very successful retired state trooper who is now a Psychologist speacializing in law enforcement traumas and family relationship (ironic huh?) he’s 58. After a week of emails we started talking on the phone and texting.  He initially called frequently and then the texts took over and became vague. Red flag. But I simply picked up the phone and had a brief talk with him that as much as I love the texts I receive, in order to get to know each other it’s important to still have that voice to connect us. I prefer to receive phone calls if you are interested in getting to know me . If not,  then I will take it as you are not that into me. (I failed to mention I am also retired law enforcement and heavily trained in  reading people) I just wanted to erase all doubt and yes unfortunately I was correct. He hasn’t called since.  But at least I didn’t waste my time.

    When a man or woman are deciding whether of not this is relationship material.  Start with good communication skills. Texting does have its place and is fun, it’s a SUPPLEMENT to the phone calls and face to face…..90% of all communication is done  NOT through words, but by actions, voice tone, body language.

    1. 203.1

      Agree 100%!  I just broke it off with a guy I had been seeing for over 3 months because of his lack of “real” communication.  He was 150% a beta and after I did the initial work and encouragement to let him know I like phone calls and need follow up to dates, he just didn’t grasp any of it.  He would book me a week in advance for a specific night or nights and then continue to text me each day with the “hope you have a great day”  “Hope you had a great night” messages but no phone call to follow up on what we are doing, a time a place, anything to even acknowledge that we are doing something until I ask him the day of or the day before.  Sometimes he would even wait until 4pm or 5pm the same day to ask what I wanted to do – via text message!  Lazy and no game.  He was 55 yrs old and I was clear that I need a confirmation a day or 2 in advance to make sure we are still on and/or what we would be doing so I can plan my time.

  24. 204

    I loathe mobile phones. The only reason I ever got one was because my car was knocked by a lorry whilst driving on a motorway, and though it was all OK I reflected that I COULD have been stranded on the M40 in the dark and rain, with a wrecked vehicle, and then had to walk half a mile to an emergency phone.

    So I make it clear that it’s for emergencies only, or the scenarios Evan described above, and is turned off the rest of the time.

    Guess what! No problems with getting guys to phone me!

  25. 205
    Louiza Patsis

    Why 5 minutes? Guys I don’t like or many guy friends I have will talk for an hour or more about deep things, too, and I try to get off the phone. And why when a guy is showing (true or not) that he doe snot REALLY like you, and definitely is not head over heels over you or worshipping the ground you walk on like some men do with some women that do not have what you have, are you supposed to worry about how you say something so as not to upset him or hurt his feelings? Why not just say you won’t take a shower, fart and lie down dead during sex which is the equivalent of lazy texting? (Which he could be doing while texting 5 others at the same time anyway, working etc and not giving you 100% attention)

  26. 206

    I do agree with Evan and another issue I’m having online dating is after planning the date, maybe a week out, I start getting “Good morning” daily with sunrise pics etc. We haven’t established if we even like each or not. I’m truly annoyed by it as many men are following the same routine.

    1. 206.1
      Emily, the original


      after planning the date, maybe a week out, I start getting “Good morning” daily with sunrise pics etc.

      I don’t like that, either. I don’t know this person yet. We haven’t established a rapport. I don’t need daily check-ins. It’s too soon for that. Just contact me about a day before the date to verify plans. Then we’ll go from there.

  27. 207

    I am all for a “good morning” text, but overall I would like the connection of hearing the voice on the other end of the phone. I am worth that few minutes. I once had a man who called me and said he needed to wrap up the conversation after about 10 mins, needless to say he got booted out. I realize the technology, however, the personal touch speaks volumes.

  28. 208

    To me, text messaging should be complementary to calls and meetings, not a primary or only form of communication. Sure, it’s quick and more convenient but there’s a time and place for it. It’s understandable during the day, when both parties are most likely busy with work or other affairs. In one’s free time, however, it’s a bit strange to basically try to ‘chat’ through text. When people do that to me, I always think that if they have enough time to punch keys in to send a message, they should have even more time to press that phone symbol… so why don’t they?

    I also disagree with some people’s claims that telephone calls are ‘too much effort’ or ‘take too much of time’. Not only do (both of) you have control over how long a phone conversation lasts but also, if you’re worried about inconveniencing the other person, it’s usually best to ask that person outright if they’re OK with phone calls and their availabilities.

    In dating situations, texts are understandable once people have met up and established familiar contact. In the first stages, however, excessive or exclusive texting connote distance and laziness to me. I’d rather mix it up with phone calls, particularly if it’s difficult to meet face-to-face regularly for whatever reason.

  29. 209

    I typed something similar into google and got this article. Read all 7 pages of comments. Very interesting and makes me feel better! I’m a 36F and I noticed that with this one 30M who was supposedly interested – well some of the things that really bothered me was that his reaching out to me was very boring and dull. It made it seem like he wasn’t trying very hard, he isn’t very interesting, and/or he’s not that interested. He basically didn’t have much game.

    Theres lots more to the story regarding my texting habits and his, but I will say that at one point I called him out on what I learned to be “chumming” and I’ve realized I do not want to engage in stupid repeated morning texts that say “Hey, how you been” – and I’ve realized even after poking fun at him and it rarely making any changes in him – that I can’t stand the lack of punctuation. I think its about leaving the last letter with a question (leaves it hanging so it makes one vulnerable I guess? and what if the other doesn’t answer – its like a ? left hanging maybe) mark; or exclamation mark – makes him seem too girly or impassioned where he wants to seem chill and indifferent.

    Well, there’s a time and a place for exclamation marks, I agree. But with question marks and such? Please. Use them and grow up.

    Also, I have a friend for years and he sometimes texts me out of nowhere but we’ve been friends all these years BECAUSE he has personality. For instance instead of “morning, how are you” he’ll say, “Mexico’s been hit with the worst earthquake. Do you have family in that area?” or “I’m in _____. Jealous?” when its funny and I’m def not jealous. Or he’ll send me something I’d find interesting to read on occasion. Or say something hilarious – like a one-liner.

    Suffice to say, he always gets a fun reply back from me.

    Men, you can’t just be pretty boys. Personality and game are major turn-ons and you have to develop all of these.

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    Sithra Patrick

    Interesting topic. I am in a long distance relationship and prefer text then phone call. The main reason because time zone different. I don’t want to be disturbed when I am sleeping but nice to know someone thingking of you in the morning when I receive a lovely message

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