Movies, Concerts, Dinner, Coffee Are the Worst First Dates Ever.


Movies, concerts, dinner, coffee are the worst first dates ever.

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What setting have you found to be the WORST for a first date?

What setting have you found to be the BEST for a first date?

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  1. 21
    Karl R

    Coffee is okay for a first date, but I wouldn’t go to Starbucks or any other chain. I prefer to go to a coffee house with funky artwork and a cool atmosphere … or one with a nice patio … or one with great people-watching potential….

    For a first date I want to do something where I can find my date without extreme difficulty. I want to do something where we can converse. And I don’t want to spend a lot of money or effort if it turns out that we are completely incompatible.

    Coffee, drinks, dinner, lunch dates, free concerts at the outdoor theatre (plenty of time to talk beforehand) … any of these can work.

    I’ll wait until the second date to do something more memorable.

  2. 22

    I have had some really enjoyable coffee dates. I think the good thing about coffee dates, is that is can be short if you realize you are not a match but can comfortably extend the time if you are both enjoying this initial conversation. For me, movie dates take too long if you realize you are not a fit.

  3. 23

    One of the best first dates I was ever on was a Sunday brunch. I remember she gave me a compliment right off the bat about how good I smelled – that helped me feel accepted – important point…I think there are a lot of things you can do to make it a great first date, like being a great first date as opposed to seeing if the other person impresses you. We hit it off well, then after brunch went on a long walk on the beach. We enjoyed each others company so much we ended up going out to dinner after that and getting drinks after that! We spent 9 hours together! Wound up back at my house having more drinks, but enough about that – but talk about chemistry!
    Walks on the beach are good, or any other type of exploring/walking things to do are good; maybe walking around downtown if there are interesting things to see and do. Visiting art galleries together is a great idea for getting to know things about each other as you have a chance to express ideas and likes and dislikes about something that really doesn’t matter all that much as it relates to your relationship…like weather you like the green in that painting or the texture in another work of art, yet you are still getting to know the person and you are both expressing opinions and feelings and getting to know each other in a light sort of way…nothing too heavy. It can really lead to some funny conversations as you are expressing viewpoints in a non threatening way about a non threatening subject. It can lead to some great teasing and playfulness afterwards too! Same thing with wine tasting. Ever go antiquing?

  4. 24

    I once made a point of suggesting a movie for a first date. It was the weekend that the latest Batman movie came out, and I knew we’d be standing in line for at least an hour, giving us a chance to chat without the aid of alcohol. We did go out to a pub after the movie, and were able to continue our conversation over drinks.

    In my experience, a first date fuelled by alcohol can lead to a dependence on liquid courage on subsequent dates.

  5. 25

    I don’t know why coffee dates get such a bad rap. My first date with my ex-boyfriend was a coffee date. It was short, we had some coffee, we walked around downtown a little bit and talked outside. Then we went our seperate ways. He called it his best first date ever. I do give good first date, I can fill an awkward pause or silence like none other. How great a date it is generally depends on the person and how well you’re clicking. With the right person it’ll be a great coffee, drinks date, brunch, lunch, or dinner. With the wrong one, you’ll be miserable in any setting but at least coffee is short!

    Probably my best first date ever in terms of activity was when I dated a guy who had his pilot’s liscense and he flew me all around the area in a single-engine cessna. That’s impressive.

  6. 26

    I’m in agreement that coffee dates shouldn’t have such a bad rap. However, I think coffee dates are good only for blind dates. If you know someone and they ask you out? Then it should be a dinner date, or a real date. A dinner date can be a little bit uncomfortable if you know absolutely nothing about a person. I prefer to take things to full scale dates when I know that I am either attracted to someone or we have something in common.

  7. 27

    I prefer coffee dates. Its relaxing and not serious. Its better if its less crowded so no one can overhear your conversations.

  8. 28
    Marta Johnson

    Going for coffee I think its good, because if the conversation its not there its time to go.

  9. 29
    Sparkling Emerald

    Best first date ever, was not someone I met online, but the DJ that I met at a singles event.   We went to a free exhibit at a museum downtown, then walked Central Avenue riding the glass elevators in various buildings to get an awesome view of the city at night.   We went out again after that to a magic show, and that was our last date because I was dating a few people at the time and ended marrying someone else.  

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