Maybe as I get older I’m becoming more self-reflective.
I watch my kids – now 3 and 5 – developing personalities, cultivating interests, making friends, growing up.
I want to keep them frozen in time.
Teach them everything I know without them getting hurt.
I know this is not possible. Instead, I do my best to appreciate what I have and make the most of my limited time with them.
And let’s face it: time is the most precious gift in the world and love is the world’s most precious commodity.
So how are you allocating your time these days?
How many hours per week do you spend at work?
How many hours per week do you spend commuting?
How many hours per week do you spend with people you love?
How many hours per week do you spend learning or growing?
How many hours per week do you spend in the pursuit of love?
Tally it up and you’ll see what I see every day.
Let’s face it: time is the most precious gift in the world and love is the world’s most precious commodity.
You know that connecting with others, learning and finding lasting love are the keys to your long-term happiness. But where do you spend all your time?
You spend the least amount of time doing the things that give you the most pleasure.
I’ll admit: I’m very lucky.
I’m my own boss. I work from home. I don’t work nights or weekends because being a good husband and father is more important than any career successes.
But I also know that this is rare. Sometimes your life gets a bit out of whack – where you lose sight of your priorities and you can’t seem to get things under control.
Well, today is your big chance.
Women from all over the world have been emailing me this week to learn more about Love U, my one-of-a-kind program helps you understand men and find love.
Since time is at a premium – and since I can’t conceivably write back emails to every woman who is curious about Love U – I have decided to answer them all here.
“I’m a busy woman with lots of previous obligations. How much time is Love U going to take me?”
The very point of Love U is to bring this world-class material into your hands in a fun, digestible fashion that does not require you to redo your schedule.
Now, I often compare the process of finding love with the process of losing weight. But there’s one big difference:
Losing weight is an arduous process. It never ends.
You watch what you put in your mouth each day for the rest of your life.
You exercise each day for the rest of your life.
Contrast that with Love U, in which one aha moment can change everything.
One two-and-a-half minute video can make a light bulb go on over your head, illuminating your path to the altar.
And that’s why – when my readers told me in a survey they were willing to give 2-3 hours to Love U every week – I got really excited.
I don’t need you to give me 2-3 hours.
To watch the videos, you need 30 minutes per week or 5 minutes a day.
You can knock it out all at once like watching a half-hour sitcom, or you can just look at the videos on your phone before you go to sleep.
Believe me, if you have time to brush your teeth, you have time to do Love U.
“I have some of your other books. Is this just the same material?
Not even close. My three products are Why He Disappeared, Believe in Love, and Finding the One Online. As of yet, I have no products for dating, understanding men, relationships, sex, commitment, communication, or compatibility. While I’m proud of my first three books, they are merely the tip of the iceberg for what you’ll learn in Love U.
“It’s just not the right time for me. I don’t think I’m in the right emotional place to think about dating.”
I completely understand how you feel. I’ve been there personally and I’ve coached thousands of women who were equally burned out on men, dating and relationships.
We definitely agree that there’s no one way to rebound from a break-up. There’s no set amount of time one should take a breather from men. There’s no one perfect way to get to the other side of your negativity and start your quest anew.
Just know that the first month of Love U is all about healing. “Why Bother Syndrome,” “Past Baggage,” “Confidence,” and “Take Action” are the first four weeks…
So it’s certainly not my place to tell you that you’re ready to date yet. You have to take care of yourself emotionally. But please remember two things:
- 1. Just because Love U is a six-month course doesn’t mean you have to use it all in six months. You can pace yourself as you see fit. Need to take a two-month breather? You can always go back to watch the videos later. You have LIFETIME access to this stuff.
2. This is the last chance you have to connect with me for any form of coaching this year. So you can wait until 2017 to say you’re healed if you want. The question is whether you need that much time to delay the inevitable and get back out there.
In my opinion, love is something that should never wait.
As John Lennon said, “Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” So sure, you can put off this incredible opportunity to attract and connect with a quality man. But why would you?
“I just don’t know if it’s worth the money.”
Really? Look at your credit card statement.
Take a look at what you spend money on.
Car. Gym. Hair. Gas. Makeup.
Shoes. Clothing. Gifts. Restaurants. Classes.
Travel. Gadgets. Antiques. Hobbies.
I’m sure we could go on, but if this is where your money is going, can you really say with a straight face that any of this is more important than LOVE?
Let’s look at it another way – pre-boyfriend and post-boyfriend.
Would you rather buy dinner for one or have a man who takes you out to dinner?
Would you rather spend thousands on home improvement or find a guy who is handy around the house?
Would you rather travel with a girlfriend or stay in a honeymoon suite?
When all is said and done, there is literally NOTHING more important than love.
And for the price of a small salad and a cup of coffee each day, I will answer your most pressing questions about dating, sex, men and relationships so that you will gain confidence, awareness, experience, motivation, perspective and success.
If you’d rather invest that same money in something else, that’s fine.
But don’t tell me that $333/month for 6 months is too much to spend on finding a spouse.
You spent $100,000 on a college education and you forgot everything you learned.
My area of expertise – self-esteem, love, and happiness – is far more important and will pay infinitely greater dividends in your future.
“Okay, Evan, it’s worth the money. I just don’t want to SPEND the money.”
That’s a little closer to the truth.
You deserve to have your true love by your side, making you happy every day.
And I completely get it:
You don’t want to spend money on something that seems unnecessary.
After all, millions of women find love without Love U.
Why should you have to invest in a course to find love?
But I have a question to your question:
How many more years do you want to struggle with men?
How many more years do you want to be alone?
How many more years will you invest your time, energy and money in things that are comparatively frivolous – cars, vacations, furniture, fashion, beauty?
How many more years are you going to deny how much you want to be loved just because you’re afraid of failure?
Because to me, THAT’s the crux of it.
You’re not afraid of investing the money in a quality program like Love U.
You’re afraid of what happens if this doesn’t work.
You’re afraid of doing anything different – and you justify it by staying in the exact same place you are today. Low-stakes, low-rewards. Spending more time at work than on love, even though you know that love makes the world go ‘round.
So I am certainly not saying that Love U’s monthly cost is nothing.
I’m saying that when you look back in 30 years at how happy you were to have spent your life with one special man, you will certainly not remember the investment it took to get you there.
I am now married to a wonderful man that I met about 2 years ago on Match. I cannot overemphasize how important your guidance and advice was in finding the right person for me. I worked with you in different capacities over half a year I think. I tried Match, eHarmony, speed dating, blind dates, ItsJustLunch and went on over 80 dates with about 40 people. It was exhausting and disappointing. Really hard. The hardest thing I have done in my life apart from going through a divorce and then a failed engagement. I read lots of books on dating (for the first time in my late 30s) and spoke with girlfriends and family, but your sharp advice kept me focused and gave me invaluable perspective. I chose to believe you and followed your advice as I was lost without it – it gave me hope where I thought no hope existed.
At the end it happened exactly the way you predicted it. While I was struggling with the tedious, demanding, exhausting dating life, he was going through a divorce and recovering. One day the wife of his best friend signed him up for Match. I winked at him. He wrote me a thoughtful response. I was his second date from Match and it instantly clicked. We were married in September after a year of dating.
All I can say is THANK YOU. Keep doing what you are doing – you are so good at it. You were the wizard in my love story.
Ana was a private client who paid nearly $8000 for 3 months of coaching in 2013.
Love U is only $333/month for a six-month curriculum with weekly videos, exercises, a weekly live coaching call with me, access to my Inner Circle community filled with smart, strong, successful women like you, and regular emailed advice.
Not only that, but there’s a 30-day-100%-money-back guarantee. You have access to Love U for life. And time is running out, as this special offer is only available until Sunday, June 12th.
Remember, there is nothing more precious than the time you spend with loved ones.
You deserve to have your true love by your side, making you happy every day.
Please, don’t passively wait and hope to get the love you deserve.
Warmest wishes and much love,
P.S. Healthy. Loving. Calm. That’s what you’ll feel when you are in the relationship I’m describing. I know six months seems far away right now, but imagine what it could be like to be in a healthy, happy relationship, where you can kiss your boyfriend on New Years Eve.
This can be your destiny…but you have to act before Love U enrollment closes on Sunday, June 12th.
P.P.S. If you still have questions about Love U, check out my FAQ, which should cover just about everything you need to know about this limited-time offer.
Can’t wait to see you next week for your first class about gaining Confidence…