John Tierney of the New York Times reports about a study that I cited last year, in which the follies of shallow online daters are dissected for the world to see. To his credit, because he’s a Times columnist, he dug up a study I hadn’t seen before, covering the behaviors of speed daters, who, not surprisingly, are even MORE shallow. Among the selected highlights:
Women who speed date are selected by half the men.
Men who speed date are selected by one-third of the women.
Money quote: “Women were not only pickier than men, but also more realistic about their own appeal in the dating market. Correctly divining that men put a premium on looks, the more attractive women set a higher bar for their partners than less attractive women did. But the men set about the same bar for their partners no matter what they looked like themselves or how successful they were professionally.”
You mean below average men actually think they have a shot at at above average women? Really? Who knew?
But guys aren’t the only ones to be single-minded about their preferences.
Ordinary looking men whose picture is in the median in attractiveness would have to make $143,000 more than a guy in the 90th percentile in order to have the same success. Similarly, a 5′ 6″ man would have to make $183,000 more than a 6’0″ man if he wanted to level the playing field.
Finally, fewer than 1 percent of online daters rated themselves as having “less than average looks”.
Who says that people lack self-esteem?