You may think dating is a dirty word. Not when you do it my way. If you’ve ever struggled with attracting the “right” guys, getting second dates, or turning a hook-up into a boyfriend, my blog posts on dating will show you how to stop making the mistakes that have plagued you for your whole life.
Like Meghan Daum, Heather Havrilesky is another author and Facebook friend whom I haven’t met yet. She, too, is a Duke graduate from the 90’s as well as a noted advice columnist, and I’ll be the first to admit that she’s probably better than I am.
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I’m 35, I’m from Germany, and admittedly some national clichés are very true: Germans don’t date well, have a sinister tendency and generally don’t deal with the opposite sex in a very playful way. I was the same, plus having had unhealthy codependent tendencies in my first marriage, that ended 4 years ago and left me devastated for quite a while.
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I started dating this guy on May 9th, 2017. We dated for 10 months and broke up and after that we’ve been on and off. All those times we’ve been together he never once posted me on his Snapchat and Instagram. He posts everything else but me and I just don’t understand.
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As a dating coach for smart, strong, successful women, I am well aware of the myriad problems you have with men. How they sleep with you without commitment. How they seem like they’re into you but they’re not.
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I do a lot of online dating stuff because it’s hard to create a social life from scratch when you’re 35-60, work in a small office, and most of your friends are married. But that doesn’t mean I don’t see the great importance of real-life interactions.
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I’m 42 years old and my boyfriend is almost 48. He was married once before and has two young adult children. We’ve been together for five years. Three years in, I asked about marriage and he told me he wasn’t ready. I was ready to break up with him until he gave me a sweet promise ring and swore that he really does want to marry me, but he just wasn’t ready and needed more time.
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You may have heard me talk about short-term pessimism and long-term optimism. I mention it in my Believe in Love program and I firmly believe it’s the only way to date.…
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For some people, life is just a series of dogs. For me, life has been a series of romantic relationships. Maggie Parker would seem to feel the same way. In her New York Times Modern Love column, she pens an ode to all of her exes after she finally got engaged.
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Neat article in Business Insider confirms what most of us already suspect: Looks matter. Clothes matter. Non-verbal cues matter. Eye contact matters. Perception matters.
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Whether you’ve ever labeled someone a “10” or are well-versed in the concept of “sexual market value” doesn’t matter. It may be crude and it may be un-PC, but according to a study cited in a recent Atlantic article, leagues DO seem to exist.
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You didn't always tell me what I wanted to hear, but what I needed to hear. You were honest with me even when I didn't like it. You put a mirror to my face...no one enjoys that but it's important if you really want to make a change and find the real thing.
He makes me feel special, goes out of his way for me, doesn't keep me guessing about whether I'll hear from him, gives me his full attention.
He recently started referring to us as boyfriend and girlfriend and it makes my heart sing. I really feel that we are moving towards the next level in our relationship and I continue to listen to “Why He Disappeared” on a weekly basis to keep myself grounded.
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