[Video] Why Do Women Care About Height?”


Here’s the latest video from the series I created with Three Day Rule. It’s called “Why Do Women Care About Height?”

You can’t legislate attraction. It’s something that happens deep within us. However, when you dismiss potential dates based on their height, you could be turning away your perfect mate.

In today’s video we talk about why you’re better off compromising on height, than on other, more important qualities in a man.

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    Buck said “My point was, and is, that both   far right Nazi-ism (Fascism) and   far left socialism are fundamentally totalitarian ideologies.”   But prior to that he said “What I said, was that the far Left, and Neo-Nazis, were the flip sides of the same intellectually dishonest coin.  NOWHERE, absolutely nowhere,   did I ever “call the left   “Nazis”.

    Your first quote did not mention that neo-nazi’s were the extreme “right”.   That came off as ONLY the left has a “far” side.

    Also, I don’t ever use a broad brush and paint everyone who leans right of center as bigots, but when gun-nuts take their guns and surround a mosque and shout “F*ck Islam” at those who are attending mosque I will call out THOSE actions as bigoted.   Right wing reporters,   bloviators might want to claim that these are just patriotic citizens exercising their first and second amendment rights, but I will call them bigots, and if right wingers want to defend those actions, they should not boo-hoo if they too are considered bigoted for endorsing and encouraging such behavior.   Most charges of bigotry I have seen leveled at “the right” has been against specific people for specific acts.   The right wing propoganda machine at Fox tries to pin every crime, every world problem on anyone who they consider “the left”.

    Fox News paints the ENTIRE “left” wing as bigots, nazi’s etc. over trivial things such as wishing a total stranger   “Happy Holiday” instead of a “Merry Christmas” and this “war on Christmas” that was entirely invented by Fox Noise has also been linked to “Nazi-ism”, “Facism” etc.   One extreme right wing Christmas warrior, took a gun to Starbucks to protest   that the design of their winter coffee cup wasn’t sufficiently Christmassy.   (nothing honors Jesus like putting his likeness on a disposable cup)   Faux News paints the murder of nine black church congregants as an act of “anti-Christianity” even though the murderer specifically told the congregants that he was killing them because they were black.   Despite all the evidence that he was trying to start a race war, Fox News tried to spin this story as “The Left” committing “Anti Christian” acts.


    An extreme anti-aboritionist shoots up a planned parenthood and mumbles “no more baby parts”, and again, the right wing bloviators try to pin this as either a bank robbery, or pin this on “the left”.

    When a gunman went into a Unitarian Church and started killing people, his 10 page manifesto specifically stated that he was going after LIBERALS and gay friendly organizations.   World Net Daily tried to spin that as an “anti-Christian” crime.   And some conservatives took a timid “Well what he did was wrong BUT”. . . and then went into an anti Unitarian rant.   It’s bad enough that “the left” is to blame for every social ill, known to man, but even when reporting on extreme right-wingers committing crimes for the specific purpose of advancing their far right agenda, the far right finds a way to blame “the left” for those actions.

    Right wing bloviators CONSTANTLY label anyone who is NOT Christian as being “ANTI-Christian” and when their constant calls that the government endorse their particular brand of Christianity are not met, they scream “persecution”.   (Sorry, the government is not interfering with your right to pray, just because the president doesn’t sign an official day of prayer proclamation, if you need the government to give you official permission to pray, then the problem is with YOU, not the government)

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      You said, “Also, I don’t ever use a broad brush and paint everyone who leans right of center as bigots, but when gun-nuts take their guns and surround a mosque and shout “F*ck Islam” at those who are attending mosque I will call out THOSE actions as bigoted.   Right wing  reporters,  bloviators might want to claim that these are just patriotic citizens exercising their first and second amendment rights, but I will call them bigots, and if right wingers want to defend those actions, they should not boo-hoo if they too are considered bigoted for endorsing and encouraging such behavior.”

      Got it! There are crazies on the fringes of ALL sides. Why can’t we all agree and admit that. No matter your political / social stance, can’t we all just agree on this? You mention only the actions of the right wing nuts and not the left wing nuts.

      How many times have entire cities “protested” when it is perceived that a police officer shoots an innocent black man before even knowing the facts? Whether innocent or guilty, does that give people the right to carry weapons in the streets, scare their neighbors, loot, destroy property, etc? The left nuts say it’s wrong BUT will excuse it away saying this is the results   of racism, encouraging the victim mentality of the supposedly socially oppressed, etc.

      Extremes on both ends are wrong! I think most reasonable people can agree on this regardless of beliefs.

      I don’t plan on commenting on here anything political again because that is not the focus of this blog and will only bring division.

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    So , you will not tolerate someone who is anti-Muslim , but you are intolerant of conservative Christians.   I am neither, so I don`t care.   Meaning, a devout Muslim will be overwhelmingly anti-gay, anti-abortion, anti- sex outside marriage, etc, but that is ok for you because they are overwhelmingly from third-world countries and render some exotic appeal, while right-wing Christians are just crazy white people.   If you are intolerant of the ultra-religious, fine, but be intolerant of ALL of them.

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    One turn on about dating someone my height or shorter,   (I’m 5’5′ and a woman),   is when standing you are looking them directly in the eyes.   I think it’s hot!

    I try and keep an open mind when dating. I’m looking for the whole package:)

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    I’m 5’4″ or 5’5″, depending on how regularly I do yoga to straighten up 😉 I prefer a guy taller than me, but he doesn’t have to be 6 feet tall. In fact sometimes I think hugs are more awkward with that height difference.

    I tried to date someone my height or maybe an inch shorter and it physically didn’t feel right. It was something I couldn’t get over and it kind of pissed me off because the guy was really good looking and nice otherwise.

    BUT I’m wondering if it may not have been completely the height but that I didn’t feel like his hug was strong enough. I’ve been told I’m a great hugger and it didn’t feel like I got the same back. Apparently I have a thing with hugging 😉

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      Ya know Jamie, I value hugging more than kissing, in a relationship.   Crazy, eh?   🙂

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    Hey Evan, I appreciate you putting up this video.   It helps so much, even outside the bounds of dating.   As I have previously mentioned, societal convention dictates what is acceptable, and IMO, women choose dates just as much for acceptance from their social circles, as anything.

    Videos from well-known dating coaches such as yourself, really help.



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    On paper, women may prefer taller guy but in reality they date a lot of average to short men too.

    A guy not being 6 ft. isn’t a deal breaker   for  me….

    If   you’re sexy,you’re sexy! Period. 🙂

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    Just a thought on social acceptance –

    I can’t imagine any of my friends or family giving a damn how tall a guy I’m dating is but I do care what they think of the man I’m dating.   If all the people who love me think I’ve made a bad choice, that would give me pause.   The only time it’s ever happened, they were so right and I don’t know what I was thinking.

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    I speak only from personal experience:

    My best relationships (more romantic, passionate, fun, serious) have always been with short guys, i.e. under 6′ and often under 5’10”.

    The best lovers have always been short guys.

    I’m dating a ‘short’ (5’10”), balding guy now and it’s the most amazing relationship I’ve had. Height doesn’t affect character or attractiveness.

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    As a woman who’s 5’10”, I prefer dating men at least as tall as me because I don’t enjoy towering over a guy (especially if I’m wearing heels). And I often find that shorter men aren’t particularly comfortable dating ME either, even if they claim they are at first.

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    Frank Johnson

    This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the foxes who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH.   And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.  One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to.   I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches.   She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men.   On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all.   Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
    This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection.   Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry.   I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality.   No.   The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height.     Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
    I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”.   (I am 5’8”)   And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence and a tie in with this blog.   No doubt all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s, for I certainly didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking.   These women were past their prime and worried.     I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years.     It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did.   When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife.   I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age.   Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them.   I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier would not have given me the time of day.   And even now, they may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them.   I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women.   Why go old, when I could go young?   I was amazed how the dating game changed in my favor.   And I used it to my advantage, just as women had done years earlier.
    I am now married and have 4 sons.   I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored 2 US patents.   I could have provided a good life to any girl.   I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance.   I was turned down consistently and without a second thought.   (Maybe due to the Alfa male fascination)   So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself.   There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity.   (This also applies to average height women, too)   And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man (and Beta males) until it is too late.   You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males (and Beta males) in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate.   There are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones.   So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them.   I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship.   Throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.
    By the way, another tie in with this article and be found at this web site.
    This writer tell about his rejections in his 20’s by women only to find that women now chased after him, in spite of his height, now he is in his early 30’s.   He warns of the dangers of the “Reformed Heightest Woman” who are desperate after wasting their life chasing the Alfa male and now want a stable Beta with a steady pay-check.
    Here is anther on how women who found the Mr. Average (Beta Males) were worth nothing in their 20’s and now that these women are in their 30’s can’t buy a date, even from the Beta Males
    Why women lose in the dating game
    During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. As Whiskey puts it at whiskeysplace.wordpress.com: ”Joe Average Beta Male is about as desirable to women as a cold bowl of oatmeal.”
    ”I can’t believe how many men my age are only interested in younger women,” wails Gail, a 34-year-old advertising executive as she describes her first search through men’s profiles on the RSVP internet dating site. She is shocked to find many mid-30s men have set up their profiles to refuse mail from women their own age.
    Talking to many women like her, it’s intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren’t ready. American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ”intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind”. She acknowledged ”there was no good reason to end things”, yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. That was 11 years ago. She’s is now 39 and facing grim choices.

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      Mark Deffon

      Frank, you beautiful man. This needs to be taught to every male child as soon as they hit puberty. Everyone who thinks differently is lying to themselves.


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        Frank Johnson


        Read the other articles I noted.   They have so much more insight that I do.


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    Frank Johnson

    This is a video is a great parody on female obsession over height, too bad you will never see something like this on comedy central.   This is worth watching.
                                 The web site the video is from is http://heightismandothershit.blogspot.com/

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