What Do You Bring To The Table?


Blogger BbSezMore recently wrote that when she was single, she never stopped to think about what she offered to a man, other than love. “It seemed so simple back then: if you loved someone, and they loved you back, then it all worked out. Game, set, match.”

These days, everyone want to know: “What’s in it for me???”

She advocates making a list of what you’re offering a potential partner. According to Bb, your answer can only contain what men find desirable:

—feminine qualities (appearance, demeanor, etc.)
—behaviors (how you would act in a relationship)

Essentially, your list should reflect your best qualities, and that is what you should be offering to a partner. Is what you are offering equal to what you are expecting?

Do you consider what you have to offer your dates, or merely what your dates are offering YOU? Read the post here and share your insights in the comments.

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    When I was looking to settle down around the age of 32. I as a female was looking for these three basic things when looking for someone to settle with..they were not personality trait based 1. A job 2. A car 3. A property of their own. Why ? because that is the benchmark for those aspects to a relationship for me…Does that make me shallow ? Hardly..I didn’t want a bum that would leach off me and my achievements and if you’ve earned things for yourself you appreciate the value of things so much more than getting financial gain though another person and in today’s society it’s usually the women who gains through a man. So why would a man want the same thing if in the same position…that does not make him selfish. It means people like me think about life more in depth and of course in terms of the non material facets to a relationship EVERYONE is searching for love and wants the same shared values and for a normal, decent person. Don’t you want to find your equal in a non material and material sense ? Also if you are successful financially Hello ??? how much easier is it for a person if the women brings something and the man brings something (what ever the amount/asset is) to the table and you combine your wealth to share with one another just the same as if you share your feelings of love, hopes and dreams with each other. All my friends and sisters have nothing in a financial sense…some have degrees providing better paying jobs you would think and a different level of education and other female friends just have office jobs but they all have husbands who were the ones who had the money or assets before meeting them…who’s that great for ? the women isn’t it ? It’s accepted in society that a man financially provides. I only have one friend who in addition to having a job had her own property before meeting her hubby…although he had the greater portion to contribute it still helped both of them to get ahead together…isn’t it fairer and easier that she also had some thing in a financial sense to share ? As opposed to someone who doesn’t…So I should just share what I have with any old person…who doesn’t work hard or has not made wise decisions…who cares right ? Well how stupid are some of the above comments ! That’s rubbish search for some one who has something too as I don’t understand how you can reach the age of 35-40 be single never married , no children and not have anything for yourself…where did you put all your money ? And then you expect to meet a man to take care of you…why because you think it’s your birth right as a female…Nonsense !

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