Why Don’t Men Hate Being Single As Much As Women Do?

Why Don’t Men Hate Being Single As Much As Women Do? Dear Evan,

Why don’t men hate being single as much as women do? I know you say most men are marriage-minded underneath but they seem much less interested in getting into a stable, committed relationship than women do, and seem to drag their heels.

Some of the things I hate about being single are (in no particular order): lack of love, affection and emotional support; not having someone to go on vacation with; not having someone to share domestic tasks with; being excluded from social gatherings because I don’t have a partner; not having someone to talk to at home on a day to day basis; having to cope with the financial burden of being single (apartment, bills etc.); not having a regular source of quality sex available.

Surely these things apply to men just as much as women? If this is the case, why aren’t men jumping up and down with excitement when they meet someone they connect with, like we are? Why aren’t they just as keen as we are to know “where things are going” early on in the relationship? A lot of men my age seem uninterested in a committed relationship, seeming to prefer a more casual “low investment, low return” approach to relationships. Do men actually ENJOY the endless tedium and stress of going on a string of disappointing dates? Or does it all simply come down to the capriciousness of the female orgasm – since men can have an orgasm with practically anyone, they don’t much care who they’re with, whereas if a woman finds someone who’s actually good in bed she’s desperate to hang on to him?! Your insights would be much appreciated.  -Elaine

Dear Elaine,

Love. This. Question.

I particularly love your list of what sucks about being single. As a guy who was single for 35 years, I completely agree and think that – all things remaining equal – having a good relationship is a far superior state of being than being alone.

(This does not mean that I look down on single people or think you should be in an unsatisfying relationship so, please, spare me the complaints.)

My assistant says it’s because when they’re single, they can play video games and watch porn, and if they got a girlfriend, she’d insist they give up one or both.

But what gets me the most excited, Elaine, is that you’ve forced me to consider something that I’ve never actually considered before:

Why Don’t Men Hate Being Single As Much as Women Do?

My assistant says it’s because when they’re single, they can play video games and watch porn, and if they got a girlfriend, she’d insist they give up one or both.

Funny, but probably not the entire picture.

So, together, let’s consider why men are generally cooler with being single than women:

1. Low investment, low return. As I observed in “Why He Disappeared”, this tends to be the way that men deal with most of their relationships. When a man hangs out with another man, he’ll watch sports, play poker, talk trash, grab a few drinks, and maybe talk about whether he’s hooking up. This takes care of most of a man’s basic needs – for companionship, for laughs, for fun.

Men are more likely to define themselves by their careers – What do I do? How much do I earn? What kind of car do I drive? How big is my TV?

As I look at that list, it occurs to me that most of my clients who are perfectly content being single are satisfied with their female friendships. My mom, for example: she volunteers at the hospital, she tap dances in the musical at her clubhouse, she plays canasta with the girls twice a week, she does Sudoku in her garden, she’s on the party-planning committee… and while she misses a travel companion, movie companion and regular sex, life is pretty much okay as it is.

I just think there are more men than women who are okay with low-investment, low-return, that’s all. Which brings us to…

2. Self-definition. Men are more likely to define themselves by their careers – What do I do? How much do I earn? What kind of car do I drive? How big is my TV?

This is unfortunate and short-sighted because nobody dies thinking that he wishes he had a 72” Sony instead of a 64” Vizio. But hey, that’s men.

Women, who are, in general, more emotional and intuitive, are more likely to define their lives by their relationships. So when they lack a partner, they’ll be disproportionately sadder than men, who just bury themselves in more work and (sometimes) play.

Then again, many of my smart, strong, successful clients also bury themselves in their work for a decade, and emerge from their cocoon of success and travel, only to learn that they’re really, really lonely. I can only imagine there are millions of women who haven’t contacted me who continue to immerse themselves in that worldview that success and accomplishment matters more than love. Which brings us to…

3. Communication styles. I’ve said it before, I’ll say it again: men need more help; women ask for more help. And nowhere is that clearer than in the realm of relationships.

A few thoughts off the top of my head:

• Over twice as many women take anti-depressants, compared to men. I remember reading somewhere that it was about 1 in 6 women vs. 1 in 48 men.

• 90% of the self-help market in bookstores is for women. Seriously, apart from “The Game” have you ever seen a relationship book for men that’s sold in airport bookstores?

• Women maintain closer friendships throughout life. My mom talks to her best friend every day. She has friends who talk to their daughters every day. I’m as sensitive as they come and I talk to my best friends in New York about once a month.

In other words, even if men feel the emotional need to connect, they rarely reach out to do so – with each other, with their families, and with you.

Women talk about their feelings with much greater frequency and intensity, further feeding the perception/reality that they care more about relationships.

4. Sex – Perhaps Charlie Sheen said it best, years ago, when talking about his predilection for prostitutes: “I don’t pay them for sex. I pay them to leave.”

There are a decent number of men out there who don’t really desire the same kind of relationship as you do. Their needs are met by their male friendships and their careers and the last thing they want to do is hold your purse when shopping at Nordstrom.

You can tell who these men are because when they’re not with you, you don’t exist. They’ll call you once a week to hook up and that’s all. These guys play on their terms, not yours and are a total waste of time to any woman trying to forge something real and lasting. It’s like trying to teach a fish to ride a bicycle. In my experience, there are very few women who treat men as if they’re good for nothing but sex.

So yeah, a man’s ability to separate sex and love is another valid reason he’s not terribly upset when he’s single.

The last thing men want to do is hold your purse when shopping at Nordstrom.

5. Expectations about relationships. I think this is the most important point of all. Women expect their relationships to be transcendent. They expect the man to illuminate and inspire. You remember “Eat, Pray, Love,” right? “You don’t need a man. You need a champion.”

Guys don’t work that way. We want someone who is attractive, who doesn’t criticize us or tell us how much we need to change, who we can spend lots of time with without getting bored, who we can bring around our friends and families with minimal incident.

You don’t have to play fantasy football.
You don’t have to make six figures.
You don’t have to have washboard abs.
You don’t have to have an M.B.A.
You don’t have to be spiritual.

As a result, most men can date lots of women.

Women – at least my clients – can only date .0001% of men.

Elizabeth Gilbert, in her follow-up to “Eat, Pray, Love,” called “Committed”, explores these outlandish expectations that Western women have for love – which are nothing like what women in other cultures experience. As a result, Western women are very disappointed in their men, whereas men aren’t nearly as disappointed in women.

In other words, we think you’re fine as you are.

We just hate the fact that you need us to change so much.

As a result of all of these biological and societal observations about men, it shouldn’t be too surprising that there are no Time Magazine cover stories or best-selling books about desperate men.

We can separate sex and love, we define ourselves by our work, we don’t lack dating options, we get 95% of our needs met without female companionship, and we don’t talk about relationships nearly as much.

If there’s anything I missed, please let me know. Guys, please chime in here. Why are you okay not being in a relationship – and how is this different than the women you know?

Join our conversation (1,818 Comments).
Click Here To Leave Your Comment Below.


  1. 841

    Almost 3 years since I caught my ex cheating, and divorced now for 2 years. I like my mid-50’s single life better than my former married life, period. I feel better suited to solo living, actually. It was hard to be solo, at first, after 25 years of marriage, but I healed and got to this point. At my age the drive for procreation has waned, although I’m healthy and active. I like women, want to be with them, but not all the time. I think I now feel the same way women feel about men—take ’em or leave ’em  -funny how time and experience have changed me. When dating, now, I’m just not really buying into the tired idea that the woman is more special than me, and I’m to treat her as such, while also never forgetting my place as the lowly suitor and payer–what a load of horse…. I appreciate and want attention from women, like any man does, but don’t really see the point anymore past light dating. I like to have a “high-school girlfriend” type of fun situation, while we both go back to our own places after every date. I’ve done the children, the house, and the young dreams of new love and bright futures.

  2. 842

    Sad to say it but Evan seems to be correct. A lot of men don’t BELIEVE they need a woman for anything more than her private parts. It’s a bitter pill to swallow ladies but there are many many many men who behave this way.  Not all, but lots of them do.
    So what does a woman (who wants to be in a fulfilling relationship) do? Well, here’s what I do…I chill out! Yup that’s what I do. I remind myself not to worry about meeting someone. I try to fill my time with work, family staying healthy and other hobbies.  I don’t make an effort to meet a man. If one comes along…cool if not, that’s cool too. It’s not easy when you think everyone else is happy in a relationship but that’s not ever the case. Relationships are hard and it takes TWO people to make them work.

    Furthermore ladies, we have to retrain our brains. We don’t need men either. It would be nice to have a man; but we don’t need them. We don’t need to be a good cook, spit shine cleaning, ego stroking machine. Guard your hearts ladies!!!! Don’t give these bums the “time of day”. Like I said, it would be nice to have a dude in your life but don’t make it the end all be all to life.

    Also, enjoy the eye candy ladies….and that’s it. If you see a fine looking dude, enjoy the view then keep it movin. It’s nice to see a nice looking guy and be free to not have to cook for him, clean up after him or listen to him complain about his job, belch, or whatever else guys do that are annoying. He doesn’t live with you and he’s not your problem. Men can be big big babies…think about it ladies…do you REALLY want to take on all that responsibility.  It takes a long time for men to become grownups. Most men don’t mature fully until age 43 approximately. Enjoy your time alone because once you do meet the right guy that’s it…no more fun single life…here comes the life of eternal compromise (of your time, your home decor, your meals, your body, etc etc).

    So, I’ve been married for 17+ years and now divorced/single for 4 years. I am happy to be free. I would like to met a nice dude. With that said…even if I never met Mr.Right im cool, im good because I’d rather be alone than be with some half azz, passive aggressive jerk that doesn’t want to actively do his part in making a relationship fulfilling.

    1. 842.1

      Well what else do you have to offer to the table then just beside your vagina?

      One of reason why I’ve opted out is because many modern women have nothing to offer to the table, & expect us men to pick up the slack—can’t cook, can’t clean, can’t act like women.  Many don’t know how to take care of a man, & you’re surprised why men don’t want to get married?


      1. 842.1.1

        Are you serious???! TAKE CARE OF A MAN? You just be joking.

        Maybe if you begin by being just a little interested in the woman’s well being she might be more interested in your’s…

      2. 842.1.2

        Whahahahahaha!  Anonymous 842.1 you are quite the joker.  While there are women who feel their sex is enough, there are far more women who have a lot to offer.   Cooking and cleaning isn’t the only thing a woman can have to offer. Personally, I am kind, tolerant, easy going, and have land and a house that is paid for. I have a good job, and am told I am quite attractive.  ( I actually have done some modeling for pay.)  But men like you act as if all I have to offer is the sex. Smmmh.

  3. 843

    I am a female of 45.  After reading the articles about what men want and women want in relationships and the men saying that unattractive men are more likely to be married.  I believe this to be true.

    I am very attractive.  If i were seeking a male i would prefer a stable man who is who is loyal, kind etc compared to a man who is drop-dead gorgeous and busy with other things seeking a shallow type girlfriend; working hard to get away from the fact that he is not stable or manly enough to seek true love with a female.  The unattractive man would seek to work with me and love me for who i am and would marry me for me.  He wouldn’t have a problem going to counselling and deciding to change something in order for us to stay together.  It would be a mutual thing as i would change in order to stay with him as well.

    Being an attractive female wouldn’t make me feel that i should want to date (gorgeous) dozens of men but i would want to be settled with one person even if he should be unattractive.  Forget the drop-dead gorgeous ones.  If it is hard to meet a gorgeous stable one I would prefer someone not so gorgeous.  Anyway, the gorgeous ones tend to be shallow and not stable.



  4. 844

    The truth is..

    No one likes to be alone. I have a friend who is 35, he’s very successful, has his own business, his two story, two car garage, beautiful home. He has 2 vehicles, the freedom to go anywhere. Happy no? At the end of the night, he goes home to an empty pillow. But, he had not found the one, he had not found value in any woman he was dating. He had not found that one woman who was…..Relaxed with her emotions, and self confidence. A woman who could just be happy….In the moment. And value those moments without asking or….Demanding, or criticising.  A truly, *greatful*, woman.

    Women…..And I am a woman. We don’t realize that we kill the exitement by demanding, by pursuing, asking, wanting, instead of just….Being.

    When I married my ex 15 years ago, he pursued me with such a passion. Why? I was happy being alone. I didn’t show any….Needy behaviors…When I was with him. And, I had just lost a great job, and I had lost my new car, I couldn’t afford payments any longer. But…I wasn’t whining about any of it. I knew good would come my way. I was happy, going out meeting new people, going sailing. He felt that joy. Who doesn’t want to be near joy?

    Focus on you…On your passions, something that shifts your energy to a higher vibration. Then watch men….Flock to be near you. My ex was a 6’3 tall, green eyed, passionate Soldier. He could have had…Anyone. But, I was joy.


    Men want joy. So…Let’s not label. Men simply know what they want. They are patient. They look for it. They wait. They wait for that soft spot to arrive. Men will give up the thrown…..For the woman that inspires them. Be an inspiration for yourself, and you won’t have to question this anymore. You will have a list of men coming your way.


    Good quality men.

  5. 845

    I am looking forward to reading all the comments here, instead of the few I have just now read. Interesting subject.  I have to decide whether I want to remarry, also, with my divorce still being fresh.  It probably hinges on finding the coveted needle in a haystack–the right one.

    My ex-husband is like many men I know, in that he wanted a built-in support system of having a wife, when there isn’t much else to personally define himself with.  It’s not that he is a loser–but rather it’s that he came from a different and less materialistic culture that values family.  My ex had unrealistic expectations of what I was capable of when having to work very hard at my job.  If he had done more to improve his employment situation I could have met those expectations by taking on less responsibility, but he didn’t understand the idea off giving a little to get a little. He wanted to pick some things out of his culture that benefited him, and the things out of American culture that also benefited him, while making it confusing and impossible for me to understand what his expectations of me were.  I don’t think he knew what his own expectations of me were, so he yelled a LOT.

    In my part of the world (the South) it is still expected of women to be the head of household details, with the majority of responsibility for meals and cleaning, laundry, etc; but at the same time pulling her “fair share” of the workload on earning an income outside the home.  The courts understandably  take the role that it is fair for a women to have less earning capacity if she backs off from the career, to take on the responsibilities of taking care of the home and raising children, but men often forget this, and I read complaints in this thread about a “one-sided court.”  The father’s rights groups have tried to stop the court from making these considerations.

    The confusion over traditional roles versus being in the workforce is still a problem imposed on women, and we women are smart enough to see it, therefor I know many women that don’t want to play this game anymore. The father’s rights groups have made marriage and the riskiness associated with divorce a losing proposition for both men and women. They are the source of unfair criticism of  “feminism” and misogynist rhetoric.  The men leading these groups appear to be emotionally abusive and narcissistic, and fail to take responsibility themselves for the emotional abuse they piled onto their ex wives, preferring to blame “feminism”.   Therefor women looking for alternative arrangements to having children, other than the traditional marriage. It’s only a losing proposition for women.  If a woman has any wealth, she better sign a pre-nup, because the man wants it all for himself and then wants to divorce the woman leaving her destitute as a form of revenge.  He can usually afford a better lawyer. I see it happening a lot in divorce court. (I am a lawyer, and BTW I represent more men than I do women, and neither gender has a monopoly on rotten people.)

    Now my ex is alone and desperately unhappy being single.  He didn’t grow up in the North America/U.S.A. culture. He wasn’t taught to identify with his job, or with material possessions and party buddies.  He is having a difficult time letting go of me emotionally, and he is lonely.  He is desperate to get in another relationship, and I feel sorry for him. But then he doesn’t fill his life chasing after petty material goods or creating an “Image” of himself to all  his buddies.

    I have read a lot that men fall in love more quickly than women, but run from the idea of being in love, because in our Western Society it has become risky for both genders.  My personal anecdotal evidence backs that up.  The “experts” claim things that are the exact opposite of what I see Evan saying, which is that women are happier being married and men happier being single.  I personally feel the so-called “experts” are correct on this, and that  Evan is wrong about this for certain classes of men.  It depends on the value system and upbringing of the men.  The more materialistic the local culture of these particular men is, the more Evan’s assessment is true.  The less materialistic the men are, the more they value marriage.

    The problems listed in the article above are first world affluent culture problems of a materialistic society.



  6. 846

    I know a bunch happy single people.  They could be in a relationship if they wanted but they love the freedom of being single and would never compromise their independence.  They get flowers and cards from girlfriends.  Yet despite the stoic exterior, almost all go into hibernation around Valentines Day. It makes me wonder.

  7. 847


    Today’s modern women (mainly Westernized women) in general suck.  Many are entitled, selfish, narcissistic, self-centered, too high maintenance, have unrealistic expectations, offer very little to the table, & have been brainwashed by the leftist Feminist propaganda to the point  some even act like MEN!  No man wants to be with a masculine woman or “alpha female” (being an alpha is OUR job!).  They are told by the feminists professors they “don’t need a man” & that they are “equal to men”, so they believe it, & during their late teens & 20s they ride the cock carousel & engage in promiscuous behavior

    Then by the time these women’s biological clocks start ticking, they start to freak out because they want to have kids & can’t find a man.  The irony is that these same women turned down many good men during their younger years who could have been potential good fathers & husbands.  Some of these guys were the social outcasts, loners, geeks, point dexters, & nerds during high school.

    Women become more unhappy as they get older when they are single because the good men want nothing to do with them, because good men don’t want women who don’t act like women.

    1. 847.1

      Dear Anonymous 847:  While there are “entitled, selfish, narcissistic, self-centered, too high maintenance, have unrealistic expectations, offer very little to the table” type women, they aren’t very good feminists.  A “real” feminist knows to stand on her own two feet and to have something decent to offer. I find it’s the “non-feminist” hot-house roses who fit your description, not feminists.

  8. 848
    Deidre Wolf

    Mean are from Mars and women are from Venus. Just reading all these comments prove that men and women are and always will be on different planets. Successful and meaningful   relationships will forever be a near impossibility. We speak different languages.. I only wish the rest of the world accepted this forgone conclusion. Men and women are only meant to procreate, and have sex , It all comes down to physiology . It’s  the only reason we were created.  We have the misfortune of a brain which  separates us from the rest of the  animal kingdom who use those drives without thinking. With them it’s pure instinct and nothing more. Sad for us We try so hard for an impossibility. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus and never the twain shall meet.

    Deidre a forever single female



  9. 849
    Alice P

    I think Evan theories makes a lot of sense. My mom also has the same views as Evan regarding why men don’t hate being single as much as women. She taught me to be ambitious and place less importance on relationships, because nobody could take away your personal achievements and success, while relationships could end. Basically she encourages me to think more like the men. As Evan explained in his article “Do You Need a Man to Make More Money Than You”, men are free to choose whomever they want because they are not looking at their wives to support them, as they can support themselves. But then at the same time my parents also believe that my future husband should be better than me in many if not all aspects, e.g. education, income, social status, etc. They believe that if a guy marries a woman with similar caliber, he is marrying up. Therefore, although I can support myself, I should choose someone who is smarter, richer, taller, stronger, etc. My dad even insists that my future husband should make as least as much money as me, even though he makes less than my mom. He’s idea is: you make 200k, you marry a guy who makes 200k, then you have 400k. Why marry a guy who makes 100k? His idea seems to be that if I make 200k, I can for sure get a guy who makes at least 200k, which is clearly not true as Evan explained. It just boggles my mind that my parents have these double standards and illogical opinions.

    1. 849.1

      Yes, they are illogical. But then so is the entire idea of Patriarchy.  We in a “western society” have Patriarchy so ingrained into our brains that we think it is “natural.”  It is not. We are collectively brainwashed, except those few of us who have freed our minds.    I am seeing a man 18 years younger than me, and it’s the best relationship I have ever had in my life.  He is not from our culture.

      Other things that go with silly Patriarchal ideas is that the man “has to be” 2 years older than the woman. I don’t understand the logic behind this Patriarchal mind-set, but I understand where it comes from. It is meant to perpetuate patriarchy. I know I am going to be called a “libtard” for saying that.   Patriarchy or male dominance is clearly seen in the fact that positions of authority are generally held by men or even reserved for men only. The ideas that Alice P’s parents have about a proper marriage partner are meant to perpetuate male dominance.

      I believe that ideas of how “things are supposed to be” gives us unrealistic expectations, making us less happy.  

  10. 850
    Amber Gardner

    So men have no use for women anymore other than a one nighter.  Not even for family.  Sounds like American culture.  There is no love anymore.  Men love that money and always projecting that love onto women.  Very deep disrespect for women in this country.  Men always put that self first and foremost at the expense of…women.

    1. 850.1

      Women wanted equality. You got it!! If it does not fit our needs, then we simply search for what does. We expect no different from you. If it doesn’t fit your needs, then you need to move on also. It is why we see the USA intelligence quotations declining.  There is no reason for us to engage in any type of relationship that does not provide benefit to us. Whether business or personal, it simply means that if we can not find a mate that fits our needs from all aspects, you simply use what is there and move on. As for love….love is a caring and committed act. With cheating on the rise with women, love is no longer an option. And after working a considerable part of our lives to acquire that “money” you speak of…..I think we would like to keep what we have worked for. Lawyers are not part of the deal and neither are our bank accounts.

      1. 850.1.1
        Amber Gardner

        My comment has nothing to with equality.  My comment has to do with respect and thinking of the welfare of others besides JUST yourself.  Nor did I mention money.  That was solely you, man.

        1. Amber Gardner

          Ok, I did mention money.  Women work for theirs equally as hard.

      2. 850.1.2
        Amber Gardner

        So you’re saying the only way a woman can avoid being used and tossed to the side is by forcing men into relationships by oppressing women?  Men are only willing if by force?  Everything must be by force, forcing oppression on women, forcing men into relationships.  Sounds like men and women were never meant to be according to that theory.  But I know God did not make it like that.  Really sad world.

  11. 851

    Teepee how is being disrespectful a part of equality? What you describe  sounds like men working hard to keep women not equal.

  12. 852

    Do yo call the current level of feminism “equality”?? As for money, consider the current parameters of divorce and the one sided judgments in divorce courts. Do you consider that the majority of courts give the children to the women even if she is not the best parent to do the job? Do you consider that the quality of a man’s life is decreased after a divorce even he has not done anything wrong? Whether financially or quality of life, men are not getting an equal deal. I stayed single simply for one reason, I chose too! With it neither I or have any children have suffered the effects of divorce. I feel for those children that have. Poor decisions by both parents simply indicate their lack of commitment to the marriage. In terms of disrespect, how is cheating by either party respectful?

  13. 853

    TP, I am a lawyer, (immigration law / family law / criminal law) and I have studied this issue in depth as well as having practical experience.  Judgments are not weighted toward the wife, unless evidence that is relevant and admissible is entered into the record, and carried enough weight to convince the Court.   More often than not, it seems the other way around simply because the husband usually has a better job with more money, and can afford more “lawyering-up.”  In custody battles where the husband fights, more often than not the husband wins. It is absolutely not true that it is biased against men.

    1. 853.1

      Respectfully disagree. If it weren’t, then things like this would not be organized…..https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fathers'_rights_movement

      Women may have wanted equality, but the backlash from it may have done more harm then good. And the children are the ones who suffer the most. Men will endure, but the scars of divorce leave a lasting impression on children. And with it, we are now seeing fewer marriages, more singles living alone and a total shift in the lifestyle of the USA. I can’t blame anyone for avoiding interpersonal relationships. Financially, emotionally and mentally…it simply isn’t worth it. Pursuing personal goals and other rewarding endeavors offer greater personal growth and satisfaction.

      1. 853.1.1
        Don F

        Marriage is failing in the U.S. Now more than 50% off all adults are single. Be it from divorce from middle age people or the younger generation abandoning this out dated lifestyle.

    2. 853.2

      Respectfully disagree. It is one of the reasons we avoid relationships today.

  14. 854

    TP your entry about the father’s rights movement is about a group that perpetuates these falsehoods.  The father’s rights movements are organized by those attempting to undermine victims of domestic violence.    The fathers’ rights movement is characterized by thinly veiled misogyny. Self-proclaimed fathers’ rights activists minimize the well-documented prevalence and severity of domestic violence against women, accusing domestic violence advocates of promoting false allegations that alienate children from their parents. 


    Feminism is not the problem.  Part of the problem may be that while progressive feminists emphasize that father’s equal involvement in family life and child rearing is essential to the advancement of women, there are clearly a number of predictable situations where the legal standard of equal-access parenting would be bad news for mothers and children. When a parent is mentally ill or has a history of spousal abuse, child maltreatment, or a past or present substance addiction — or has been convicted of certain criminal offenses — courts generally assign sole custody to the more “fit” parent.  Whether driven by jealousy, anger, or insecurity, some of the most serious cases of domestic violence are committed by men who try to control ‘their women,’ both emotionally and physically.” Research also suggests that men who abuse their wives are considerably more likely than other fathers to abuse their children.

    Obviously, not every aggrieved father who signs onto the father’s rights movement is an outright batterer or child abuser. But the core debate about fathers’ right to equal custody is not simply about protecting women and children from domestic violence, or the difference between “good” dads and “bad” dads, or even the contradictions of liberal feminism. It’s about preserving male privilege in and outside of marriage, and whose needs and emotional well-being take precedence when parents in disrupted families just can’t get along.


  15. 855

    Again I disagree, Women use the legal system to perpetuate their agendas. Many men have had to defend themselves from false statements simply because a woman has lied for her benefit. Regardless of outcome, it simply clogs up our legal system and creates more distrust. Like it or not, it is a fact. And with it, it simply turns good men away from relationships. The feminist agenda has spent considerable time and money trying to create an anti-male philosophy. It has done a very good job of it and has now divided the sexes. MGTOW was not created for men’s rights. It simply gives men an option without feeling that we have an obligation to marry or engage in relationships. Again, pursuing ones personal growth is now more of a priority than seeking companionship or relationships with women. I expect this trend to continue for the near future until the equality equation is fully sorted out.

  16. 856
    Some Dad

    Amazing that this article is getting so many for several years after it was posted.  I personally think that men, these days, have little problem being single unless they want to have children.  It’s all just too risky because the system is set up to end up in a failed marriage, and modern society almost seems to encourage women to divorce women if they are “unhappy”.  If you don’t believe me, just look at all of the garbage on the internet that says as much when you see articles that say that “women are happier after divorce”.  Men are too, if they don’t have to become a suicidal wage slave or face prison time.


    The truth is that both men and women can live without one another.  Some people desire companionship.  Some people have a desire to be alone.  Some want a bit of both.  Some want just sex.


    I stumbled upon this article by accident.  And, while I don’t speak for every man out there, I can attest to what was written by Evan, and mostly agree with all of his points.


    I’m in the process of a divorce (initiated by my wife), and was devastated at first.  I went through a number of emotions for weeks.  Couldn’t sleep.  Feared the worst possible outcome.  Cried over the outcome after hanging on for so long.  Cried over the future of our son.  There are times where it’s still heartbreaking (mostly when thinking about my young son, who doesn’t even know yet), but something changed…  One day I woke up and felt relieved that this was over and I could have the life that I finally want.


    My entire life has been about making women happy, from making my mother proud, to giving my wife her home and family.  After my wife achieved all of her “dreams”, what was left?  I began to feel like I was good for 3 things; 1. Money / home. 2. A babysitter while my wife went out to play all the time and drink with girlfriends and go on running trips. 3. The primary housekeeper (I do like 90% of the housework, all of the yard work and maintenance, and now all of the cooking).  I put my foot down after years of this, and she filed for divorce.  Truth be told, I let it go on, and for far too long.  I’m responsible for letting her walk all over me because of “love”.  I realized afterward how much BS that really is because no relationship ever works out when one person is permitted to take advantage of the other.


    I began to see how hurt I really was in this marriage, for years.  Some of you ladies may not think it’s possible to hurt a man, but it’s real.  It was hell.  It has been the worst experience of my entire life.  It didn’t have to be that way, either.  My wife was, and still is, my best friend.  But something changed in her after having our child (who is, by the way, the best gift in my life).  Once my wife had no future need for me, she stopped working on contributing to our home and marriage and found plenty of reasons to blame me for her detachment.  Maybe this seems petty for me to make this claim, but I can’t help but feel deep down that it’s the truth.  I’m not going to claim that I’ve been perfect 100% of the time.  I’ve said some things that were not nice.  I’ve had at least a few of my own issues, but I’ve tried to work on it over the years.  But I was always home every night, never cheated, provided for my family (sole income), and love my wife and son.


    What I realized is that she’s basically set me free by asking for divorce.


    Not only am I physically healthier than I was in my 20’s; strong, tall, have pretty much all of my hair, physically fit (I’ve picked up training to be an amateur boxer for fun), I also have a good career and a decent home (she’s decided to move out).  I don’t live beyond my means and I have no debt outside of the mortgage.  My wife, on the other hand, squandered her youth and never got an education (planned for 30+ years to be a stay-at-home-mom), has accrued mountains of debt even though she had no financial obligations, and is scrambling to find someone on dating sites.  She is like a ticking time bomb.  In a way, I’m elated now that she has to work so hard to finally support herself and learn self respect and to have financial responsibility.  Truly, I wish her the best though.


    Going to just come out and say this at risk of getting flamed.  It occurred to me that I have no immediate interest in women outside of sex.  If I ultimately meet women and we develop friendships, great.  If I meet women that want to have casual sex, awesome.  If I meet women that want both, I’d think that’s even better.  I’m not just some “male pig”.  There are some women that just want to have sex.  I’m coming out of a sexless relationship of more than a decade and a half, and the past 6 years have literally been totally sexless.  And it has nothing to do with performance problems.  I’d like to blame my wife’s history of childhood abuse on this, but “sexless marriages” happen to people for all sorts of reasons.  I’m not doing that anymore.  I’m more sexually frustrated than a teenager.


    It’s just the reality of things.  Some people get paired with the wrong partner.  My wife and I clearly were not compatible on many levels and there were just too many barriers that made it hard to make things work.  Now, I will never even get in a long term relationship without sex; lots and lots of great sex.


    I’d never want to be in a situation again where I’m tied to someone out of moral values and “love”.  I committed to my wife and she wasn’t committed to me.  She’s scrambling on dating sites to find someone else, and I’m just living my life now, for the first time in over a decade.  I wish her the best of luck as long as it doesn’t impact our son in some negative way that’s worse than the divorce.  But there seems to be a very real epidemic of women who get “bored” or “unhappy” in a relationship and bail rather than making an attempt to deal with the problems.  Not saying that men don’t do this, but a lot of women simply are delusional as a result of fairy tales and princess mentalities, and men have far more to lose in a lot of failed marriages.


    I’m in charge of my own happiness, as is everyone else.  I don’t need to be unhappy anymore.  Some of it sucks.  Alimony and child support are just temporary, but I have a wonderful son and the second half of my life to enjoy.  So half of the time I’ll be with my son.  But when I’m not, I get to do what I want, when I want, where I want.  I wouldn’t have asked for a divorce but there really truly are a lot of  positive aspects to being single unless you’ve found the right person.  There are just too many factors that make marriage such a risky proposition for men these days.


    I love that I’m on the path to being single again!

    1. 856.1

      Dear “Some Dad”:  There’s nothing wrong with you feeling that way.  I feel as if  my entire life has been about making men happy, so I understand your frustration. Perhaps one day you will happenstance upon someone you want to commit to. 

    2. 856.2

      Making women happy? The first person you need to make happy is YOU!!! If you are not happy within yourself, the rest is time wasted.  Your mind and body needs to remain sound in order for you to provide for your son. When he sees a happy dad, he is happy. Take care of you first, the rest will work itself out.

      1. 856.2.1
        Some Dad


        You’re mistaken.  I am, and always have been, happy with myself.  I’m even happier now that I am going to be single.  That’s the point of this entire article.   I was unhappy with having a partner who contributed nothing to the home or marriage, and basically went on cruise control after having a child.


        I’m simply pointing out that it was largely a one sided relationship, and I’m better off now the she’s leaving.  And, frankly, I’d not wish the same on anyone else.


        My son is also very happy.  He might not feel the same way after his mother takes him away from his home.  But she spent the past 6 years focusing on her friends and hobbies and was never home anyway, and is now trying to make up for it by spending more time with him.

    3. 856.3
      Some Dad

      By the way.  A few typos in my post above, but I had to get out the door for boxing class and missed a few things.  One in particular.


      It’s all just too risky because the system is set up to end up in a failed marriage, and modern society almost seems to encourage women to divorce women if they are “unhappy”.  If you don’t believe me, just look at all of the garbage on the internet that says as much when you see articles that say that “women are happier after divorce”.


      I meant to say that modern society encourages women to divorce men, but I guess that it could apply in lesbian marriages as well.  I don’t know how much of it’s true, but there are lots of statistics floating around that lesbian women are divorcing their wives at least 50% more than women are divorcing their men.


      Anyway.  What’s the point of marriage anymore?  Not enough people are willing to work on dealing with the hard stuff, contribute to the relationship in meaningful ways, or work on their own problems.  Too much blame and not enough that’s keeping wives from walking right out the door.  And the existing alimony laws serve as little more than a way to keep people (predominantly women who make some 97% alimony / maintenance claims) off of state assistance.   I’m trying not to seem jaded but this is now my reality, one that I never thought that I’d experience.  And it’s not like I’m some abusive and unreliable dude who deserves this.  Just a fool who didn’t entertain my wife enough to keep her interested in staying married after she didn’t need me for anything else.


      My lawyer told me that “Divorce is the biggest scam of the century”, because the courts and lawyers make so much money off of the willing participants who pay for it.  He may be right, but I’d wager that marriage is the biggest scam of the century, from the wedding industry scamming women, to the fairy tale imagery that entices them to imagine some unattainable perfection, or the lies that a partner makes about being committed “till death do us part”.  Most men just end up being suckers in the whole process.

  17. 857

    Honestly, Evan, the best thing about your blog is the comments! It is SO enlightening to read the anti- woman vitriol on here, and a real eye opener… Learn the key phrases used by red pill whackos, ladies, and avoid men like that at all costs!


    As a female divorcee who was taken advantage of financially throughout my marriage, and who rebounded into a domestic violence situation, I can honestly say that these MRA’s are effing delusional… The truth is that we can *all* find anecdotal stories to support our pet opinions, and if you think all women are (fill in the blank), then guess what? You’re right! (Same for you, bitter ladies.)


    The truth is that there are many messed up people in the world, most likely including YOURSELF. In order to find a good partner, you’ve got to BE one, and for God’s sake spare yourself the pain of bad relationships by learning to be discerning. I chose to use my experiences to make myself better, not bitter! I reached self love/healing, and healthy relationships and relationships styles, before getting back out there – and then hit the jackpot!


    I’m now in the happiest, healthiest relationship of my life. My man and I live together happily, have lots of great sex, and love spending time together. Neither one of us tries to change the other, and we are looking at building a future. It only took me 47 years to figure it out!

    Moral of the story: never give up if it’s important to you. My man said “you can’t win if you don’t play!”

    Better yourself and learn what to look for (I would rather be alone than be with a man like my ex husband, who lived off of me, or my ex boyfriend, who thought he owned me).


    Good men and women are out there. It is entirely up to YOU to be one and to find one, and it can be done.

  18. 858

    I guess I think outside the box. To me, marriage does mean a lot more than sex. I tend to discount sex and all the connotations my looks appear to have on men. I am not saying I don’t have sex, i do sometimes 3x a week, others once a week, others, not for a month cuz we’re both tired and or sick. I just refuse to give sex the power it so obviously doesn’t deserve. Ive had several men ask me if I would run away with them and get married but I dont want to do that. number one, i’m already married,and numbe rtwo that is coming on to someone wayyyyy too strong. And i don’t even know them. They’re just heartbroken that someone left them. But i ain’t the void filler sorry. It’ll take some action and effort on your part to find a mate.

  19. 859

    Being single is a plus when you don’t have to carry the weight of some nagging bitch who if you don’t carry her, will rape you in divorce courts, turn your children against you, take 3/4th’s of your pay through alimony and child support to the point you cannot even sustain a household fit for visitation rights. That’s my opinion. Low invest – low return is much better than high invest – no return. cheers.

    1. 859.1

      I have every confidence you will have no problems maintaining your single status.  Carry on!

      1. 859.1.1

        To GoWiththeFlow, as the response to number 859. Well said. With an attitude like that he will have no problem remaining single. If he’s the one that got supposedly raped in divorce court it’s not surprising why. I’m so tired of gender-based animosity.

  20. 860

    This competition of ‘ who needs the other less’ and ‘who’s better off without the other’ is getting vile. The egomania turns my stomach. It’s abusive, heartbreaking and ignorant. And it clearly doesn’t work. Yes of course dysfunctional relationships must be ended but things got out of hand.

  21. 861

    Because society hates attractive single women. They treat them bad, and see them as a threat. A single woman is independent out of necessity, and she might actually have time to run for city counsel instead of being chained to a demanding spoiled brat of a husband.

    Men are afraid of their own ability to behave around single women.

    Women are jealous of the earning ability of single womrn, who have more energy.


    1. 861.1
      Emily, the original


      Men are afraid of their own ability to behave around single women.

      That’s it in a nutshell. If you have an unclaimed who-ha, it makes people uncomfortable! 🙂   That’s why some married woman only socialize with other married woman. They don’t want single women around their husbands, when 99.9 percent of the time … it’s NOT a problem.

  22. 862

    Men and women usually have fundamental differences.  Women are more social and men are not.  If you put a man and a woman in solitary confinement for a long period of time, the man would come out strange, but sane.  Women would come out insane.

  23. 863

    I’ll leave this here for women looking for a relationship.

    Attractive, successful, tall and handsome single men in their 30’s are single because they want to be. They have a nice apartment and lots of no-strings sex. Of course there are some of these guys looking for a girl of the samea ge to settle down with. Most aren’t.

    I believe men and women want similar things in life and relationships, but at different ages. When men are 18-20 they want girlfriends of the same age. The girls don’t want them and prefer older guys. Then in the 30’s the guys dont want girls their own age and want to date younger women. Then older, perhaps 40’s/50’s, it evens out.

  24. 864
    Don F.

    Women and Men will always be different.

    As someone that has done some traveling to other states, I have witnessed some common core trends.

    Women in the south, midland states, the “Bible belt” have more of a “traditional” belief in that they believe men should be “Men”. Yet at the same time many of the women I have met in these states in one breath will state that the are not feminists but talk very similar to the style of feminism that turns many men off. They want their cake and ice cream. They talk down to their men, slap them, opening talk about how bad their men are. They expect men to do all the manly stuff, at the same time, these same women talk about how no man is going to tell them what to do. Make your own meal, get your own whatever. The ones working will openly state that any man worth his salt will not expect the woman to pay for anything. That’s fine if these same women want men to behave in a 1950’s “traditional” way. The balance or lack of is that many of these women don’t want to be the 1950’s “traditional” woman. Now I know many women will hate hearing this but for many men it’s our truth and if we can’t deal with listening and learning then we will continue to grow worse as a society. If a guy has to be “A Man” then why can’t a gal be “A Woman”? Many of these guys come home and expect to have dinner ready, the home cleaned and any and all work for the home to be completed when he gets home. He wants to spend time with his family in a non stressful way. Sure, things come up but can it wait until after dinner? I don’t mean if a child got injured, someone broke into your home/car. A storm came through and did damage to the home. But those don’t happy on a weekly basis. Women in these regions get mad because the guy is tired. Wants to decompress and enjoy his dinner time. Men are frustrated because when he walks in the door, he gets the entire day talked about before and during dinner. Both are mad.

    When I travel to the west coast and east coast from the mid Atlantic upto the north east, men and women are different. By that I mean that both women and men are running like crazy in their jobs to be able to make a living. Take no prisoners, don’t get in my way and don’t slow me down. I see the stress of this when in heaven y ttaffic. People yell and curse police officers and first responders on the highways to get out of the way because an accident is causing a huge delay in our time to get to where we need to be. Why? Because people in these regions are so stressed from the dual income rat race that they are always trying to keep up with the simplest of events. Drop the children off to school or daycare. Can’t be late for work again because of tho stupid traffic! Got to get home to get the children, get dinner, stupid accident on the roads! Why! Oh crap, my child has an after school engagement and I have to get some work done on this project, send out some emails and respond to another message from work related stuff. At the end of the day; if it even ends, both women and men are stressed, angry, sad and the las thing they want is to deal with the other spouse, partner, bf/gf. You get a little bit of time to spend with your children in any meaningful way and once they go to bed, the adults are spent but still not done with their day.

    Where an u going with this? Both examples show how our economy directly effects most of us. In the first real example, botherwise had a full day of activity that has weighed on them. The “Man” is trying to fill the role as the “Man” and the “Woman” is trying to fill the role as the “Woman”. Breadwinner vs Homewinner. Neither understand the other and never will.

    The “Big Cities” have a similar situation but here both are running like crazy to simply keep up with time and usually are behind. Both have to be the breadwinner collectively in order to tread water.

    Most of the breakdown in the U.S. is attributive to how our economy now works. It takes a tremendous amount of money and time to survive in both examples. Men attempt to decompress by shutting down everything around them that has even the pretense of stress or conflict. Men watch tv, play games, spend time with the kids, workout, etc. The last thing men here want is to hear anything that will add to the stressful day which means ignoring their wife, girlfriend.

    The flip side is that Women need to talk to help them decompress. This is the best way for women to work things out and release the tension they have. Women need to openly express while men need to quietly isolate. That’s just the way it works.

    If both adults are working the rat race, it still applies but to a different degree. When the men fell that the have a moment our a few to take a breath and exhale, they want to be alone in their head and shut out everything and everyone else. The women are similar in this environment in that they want the same opportunity to take that breath, exhale and have a few moments of quiet time.

    What usually happens afterwards is that the guy will want to do an activity that helps him relax for the brief time he has before he passes out from fatigue. That could be watching tv, reading a book, workout, play in the garage, put the headphones on, whatever it is that helps him to forget about the day and get ready for tomorrow’s rat race.

    Women will also want to read a book, watch tv, workout, etc. But usually at some point they want to talk and get things off their chest after they have had the time to relax some. Women need to talk and they need someone to listen to them. This is huge for women. Most men don’t want to listen because it causes men to get worked up and stressed all over again after they have started to relax. So what almost always happens is they both end up stressed all over gain because he won’t listen to her talk and she can’t talk to him.

    We men are simpler than women. I always use the analogy of and electronic device. We are great at performing one task. When we start having to perform multiple tasks, ie destressing, listening to someone else’s day, thinking about the workload we have tomorrow, the house project that still needs to be done this weekend, the soccer game, swim meet events with the children on Saturday, we men shut down much like that computer does when you try to open to many taps and applications at the same time. We can’t compute! You just fried our brain!

    Women need to discuss the multiple things that have happened during their day along with the house projects and Saturday’s events our the are likely to blow a fuse much like the panel box in your house. They simply overload with no place to direct that energy surge.

    Men look for a power button to turn off and shut down. Women look for a relief valve to help channel that flow to other lanes. Water and Electric don’t mix.

    1. 864.1

      Dear Don F., number 864. Your post is obviously well-thought-out, as it is lengthy.

      I dislike these stereotypes about men and women. Why is it that we women in the South or supposed to like men to “be men”? Why can’t men just be themselves and women be their selves? Why do we have to be pounded into some phony role? What does it mean to be a man anyway? Isn’t it the same thing as it means just to be a decent human being regardless of gender?

      Don F., you have included a number of stereotypes, much of which it seems to come from anecdotal evidence on your part.  While, yes, I do believe the South holds on to many older ways, I just don’t see where the model of the woman staying at home while the man being the breadwinner is still there in much prevalency.

      You stated that you think men are simpler than women. You didn’t give any examples of that so I don’t understand why you believe that. What you explained  instead is  also what I see: it is more that the expectations on men are simpler than the expectations on women.

      I know Southern men who have gotten custody of their child or children, and in one instance their young daughter became pregnant as a teenager. As a youngish grandfather, he is finishing raising his teenage daughter and his grandchildren, while he has not remarried. He has taken on the role of multitasking, getting children to ball practice, getting them to school plays, Etc.

      You’ve described a very real situation, but I don’t think it’s specific to either gender. I keep hearing people telling me, “Oh they’re exceptions out there.” I see it pretty equally spread out. A lot of times when a man takes on these kinds of tasks, he’s talked about, as to how wonderful he is. When the men do it they’re praised, when the women do it is because they better shut up and accept their role because this is what they’re supposed to do.

      This is why you hear women saying things that you are perhaps perceiving as “feminist talk”. There’s a whole lot of double standards out there. Yes, women get tired of it. I hate that it bothers the delicate sensibilities of some men who want to pretend like they are manly men. Maybe these are the same kind of men that get offended because I can run a backhoe and weld better than they can. I’ve never understood this fake attitude of suppose of Manliness because you don’t hold the backhoe joystick with your penis.  I was not trying to “prove that I was as good as a man”. I was merely trying to earn money. I was denied working overtime, because a little ol’ gal like me couldn’t drive them big old forklifts machines. Never mind the fact that I actually did, and did a quite good job at it during my regular work week, but wasn’t good enough for the overtime which went to the men because they had families to feed. Well, guess what? So did I. But I was told I should go work in a bank where I could dress pretty. What’s wrong with dressing pretty in my off time? Besides,  bank tellers make minimum wage.

      What about after my 12 hour work shift? What if I wanted to go sit back and relax? Instead, I was supposed to come straight home and have dinner on the table within one hour after arriving home. Oh, forget about drinking a beer with my co-workers when I get off work. That would never fly . Here in the South, if a woman works a 12-hour shift, these are the consequences she suffers. While the man working a 12-hour shift wants to drink a quick beer with his coworkers and then go home and tinker in the garage or put on his headphones.

      When you’re saying that women need to talk, to get things off your chest, might actually be trying to work as a team in decision-making. Here in the south, would you seem to praise so much as a Bastion of Manliness, the men want to go off and do their deer hunting or their bass hunting thing and leave women who is already worked a full day outside the home to make all the decisions. Then when the women enact those decisions the man get mad because they haven’t been involved in the decision-making. Those kinds of things seem to be more common when they want the man to be manly and the woman to be this fake version of femininity.

      I can offer a better solution. Let’s just everybody be who we are and quit forcing genders into these fake rolls. Let’s let couples communicate with each other and be respectful to each other.




      1. 864.1.1
        Don F.


        I am not favoring the South over the coastal cities. Just giving my observations.

        Woman and Men can perform the same work/jobs. Welder, D10 operator, Doctor, School Teacher, etc. I get to witness several out in the field every day.

        Men and Women can also cook, clean, raise children just as equally. Hopefully the stupid stereotyping will eventually end with future generations.

        We need to treat each other exactly the same regardless of skin color, religion, ethnicity as well as gender! When we as Men can treat Women exactly the same as we Men treat other men, when we Men stop looking at Woman as anything other than our exact equals, when all Men can stop thinking with our groin and use or head above our shoulders, then that will hopefully be the day when we can all have true equality and earn our own ways in life without others saying that “You can’t do that because that’s Man’s job” or “Why are you doing that? That’s a Woman’s job”. Both are stupid!

        Look at professional sales people, athletes, CEOs, Business Owners and Leaders. Most of these people treat everyone exactly the same. Some call it being Vanilla. But they work hard to push everyone around them as hard as they push themselves. I see several meetings where everyone wears a suit. Men and Women. Get rid of the distraction and focus on the job/career. It works in these environments. Maybe that is part of the solution. All people wear the same uniform? Satire there but some truth.

        1. Don F.

          Also stop allowing judicial systems from taking money from one person and giving to another. When both adults are working, neither adult should receive alimony with the rarest of exemptions when either the Woman or Man has such a huge income swing; i.e. the Woman is CEO, earning 6figures and the Man earns far less, then maybe create a 1-2 year fund to give the person making less money time to get on their own two grownup feet and stop looking for a golden parachute. That’s Socialism/Communism and has proven to just create more financially broke people. Look at Greece, Perto Rico as two quick examples.

  25. 865
    E Pluribus Wombat

    Why? Because for men the probability of being unhappy in a marriage is about the same as a woman’s but the probability of  being as miserable as a woman where both are divorced are far lower. Women idle at mad and miserable.  All the time. A divorced women is simply more of that. So a single man just by the simple fact of how unhappy men and women are, otherwise, translates into women being much more unhappy single.

  26. 866

    I gave up jumping through hoops and lies and general mindfu**ckry that comes with attracting males and relationship, put my energy into learning new skills, building a chareer and exploring he world….much more fulfilling then either being too frigid or a ‘slut’, CBA to run my life according to other people’s whims…… I definitely see what your saying and think it is dead on…. ironically I feel like I have gone that way! I refuse to sacrifice my TV/ ps4 time for anyone!!!

    1. 866.1
      Don F.

      Women need a Man like a Fish needs a Bike.

      Men need a Relationship like a Dog needs Fleas.


  27. 867

    So not true.

    If I knew how good being single was way back when I was younger as I do now,I would have never and I mean ever dated in my entire life.Also,it would be so awesome to say,”Hey,I’ve never had a boyfriend in my entire life”.

    I have many men. Why would or how could I choose just one???No Way!

  28. 868
    Michael McFarland

    I am 58, and a single Christian man.  I was married for 5 years and should have listened to my then pastor to wait a year to really get to know my future wife.  Needless to say,  she rushed the issue of marriage and I thought I was doing the right thing to live a stable life.  Love, never had a chance to be truly defined!  The marriage didn’t work out and now 4 years later, I have learned what not to do!  My life is complete within myself with ongoing room to grow.  But, I am stretched thinner than rice paper as to obtain that which was inborn into me, that I would have a soulmate assigned to me for strength and happiness, with my mutual giving, of course.   If it doesn’t happen, I will be strong, accomplished, and survive.  I will eventually overcome loneliness and press on for the good of the many.  Our lives here on this Earth are but a drop in the bucket when weighed against Eternity.  Thank you for letting me voice my comment.  It helps!

  29. 869

    Single life is heaven.  I was married once for 12 years and that was awesome too.  But I’ve been single for 14 years now and literally there is such peace and tranquility.  I do have two kids I adore and I see all the time.  But I live essentially alone.  I do have some amazing friends.  I’ve taken real  lovers, hoping to maybe find a “relationship”, and they’ve all been disasters as potential relationships.  But for love…   Now I just pay.  A steady “massage” once or twice a week, and that covers my “intimacy” needs.  The touch of a gorgeous, sweet, kind, erotic, supermodel-looking, rent-a-girlfriend, a few hours here and there.  Honestly, I’m happy to attend, as much as, I’m happy to leave.   No drama, just pleasure… back to my music or my art, or my hike or my kids or my friends.  Thanks for your article.

  30. 870
    Victoria Leah

    I am a single woman, divorced, in her 30s.. Evans response rings entirely true not with just men but with me. Who doesn’t want to find someone attractive, who wants to be changed?!?, I want to introdue someone decent to my friends and family.. I don’t want drama! Hence, the reason why I prefer to be single.

    Its so much easier being single than with dealing with anyone difficult!! I’m all for men and women being single. It’s the best!

    Im a successful adult, independent, driven, and loves to travel.. and most importantly, I have tons of friends (both male and female). My advice.. stay single you’ll be happier!!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *