Why I Love Women Over 40


My wife – age 39 1/2 – just forwarded me the below – a snippet from an old Andy Rooney segment. While I tend to tune out most of his messages – focusing largely on his remarkably bushy white eyebrows, I think that Mr. Rooney has clearly accumulated some wisdom over his 90 years.

Here’s just a few reasons that he values women over 40 most of all:

A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.

If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.

Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.

For all those men who say, ‘Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? here’s an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!

I’m not sold on the anti-marriage, mini-sausage sentiments, but the rest rings true. Women, like fine wines, often improve with age.

I remember a 24-year-old woman who had a crush on me when I was in my early 30’s. I told her she was too young for me. She was incredulous. No man rejects a 24-year-old woman! I let her know that if she thought she was amazing now, she should imagine herself in 5 years, at age 29. And in another 5 years, at age 34. In fact, I told her, if you look back on your life every five years, you’ll realize that you knew nothing five years ago. It’s been the case for me, and I trust it’s been the same for that adorable 24-year-old.

There’s no replacing the wisdom and life experience of an older woman – presuming, of course, that the woman has learned from her experience and become better (not bitter) for it.

Apart from smooth skin and the ability to procreate, I’m not sure what younger women have over older ones. Readers? Your thoughts, as always, are appreciated.


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  1. 41

    The positive attributes of women over 40 notwithstanding, this 24-year-old thinks he and I have things in common and he wants to get to know me. He actually took offense because I told him I’m fairly aware of what 20-something guys want with 40-something women. I hate to disappointment him, but I have not been out there becoming this sexual dynamo. I’ve been working to provide for three children, earning a degree, losing weight, and being involved in a faith community. When would I have had the time and energy to get all of this so-called experience? He said “life experience”, but I didn’t just pop up out of the cookie jar. That’s code for MILF.

  2. 42

    Good for you sticking to your guns. You definitely know what you want and don’t want.

    Having said that, most women I know would be incredibly flattered by the attentions of a younger man. You have obviously come through a lot and are none worse for the wear. I believe that “life experience” means a lot. I don’t look at sex as a “skill” that is learned separately, but part of the continuous mosaic of life. As we mature, we learn how to take things one day at a time, to be more patient, less selfish and more giving, etc. All these things will show themselves in the bedroom, along with all other aspects of our lives. Maybe that’s what your young friend sees.

    If you don’t want a sexual relationship with him, that is your prerogative. But think about taking his attentions as a great compliment, rather than being offended by it.

  3. 43

    Tom, I can see where I do come off as looking offended. You’re right, I should take the attention as a compliment. I won’t let the flattery go to my head, however. If my believe and value system allowed me to just hop into bed with this kid and have a good time, then sure I’d right there. But that’s not in my nature. I have no illusions either, that when he’s ready to settle down and get serious about finding a life partner, chances are he’s going to look for someone much closer in age, with whom he has more in common, and who still has plenty of time to give him children. So ok, perhaps I can enjoy some light conversation and flirting, but that’s going to be about it.

  4. 44

    @Starthrower68 #41 & #43,
    Will you please stop with the paranoia? Maybe this twenty-four year old just finds you “attractive” and you “happen” to be older than he is. Ever thought of that? 24 is “grown”- he is not a baby and can make his own choices in his life. Why not see where this goes. Aren’t you the least bit curious. Or are you afraid you might actually “enjoy” this too much through and through? Hmmm. Kepp us posted:-)

  5. 45

    It is interesting reading the comments. I have seen the Andy Rooney comment in the past and found it fascinating considering I’m  49. That comment applies to women who are well adjusted. It seem to fit my character without reading internal and external stuff into it. I do know that I am a better and smarter woman than I was 5 years ago, 10 years, and 15 years ago.

    I don’t think it is taking anything away from younger women. If you feel that way maybe you should think about your self confidence level. There are definite stages of development – look at Eriikson’s Stages of Development.  A 2 year is not the same as a 6 year old. Come on people. You learn  at each developmental stage. So, please younger women,  you are nothing like a woman over 40.  You have not leaved enough years to understand  what this really mean. So, stop trying to compare yourself.    

    If you are one of those younger women comparing yourself and getting upset over the Andy Rooney comment….I rest my case.

  6. 46

    Age does make a difference. Or should I say experiences and learning from them.
    And quite a bit of what is said about the 40+ ladies seems to fit the ones I have met and dated.
    In my twenties I was fortunate enough to date and befriend women in their late thirties and forties.   One of my first girlfriends was 37 when I was 17.

    One of the things I noticed was the more balanced perspective on life.
    And the lack of fear about being direct an blunt about what they expected and what they demanded.

    Not to say younger women cannot have those traits, but that extra time does make a serious case.   And I think my perspective was improved by experiencing their company and companionship.

    That is why for the life of me I cannot get the guys who do not find 40+ women attractive when they are the same age.
    I get that it is personal preference but still I feel those guys are missing out.

  7. 47

    Okay…I am 45 years old now, and I have to tell you this: I don’t think a women over 40 0r 50 or whatever age is better than say a 20 years old.. It is just different.. Every age has it’s own beauty, and it’s all right.. I had soo much fun with my men when I was just 20 0r so..And yes, they were about the same age…When an older women came around those days, and I seen interest in my men’s eyes, I couldn’t understand..I would think ” But shes so old and flabby, come on, men!! Are you out of your mind? Why do you like this women?” The respond was always shocking to me..They would look it me like I just don’t understand..Like, how I can not see the beauty in it???…So now, that I am also older, I can see the beauty in older women. I can see why younger guys would get attracted to an older women even though they don’t look that fresh and young anymore..( all though in some cases, even more fresh looking)But of course, It’s go behind just being fresh and tight. It is all about feeling for the men.. When they feel they can truely feel comfortable to “let go with you”, than you have a winning case..No matter what is your age..:-) Love and Light always.:-)

  8. 48

    I think PEOPLE get better with age when they choose to learn from the past. This is not everyone. I have read plenty of bitter sentiment from both men and women. For me personally, with each passing year I have learned more about the difference between vulnerable naivete, trust, and unnecessary barriers that prevent connection. I think its sad when men solely go for youth and women solely go money. Neither of these pursuits will result in a fulfilling relationship. Attraction is an undeniably important factor for us all but it extends beyond the physical (body & money). It is mental, emotional, spiritual also. I think we have all been burned by someone at some time. We need to remember that this someone or these someones are just human beings complete with their own path to learn, grow and spiritually mature. When this is seen we can feel easier about our own past pain and learn trust. Then age no longer becomes the dominating factor but rather fulfillment does.

  9. 49

    I have read this before and it always makes me smile. I am 52 and as recently as last weekend was hit on by a 35-year old man. Flattering, but I have zero interest in younger men. A couple of years ago I dated a man that was 20 years younger than I, a PhD student from Greece. Sexy? Yes. Intelligent? Very. His syntax was adorable –“You are missing from me.” Why did I end it? The generational differences are just too great. His sense of humor is rooted in a different world than mine among other things. I also kept telling him that he needed to find a woman closer to his age so he could have a family. He insisted that didn’t matter to him, that age didn’t matter. But, in reality, it does matter. I was really the mom of the group.

    I met a nice guy my own age. Retired young by selling his company to Silicon Valley. Plenty of money and time and he kept wanting me to travel with him, for weeks at at time. I’m a working girl and couldn’t just jet off somewhere on a whim. We only met once, very briefly because it was long distance through an online dating site.   Very intelligent, reasonably attractive, an incredible single father. We had a very easy connection and I felt comfortable with him immediately. We kept in touch for a while until he told me it was convenient for him to basically be a sugar daddy for young women because he had money and could buy them things and they would have sex with him. He called it a mutually beneficial relationship. UGH.

    I was married for a long time (28 years). I have yet to meet a man who is not a just little boy who wants a mother figure to care for him, and perhaps subconsciously put him in his place. I raised four children full-time, I don’t need another man-child. After taking care of others for most of my adult   life (now am responsible for my elderly mother with dementia), I would just like someone to take care of me for awhile.

    1. 49.1

      Sue, it’s just my opinion, but I think the guy your age would prefer to drop the younger girls and be with you.   My impression is that he wanted to start a relationship with you, but it just isn’t possible because you two are not on the same wavelength.   He wants to travel and enjoy life with somebody special, but he can’t have that so the younger girls help him forget that he is lonely.   If he wanted them, he never would have tried to get you to go on a trip with him.   I’ve learned that men aren’t always the best communicators of their thoughts and feelings.   Sometimes you have to look for the meaning behind what they say.   In this case, I feel he was expressive his frustration with being unable to find what he really wants, which is you, or somebody like you, but who he can also share his life with.

      1. 49.1.1

        That man-child comment: She seems to be revealing a pretty standard mindset among 50-year-old women: tired of dealing with the men she has already dealt with, wants someone better or wants to be left alone. That’s the issue. She knows this guy well enough, she says he is nice and he has money, and she is choosing no.

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