Wouldn’t You Like A Man To Take Care Of YOU?

Wouldn’t you like a man to take care of YOU

You’re tired,

You’re tired of working ten hours a day.

You’re tired of six hours of sleep per night.

You’re tired of commuting to and from work.

You’re tired of having to handle everything yourself: the laundry, making dinner, car leases, insurance premiums, your wireless connection.

You’re tired of taking care of everybody – your aging parents, your screwed up siblings, your ungrateful boss, your average employees, your unappreciative kids.

Life is hard enough.

It’s much harder when your whole life involves giving rather than receiving.

If you’re like most of my Love U students, you give WAY more than you receive.

You’re like Sisyphus pushing a rock up a hill or Atlas carrying the world on his shoulders.

It’s tiring. It sucks. And nobody talks openly about it.

Have you ever spent long nights on the phone counseling a dear friend?

Have you ever spent thousands of dollars on veterinarian bills for a sick pet?

Have you ever worked longer than expected because you took pride in your work and wanted to please your boss or client?

Have you ever given an expensive gift to your less fortunate sister or your self-sacrificing mother?

Have you ever given more to a relationship than the relationship has given back to you?

I’ll bet you have.

What we see here is not just that you are generous but you are actually generous to a fault.

So, why am I bringing this up now, on the last day of this special Love U launch?

If anything, I wanted you to see something I see in you:

You are so committed to giving to others that you may neglect your own needs.

You put yourself out for a friend, for a pet, for a loved one, but when do you get the opportunity to receive?

Not very often.

This is your chance.

I’m not telling you to suddenly cut off your monthly donation to ALS or RAINN.

I’m not telling you to return that iPad you bought for your Mom for her birthday.

I’m only telling you what you already know.

You need to be as generous with yourself as you are with others.

You’d do anything for someone you love. But you hesitate to do the easiest, smartest thing for your long-term happiness:

Apply to join me in Love U.

Understand, I’m not against you taking another solo trip to Bali, redecorating your bathroom, or splurging on a spa weekend with the girls.

But happiness doesn’t come from material goods or temporary pleasures.

It comes from deep, meaningful, human connection – and nothing is deeper, more meaningful and more fulfilling than a happy marriage.

It comes from deep, meaningful, human connection – and nothing is deeper, more meaningful and more fulfilling than a happy marriage.

This is one area in which no one else can save you.

Your best friend can’t help you understand men.

Your sister can’t teach you to date online.

Your mom can’t teach you to be confident wherever you go.

Your dog can’t outline the most important qualities to look for in a man.

It’s generous for you to take care of them, but who’s taking care of you – if not you?

After midnight tonight, you will no longer be able to get the following:

  •      26 weeks of Love U videos.
  •      26 weeks of Love U exercises.
  •      26 weeks of Love U coaching calls with me.
  •      26 weeks of support from other smart, strong, successful women in the Love U Community who are also taking this exciting journey at the same time.
  •      4 value-added bonuses including my bestselling “Why He Disappeared” program.

Thus, it’s really simple. If you’re satisfied with your love life as it is right now and would be fine being in this exact same position next year, sit tight.

If you’re dissatisfied being alone and want the opportunity to experience unconditional love like so many of Love U graduates, click here.

Once you’re done coaching with me, you’ll have exactly what I have:

A partner who actively WANTS to make you happy.

He’ll make you dinner.

He’ll drive you to the airport.

He’ll handle the wifi and snow shoveling and dirty dishes.

He’ll be there when you fall asleep and when you wake up each day.

He’ll come to your family’s dysfunctional Thanksgiving.

He’ll whisk you away for a fun three-day weekend over Memorial Day.

He’ll celebrate your successes and hold you through your losses.

Most importantly, he’ll take care of you when you’re too tired to take care of yourself.

I assure you: there is no better feeling in the world.

Even if you didn’t take advantage of this special offer to apply to Love U, I hope you took value out of the emails, the Facebook Live, and all those client success stories.

I hope you challenged yourself on what you can do differently, and on understanding how men really think.

No matter what, I remain committed to staying in touch with you and giving you as much valuable information as I can in my weekly newsletters, blog posts and podcasts.

Click here before 11:59pm tonight to apply to apply to Love U and join other smart successful women who are also ready to live happily ever after.

Give me 5 minutes a day and I will give you a husband.

Many thanks and warmest wishes,

Your friend,


P.S. April joined Love U three years ago. Not long after, she sent me this email.

I can’t believe how much I learned from Evan’s coaching. I’m one of the participants who came in and did a lot of things the opposite of how Evan coaches us, fell right on my butt, dusted myself off, and then did it the right way and had these amazing results. If Evan helped me figure this out? He can do it for anyone.

Now, I’m in an amazing marriage with a really wonderful man. Easily the best and most healthy relationship of my life. And I’m happy. Really happy. Not euphoric, “This is too good to be true, when will the other shoe drop” happy, but truly content, peaceful and so excited about the future. Evan helped me to attract and keep an amazing man who makes me feel special and cherished and oh, by the way? He’s gorgeous. smart, funny and extremely successful – and that, my friend, is really just icing on the cake.

Now I feel as lucky and blessed in my relationship as I do in all the other areas of my life. I used to wonder how I managed to figure out everything in life but love. I thought the really amazing relationships were for someone else. Now I realize I just didn’t have the right mindset or tools. The adjustments I made were so minor, yet they had such an amazing impact on my life. Thank you, Evan, for everything.


As always, I don’t make these up.

As always, this can be yours.

As always, it’s up to you.

By this time tomorrow, your chance to enroll in Love U will be gone.

It’s now or never.

I sure hope it’s now.

See you inside Love U!

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  1. 1
    No Name To Give

    I’m so used to fending for myself and making my own way it would be very awkward.

  2. 2

    What I’d like is a man who takes care of himself; is a high functioning, fully realized adult. He uses his mind, always wants to learn, eats healthy, exercises. Deals with hard times by self reflection and making change if needed. Emotionally and financially responsible. Has insight into his own issues and is aware of the world situation and works to make this a better world. These are the things I do for myself and I expect other adults, particularly by my age, to do the same. No one can make you whole or functional except yourself. If your life seems currently overwhelming, you and you alone must figure out the solution and enter into change.

    1. 2.1

      Well said! I agree 🙂

  3. 3

    Between my son and I taking care of chores and the condo folks holding up their end of the deal I think I’m pretty well covered LOL

  4. 4


    I have to ask… I know you’re running a business and you need to sell. But how realistic is that list of “he’ll”? That’s long. As a guy, that sounds exhausting. I certainly can’t be all of that for somebody. While I don’t doubt that there might be a few guys like that out there, how realistic is it to market that to your client base? That feels disingenuous.

    What Noquay asks for is much more realistic — at least it certainly describes me. And I’m glad she wants that, it sounds like a nice healthy balance.

    The woman who wants what you’re selling? That’s my ex wife. She had Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Being married to that is soul crushing. I know how to screen for it now, and I run, far and fast.

    1. 4.1
      Evan Marc Katz

      You call it exhausting. I call it marriage. Two people who are givers, constantly giving. If you can’t have that kind of relationship, maybe you’re not cut out for a relationship. Or maybe you’re not cut out for a GREAT relationship.

  5. 5


    Doing some chores, driving your wife to the airport, organising trips now and then and being loving and supportive is ‘exhausting’, or a potential sign your wife has NPD? Really?…

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    You know the best way to screen?  It’s to be completely transparent as to what you are willing and able to contribute to a relationship.  Trust me, if you make it clear to women what you will and will not offer you will find the right buyer for exactly what you are selling.

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    I know I’m not a man, but I’ve known and dated plenty of them, and from where I’m sitting, Evan’s list is not unrealistic at all.

    Of the guys who would do what Evan describes, I count:

    * Both my brothers,
    * Most of my guy friends,
    * At least 50% of my exes,
    * My current boyfriend.

    I don’t know if it’s a cultural thing based on where I live, but I have met many kind, caring and considerate men who make a lot of effort.

    If you don’t want to do those things, that’s up to you, and you probably need a woman who doesn’t want or value those those things as highly.
    But for those of us who want a committed, connected relationship in which you are constantly communicating, caring for and doing for the other, there’s nothing wrong with it and it’s not unrealistic. As I say, it’s what I have now.

  8. 8

    Hm, perhaps this is a consequence of the US being a highly individualistic culture, but some of you seem a bit divorced from reality. You will never live your life without the need for someone’s help. You may pay for it, but you’ll need help. It’s impossible to be in a relationship without being vulnerable. I get it’s hard, but this isn’t simply an issue in romantic relationships.  It remains consistent in all human interactions.

    Personally, I like what Evan is pitching here. Many of the women I see are with men who don’t help much and it makes them miserable.  I’d like to see women being helped just as much as they care for others in their lives.

  9. 9
    No Name To Give

    I never claimed I don’t *need help*. But I don’t have to be *taken care of*. To me, those are not the same thing.

  10. 10


    Sorry for being pedantic, but you weren’t selling the “pro quo”, just the quid.

    1. 10.1
      Evan Marc Katz

      I am a coach for women. Too often, they’re already giving and not getting anything in return. I tell them to not settle for less.

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    It’s easy to quibble about what Evan was advertising, but I’m not cut out for cooking and doing the dishes seven days a week. Granted, he didn’t *say* seven days a week, but he didn’t say “split the chores with you” either. He just said “do it.” I cook, and I cook well. The ladies don’t complain.

    There was no balance in that pitch, and I know people who will take it literally, as written. My ex would certainly love to be his client! (Maybe I should refer her.)

    1. 11.1

      Bob- I had the same reaction as you when I saw the title. I’d love to have someone “take care of” me too. It’s a seductive title to the lonely women who come here.

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    I’m not trying to be argumentative, but I think anyone who thinks Evan is pitching a scenario where men do everything and women sit back and rest on their laurels doesn’t know his work at all.

    He couldn’t condense his entire philosophy (which is just as much about how women can be more effective with and accepting of meny) into one blog article. This one article was just a facet of it.

    And referring to your ex (whom you say had NPD) as a typical member of Evan’s target audience is missing the point in a big way.

  13. 13
    No Name To Give

    Bob, we get it. Your ex.

  14. 14

    My husband is an alpha male. He works 14 hour days AND does the dishes, helps with the kids (they were mine before but he takes full responsibility for them now), mows the lawn, spends quality time with me and the kids, is very emotionally supportive and kind, he does everything on Evan’s list. I’m a giver and so is he. We don’t keep score, we both love to make each other happy. It’s not unrealistic. I was always the giver with past relationships and I spent too many years with men who were users and didn’t give. I’ve followed Evan’s advice and I found true love.

  15. 15

    What Clare said.

    BTW what’s with guys lately starting threads where they tell Evan how to word things so as not to upset them. Talk about narcissism…

    Bob: which of these would you not do for your wife: drive her to the airport, some household chores, organise a trip, give her love, give support? Which bit bothers you?

  16. 16

    Yep, the US particularly the Western US is way too individualistic and self centered. Something about the ski culture seems to attract the “me, me, me” crowd. Why I am headed back north. Yep, sometimes one does need others yet one should or often has to be in a place to meet ones own needs. When I was married back north, my husband and I had a good, albeit strange division of labor. Since I was much younger, had more endurance and hate “sitting down” work, I got the firewood in, tapped trees for syrup, took over food production yet cleaned, did laundry, dishes. He did the bills, the shopping, heavy lifting, tended the cars. Things have changed since then. Many men would rather I cut down my lifestyle, not owned my homes, not have pets or hens so that they don’t feel obligated to help with anything. I rarely asked for help yet they didn’t wish to feel bad seeing me work yet still expected a warm, clean, top end home. At the time I also worked full time while they were retired. Such folk were discouraged from sticking around. Some meant well but did not have the health or stamina to do much of anything. Very common. Dunno what country you’re in but in my age group, about 75% of older adults are overweight and I live at about 3300 meters. Finding a healthy partner online is a near impossibility. I learned to do repairs and built stairs, cabinets, outbuildings, on my own because that was the only way the work got done and was quality. It’s as though any lifestyle not consumed by leisure, comfort, convenience, is anathema to many men my age and older. I feel bad that my marriage ended (I had to leave the area); trying to find someone compatible has become an ugly experience, not one I’m sure I wish to continue pursuing.

  17. 17

    Bob & Steve2

    It’s pretty disappointing you guys come here specifically to criticize women and Evan. If you read into his work (beyond a headline which triggered you because of your own stuff) there’s much more to it – it’s about creating healthy, happy, loving and, most importantly, mutually fulfilling relationships.

    Criticism is easy. Trying to actually do something is much harder.

    I’ve done Love U (and I assure you, it wasn’t because I’m ‘lonely’ – it’s because I want to be the best partner possible).

    Evan is very happily married.

    What have you done?

  18. 18

    Bob & Steve,

    A relationship is an exchange of *mutual* care.

    I’m not sure what part of that is so offensive to you. If you don’t want to drive someone to the airport, help her with household chores, cook sometimes, go away for holidays, celebrate her wins and losses, go to events with her (while having her do all those things for you)…

    you can accomplish that perfectly fine on your own.

    For those of us who do want that, it’s not unrealistic. I’ve met lots of guys who LOVE doing those things. But coming here and telling us that it’s a marketing ploy because women are “lonely” is like going to a wedding and making a speech about divorce rates.

    It only makes you look bitter and negative, and doesn’t change how other people feel or what they want at all.

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    “Dunno what country you’re in but in my age group, about 75% of older adults are overweight and I live at about 3300 meters. Finding a healthy partner online is a near impossibility. I learned to do repairs and built stairs, cabinets, outbuildings, on my own because that was the only way the work got done and was quality. It’s as though any lifestyle not consumed by leisure, comfort, convenience, is anathema to many men my age and older.”

    I’m in South Africa, and only a small proportion of the population is overweight. Obese people (of the kind found in the U.S.) are virtually non-existent.

    We’re a very outdoorsy nation, and men here are very traditional. This has its drawbacks, but on the whole I find it an advantage. Most men here would rather die than see a woman pick up a hammer or drill in their presence if they themselves could do it.

  20. 20

    Men like Bob & Steve have a stake in trying to instill in women an insecurity that they will be forever without a partner if following Evan’s advice.  It’s not just that these men don’t want those women who would follow Evan’s advice – oh no, it’s not enough for them to just live and let live; they want available for themselves a larger pool of the kind of women THEY want.  I’d bet money these are the same kind of middle-aged white men who can’t stand diversity and inclusion initiatives in the workplace – for them they see every step toward empowerment of others as taking something away from them.  Theirs is a universe of limited resources and a view that most everything in life is a zero-sum game.

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