Are the People That You Want To Meet Online More Physically Attractive Than You Are?

Are the people that you want to meet online more physically attractive than you are?

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  1. 91

    @ Mavis

    ” i admit i’m not gorgeous or “hot” but if the fat, balding guy is holding out a “hottie,””

    In all likelihood, he isn’t.

    OLD studies show that women receive emails in close proportion to their perceived attractiveness(with only the bottom 25% of females being ‘snubbed’, compared to the bottom 60% of males – which shows that the odds are in the favor of females, as if we didn’t already know).

    “and no i don’t want to date a guy who just “settled” for me because he couldn’t do better.”

    And how would you propose to infer that?

    Are you sure this isn’t just a clever way of saying, that YOU don’t want to accept a man who YOU think can’t do better?

    If so, then don’t you see what a losing strategy this is?

    Like all self-interested organisms, men pursue positive outcomes.

    So, if you are intent on holding out for some guy who somehow, against all reasonable expectations, is(and will remain!) *oblivious* to better options with higher value women, then you are either deluded, or indulging too much romance fiction.

    But, what is the obsession that many females have with *only* playing the long odds?

    Is it all just in pursuit of a peer-validated ego trip?

    Everyone settles on *someone* when they make a decision to invest singularly in getting to know that person better.

    After that, any emotional bonding changes the whole dynamic – individuals are no longer a weighted
    statistic, but an evolved emotional quantity in someone eles’s life.

    So the whole ‘settling’ interval is only relevant where an individual is just a composite of unqualified assessments in a stranger’s mind.

  2. 92
    Freddie Anon

    if she is ugly i wont get an errection
    if she is too hot i wont trust others around her when we are not together
    so i want her to be a 6 or 7, i have been a 4 and an 8 in my life i still like her to be a 6 or 7 either way

  3. 93
    Sparkling Emerald

    I try to find someone that I think is “as cute” as me.  Any one noticeably much more attractive, is usually dating down for easy booty, and as a time filler until they can find someone hotter.  I tend to not be attracted to guys who are noticeably less attractive than me.  However, non-physical qualities (character, confidence, the way they carry themselves) can alter how I perceive their physical attractiveness. (up or down)
    Over 30 years ago, I read a book on choosing a marriage partner by Dr Joyce Brothers, and she recommended AGAINST what she called “looks discrepant” marriages.  She advised going with someone who was about your equal in the physical attractiveness category.  She said that generally speaking the more attractive person would have the upper hand.  At first I was really rather shocked that a professional would give this advice, it seemed so shallow.  But I must admit, from most of what I have observed and experienced, I think her advice was quite wise.

  4. 94

    Both online and in real life, the ones who really attract me are the intellectuals who can have fun.  Attractive men are only attractive to me if they have those qualities.

  5. 95

    I would like to pose a question. What if there was a dating website that allowed you to post specific pictures. Even required them. One portrait close up with no sunglasses. One full body shot with clothes not designed to hide a person’s figure, though not required to be skin tight either. Then up to a half dozen “activity” photos that give a sense of what you like to do, such a hiking, horse back riding, motorcycle riding, etc….

    Now, with those photos, everyone on the site as asked to rate you, based on whether you would go on a date with the person based on their looks. This assigns a rating to you that you and everybody else can see.

    I feel pretty certain most of us cringe at the thought because the reality is that most of us likely overvalue our rating and learning the truth might be a bit painful.

    But, I wonder if once we got past the pain and dealt with reality, would it free us to find somebody more easily.

    Here is a documentary video, just a few minutes of the documentary that deals with this.

  6. 96

    I don’t know how to assess that and I think you could be wrong in trying to assess it. Mind you most men who I see who are gorgeous and contact me always want a “casual thing” so gorgeous men try to get flings with girls who are less attractive and only want to date women of their attractiveness level I guess. I do think though that someone you may think is way too good looking for you might randomly be attracted and someone you find ugly might also think your ugly at the same time a guy you thought was above you might randomly occasionally like you. Everyone has different tastes and you can’t really easily rank people.

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