Are the People That You Want To Meet Online More Physically Attractive Than You Are?

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Are the people that you want to meet online more physically attractive than you are?

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  1. 81
    Joe

    Zaq @ 65: so you know women who are 40 who have married men who were 20?

    Nicole @ 67: do you wear heels?

  2. 82
    Nicole

    @Joe…sometimes, but as much as I love shoes, I always try to gauge how much walking is required and pick accordingly.  

    Are you asking b/c of what I said about men exaggerating about their height?   I’m talking about wearing flats and looking eye to eye with men who will say that they are 5’8 or 5’9 or 5’10.   Or when you see a friend’s driver’s license and he’s the same height as you but his license says he is 5’10.   Just something I’ve noticed.   But it does make me assume that anyone who admits to being less than 5’8 is probably shorter than me.  

    Since I didn’t inherit my parents’ height and long legs, it’s not that important, but considering that I still get measured at the doctor’s office, I’m wondering how so many men are under the impression that they are taller than they are.   I’ve been 5’6 since I stopped growing in high school.  

  3. 83
    Joe

    Yeah, I asked for that reason.

    You know, I was happy tooling along, thinking I was 5’9″ for years, when I decided to measure myself again and discovered I was 5’9.5″.   Maybe years of having my posture fixed by my ballroom coach “uncovered” an extra 1/2″ LOL.

    The way I figure it, there’s really no point in lying about your height or body type because as soon as you meet any prospective date, that person can see the truth.   Unless you’re exceptionally attractive, the odds of that date being turned off by the deception are higher than  the odds of the deception getting you that date in the first place (if that makes sense).

  4. 84
    Nicole

    @Joe,
    Yeah, in the grand scheme of things, it’s not the worst lie someone can tell.   But it’s a pointless lie(like posting a 20 year old pictures).   I mean, while some descriptions are open to interpretation, height isn’t one of them.  

    Like I said, I’m only average height for an American woman, but it does mentally make me rule out people who claim under 5’8 b/c then they are probably shorter than me and that is just REALLY tiny.   And there is nothing wrong with that, but not my preference so I’d rather just pass (which isn’t the same as insisting that someone be 6’2).  

    What is funny to me about the height thing is that unlike body type, it isn’t subjective at all.   Your height is your height.

    Now someone might get mad if they decide that your body type doesn’t match their interpretation(and I’m not talking about hugely obvious things, just minor ones), or if they couldn’t tell exactly how big or small you were from your body shot, but that is still open to interpretation.   I don’t lie about my body, have a recent picture,   but I do think some people see the whole package and still want to see it in person and then decide to pass, b/c we are still all built different and they might like the shape but wish it was a bit smaller.

    I do think more women are a bit more lenient with the physical package that men come in, but as picky as men are when the tables are turned, you’d think that they’d be more honest themselves.   So I’ve seen men who were quite large call themselves athletic and toned, and met men who said that and had huge bellies.   It would never occur to me to pick something so different from what I am.   Now if I decide you aren’t toned b/c you don’t have a six pack, that is kind of my own fault or my own way of interpreting things.   And I don’t want to meet anyone that is going to reject me in person b/c they think I’m a liar and didn’t describe myself accurately. Does that make any sense?  

    I think that women are probably turned off by lies about height than a man would be.     And I think that a woman is going to get forgiven more for being hot enough.   A hot man with a bad personality or who might be a big(or small)  liar isn’t that appealing.  

  5. 85
    NonExist

    Well from where I put myself on the scale, 99% of people are physically more attractive than I.
    So the answer would have to be yes.

    Funny thing about height, my last physical measurement I was 6 feet.
    But I have gotten people in general who know and  meet me who tell me I must be 6’2″ or 6’3″.
    So sometimes it is poerception.

  6. 86
    Saint Stephen

    @NonExist
    If you are 6 feet tall then u are a lot more attractive than you think.
    A 6 feet tall unattractive guy looks more attractive to women than a  gorgeous  looking 5 8″/5 9″ guys.   

  7. 87
    hespeler

    Saint Stephen 87

    @NonExist
    If you are 6 feet tall then u are a lot more attractive than you think.
    A 6 feet tall unattractive guy looks more attractive to women than a  gorgeous  looking 5 8”³/5 9”³ guys.    

    If it were only that simple.   I’m 6’2” and in very good shape (borderline gym rat).   I’ve been toiling around on Match for over 2 years.   I’ve had plenty of dates and a couple of short-term relationships but I can’t get dates with the ones I find really attractive and if I do get a date with a hottie, I usually don’t get a second.  

    I also have a great job (six figure salary), own a house, and have good social skills (I’m anything but creepy).   My one downfall is my receding hairline; I’m not bald but I no longer have a thick head of hair.   I just say this because everyone has their shortcomings – height in and of itself will not do the trick.

    I went out a month ago with a 10 (I thought she was).   We had a very nice time, she commented on how young I looked compared to my pictures (I’m 37 and she’s 35)  and even made out in the parking lot (she kissed me – caught me by surprise actually).   I tried to get a second date a couple of days later and she essentially wished me the best of luck.   I’m still pissed about it.   I recall we got on the subject of height during the date and she said that height wasn’t really a big deal to her.   This is a girl who in my opinion is far and away the most attractive girl on Match in my area.

    My height didn’t get me anywhere with other really hot ones too.   It just gets me the date but I’m just one of the 10 dates they have lined up that week…

  8. 88
    Saint Stephen

    @Hespeler
    Your only problem is your inability to get date with lots of “Match.com hotties”   while other men 5 8″ and 5 9″ are lamenting over their inability to get a date with the plain average women – yeah, some men wish they had your problem. Looks isn’t   going to matter in the long run if you are genuinely seeking a healthy long term relationship. But men still want attractive women and women still desire tall and attractive men – people want what they want and you can’t change them except they want to.

    And if have a lot of skill-set as you claim, why not harness it to get women in real life by seeking out avenues where you can exude your charm and social prowess? If your aim is to get lots of hotties – it seems you’ll be more successful that way.
    The hotties on Match.com do have lots of options – they can have find other guys that are 6 2″ and more attractive with full head of hair.  

  9. 89
    Mavis

    most women i know (myself included) don’t care about a receding hairline, in fact i think it looks attractive on some guys. i do care somewhat about height but only because i want him to be taller than me (i’m 5″6) so anywhere from 5″7 up is ok. i have dated shorter guys as well and it’s not a deal breaker, just a preference. i am also thin and therefore prefer a slimmer guy, but again i’ve been very attracted to men who were a little overweight if they had a great personality. now GUYS on the other hand…i don’t even know where to start. i posted a profile online and was getting snubbed because i wasn’t hot enough. a couple of guys even said they liked my profile (without photo), but when they saw my photo they took off. i admit i’m not gorgeous or “hot” but if the fat, balding guy is holding out a “hottie,” where does that leave us average women? and no i don’t want to date a guy who just “settled” for me because he couldn’t do better. i want someone to think i’m attractive. is that too much to ask for?

  10. 90
    Paragon

    @ Mavis

    ” i admit i’m not gorgeous or “hot” but if the fat, balding guy is holding out a “hottie,””

    In all likelihood, he isn’t.

    OLD studies show that women receive emails in close proportion to their perceived attractiveness(with only the bottom 25% of females being ‘snubbed’, compared to the bottom 60% of males – which shows that the odds are in the favor of females, as if we didn’t already know).

    “and no i don’t want to date a guy who just “settled” for me because he couldn’t do better.”

    And how would you propose to infer that?

    Are you sure this isn’t just a clever way of saying, that YOU don’t want to accept a man who YOU think can’t do better?

    If so, then don’t you see what a losing strategy this is?

    Like all self-interested organisms, men pursue positive outcomes.

    So, if you are intent on holding out for some guy who somehow, against all reasonable expectations, is(and will remain!) *oblivious* to better options with higher value women, then you are either deluded, or indulging too much romance fiction.

    But, what is the obsession that many females have with *only* playing the long odds?

    Is it all just in pursuit of a peer-validated ego trip?

    Everyone settles on *someone* when they make a decision to invest singularly in getting to know that person better.

    After that, any emotional bonding changes the whole dynamic – individuals are no longer a weighted
    statistic, but an evolved emotional quantity in someone eles’s life.

    So the whole ‘settling’ interval is only relevant where an individual is just a composite of unqualified assessments in a stranger’s mind.

  11. 91
    Freddie Anon

    if she is ugly i wont get an errection
    if she is too hot i wont trust others around her when we are not together
    so i want her to be a 6 or 7, i have been a 4 and an 8 in my life i still like her to be a 6 or 7 either way

  12. 92
    Sparkling Emerald

    I try to find someone that I think is “as cute” as me.   Any one noticeably much more attractive, is usually dating down for easy booty, and as a time filler until they can find someone hotter.   I tend to not be attracted to guys who are noticeably less attractive than me.   However, non-physical qualities (character, confidence, the way they carry themselves) can alter how I perceive their physical attractiveness. (up or down)
      
    Over 30 years ago, I read a book on choosing a marriage partner by Dr Joyce Brothers, and she recommended AGAINST what she called “looks discrepant” marriages.   She advised going with someone who was about your equal in the physical attractiveness category.   She said that generally speaking the more attractive person would have the upper hand.   At first I was really rather shocked that a professional would give this advice, it seemed so shallow.   But I must admit, from most of what I have observed and experienced, I think her advice was quite wise.
      

  13. 93
    judy

    Both online and in real life, the ones who really attract me are the intellectuals who can have fun.   Attractive men are only attractive to me if they have those qualities.

  14. 94
    RustyLH

    I would like to pose a question. What if there was a dating website that allowed you to post specific pictures. Even required them. One portrait close up with no sunglasses. One full body shot with clothes not designed to hide a person’s figure, though not required to be skin tight either. Then up to a half dozen “activity” photos that give a sense of what you like to do, such a hiking, horse back riding, motorcycle riding, etc….

    Now, with those photos, everyone on the site as asked to rate you, based on whether you would go on a date with the person based on their looks. This assigns a rating to you that you and everybody else can see.

    I feel pretty certain most of us cringe at the thought because the reality is that most of us likely overvalue our rating and learning the truth might be a bit painful.

    But, I wonder if once we got past the pain and dealt with reality, would it free us to find somebody more easily.

    Here is a documentary video, just a few minutes of the documentary that deals with this.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wt2lbpteU64

  15. 95
    Zoe

    I don’t know how to assess that and I think you could be wrong in trying to assess it. Mind you most men who I see who are gorgeous and contact me always want a “casual thing” so gorgeous men try to get flings with girls who are less attractive and only want to date women of their attractiveness level I guess. I do think though that someone you may think is way too good looking for you might randomly be attracted and someone you find ugly might also think your ugly at the same time a guy you thought was above you might randomly occasionally like you. Everyone has different tastes and you can’t really easily rank people.

  16. 96
    john

    How does this even make sense ,   A woman can change her locks by wearing make up a man cannot   !

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