Celebrities, They’re Just Like Us! (Dating Coach Edition)

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If you’ve ever wondered why I don’t do celebrity news when writing about Kate Middleton or Kim Kardashian could increase my traffic tenfold, it’s because it would be too painful for me to “analyze” the inner workings of their relationships. My time is better spent coaching clients, reading interesting articles, or arguing with strangers in the comments section below.

But when this celebrity-driven post went up on the Daily Beast, I knew I had to at least acknowledge it in some way:

Turns out that AnastasiaDate, a US/Russian dating site that is just shy of pimping mail order brides, has signed soap star and celebrity hunk Antonio Sabato to write a column for their website. Sabato’s first piece of advice?

“Be yourself!”

Seriously? If you’re on a Russian mail order bride site, I would think you should try to be someone else.

Listen, I don’t know Antonio Sabato, Jr. He may be a smart, sweet, compassionate guy with a real desire to help people. But me thinks that he just needed a paycheck. And that AnastasiaDate, with $140M in revenues had a little extra cash to throw around.

I’ll be the first to acknowledge that ANYBODY can be a dating coach. There’s no barrier to entry. Build a blog, start a mailing list, see if you can convince people to trust you, and get them to pay for your products. I ain’t stopping you. But the fact is that even if everyone can (and does) give dating advice (see the comments section again), very few people get away with being able to do it for many years and many millions of people.

As the article observes, “Those ambling unsuccessfully through the dating scene don’t want a wall covered in degrees and certificates. Nor are they interested in Adonis-like television stars’ tips on picking up girls (the secret is to be an Adonis-like television star). It’s the charmingly mediocre man–not hugely wealthy, not exceptionally good-looking–who snags the beautiful, smart, and interesting woman worthy of study.”

Charmingly mediocre. Not exceptionally good-looking. I’ll take it!

That makes me think of one time when I was called into audition to be a dating coach on Extreme Makeover. The executive producer took one look at me and said: “YOU’RE a dating coach? You must either have a really big dick or you must be incredibly charming!” Me: “I can tell you what it’s not.”

I love that story. Not because a Hollywood bigwig insulted me to my face as soon as he met me. But because I’m living proof that you can find the ultimate love with a little charm, a lot of trial and error, and the ability to persevere and learn from your own mistakes. I hope that’s readily apparent every time you read my blog. Thanks for being a part of my community.

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  1. 1

    ““YOU’RE a dating coach? You must either have a really big dick or you must be incredibly charming!” Me: “I can tell you what it’s not.””
    Thank you, EMK, for my laugh of the day! I think dating coaches should have a good sense of humor, which you do – and you probably need to have one in your line of work, as well.

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  3. 3

    Hi folks – just about to log off for the evening.
    I fell about laughing with that sentence : either she was totally charming or…..she doesn’t know when she’s on to a good thing????? (Both remarks could be interpreted as sweet and kind :o):o)

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    Sorry to burst your bubble Evan, but there are people out there that think you are a good looking man. Just because a Hollywood producer doesn’t think your Brad Pitt, doesn’t mean you are not attractive to others. They have to be highly critical anyways so it doesn’t say much. I showed your blog to a few male friends and they obviously think your attractive. Please don’t act like one of those people who are intelligent, well off and successful and then down yourself down as some marketing ploy that your just an average when clearly your not.

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      LOL. I think an “Oh snap” goes here. 🙂

      Mr. Whip-Smart Brain with the Authoritative Velvet Baritone was just downplaying his charms, I think. Hee hee.

      Plus, you know those West Coast Glam types – I think it’s axiomatic that when you have a young alpha and a grey wolf alpha in the same room, a brief round of “Whose Is Bigger, Hollywood Version” is almost mandatory.


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    Sparkling Emerald

    Had to LOL at the “You are either charming . . .”
    But Evan, on some other post you rated your looks as a 7.   I think you’ve been hanging out with the Hollywood crowd too long, you definitely rate more than 7.  

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    I LOL at “I can tell you what it is not.”   I agree with Sparkling Emerald (as usual) you are no average looking guy… I won’t elaborate except to say that your wife has excellent taste!   

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    Sparkling Emerald

    Lia @ 6 – And his wife is gorgeous, no wonder they have such cute kids !   They all probably think they are average looking, (birds of a feather syndrome)  
    I am a bit puzzled why that Hollywood Big Wig thought having a big one was a pre-requisite to being a dating coach ?   Unless there is some deluxe package that some dating coaches are offering that we aren’t privvy to. 🙂

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    I am planning to start a home-based business to bring in additional income. But I do not think I have the right skill set to be a dating coach.   I do, however, think I can pull off some killer craft ideas and market my wares.

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    Peter 51

    So far as I know, Anastasia date do not need to offer dating adivce from a celebrity.   The proportion of men who actually write to the women is small, the replies are few, the number who visit Eastern Europe is tiny and the resulting marriages are counted in the low dozens, from the whole industry not just any one site.   Most marriages to Russians that I know of involved a man or woman already outside the country or a foreign man or women already inside the country.   $140m is staggering if true.   I know as many couples who chose to live in Russia as outside it.   I suppose a celebrity dating coach might stimulate more messaging from the men.   Is he married to a Russian he met through a dating agency?   How much is he paid?   As I’ve never heard of him perhaps he is replaceable, by me.

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    Evan is a hottie, and his wife is beautiful.   I agree, Evan has been living in LA too long.

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