Have You Ever Lied About Anything in Your Profile?


Have you ever lied about anything in your profile?

I have. I’m really 5’9″, not 5’10″…

Adding an inch or two to their height seems to be a common lie among men.

Among women, subtracting a few years from their age is common.

What were your dates reactions when they found out you lied?

Are there ever circumstances when it’s okay to lie?   Find out my thoughts in my Finding the One Online 5 CD set.

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  1. 21

    Lie after lie, after lie,,,,hhhmmmhh…its not really a lie, isn’t it more like, diplomacy, tactfulness, maybe,…just a little tinsy, tiny, manipulative……

  2. 22

    I’m about 5’10 so I don’t have to worry about lying about height. But my license says 5’9 but that might be because I got it at 16 and never bothered to change it. Maybe I’m actually 5’9 1/2 but I think if you wear shoes you can seem taller like Doc Martins. George Costanza on seinfeld wore Timberlands to appear taller to women! But with internet dating, I think there are obviously more single shorter guys out there who use online dating and its probably true that more curvy women use online dating than not.

  3. 23

    In online dating, many men lie about their height. That’s been studied.

    “I think there are obviously more single shorter guys out there who use online dating and its probably true that more curvy women use online dating than not.”

    Probably so, and the general physical attractiveness of online daters probably is lower than that of the relationship-seeking population in general. Online dating sites are going to need to better address that and the lying. Instead of running ads that falsely imply that online dating is a sea of beauties 🙂

  4. 24


    can’t say I understand what exactly you are proposing the dating sites do. Besides, do you hold, say, beer commercials to the same standard?

    This reminds me of a JDate ad I once saw in Times Square, which in my opinion was totally unsuccessful. It showed a couple in an embrace – an attractive woman in her upper 20’s-lower 30’s and an unattractive man about 15 years her senior. Let’s just say, based on THAT ad, I’d never be inclined to go on the site. I can see how the woman in the poster could entice a lot of men to try it out, but if that man is a realistic representation of what they can offer, I’d rather take my chances elsewhere.

  5. 25
    The InBetweener

    As far as LIES go, I guess a lie would be any UNTRUTH?

    Let’s see, I’ve omitted my first name and just used my middle name.

    I’ve said I was currently AT work, when I really just happened to be working from home that day.

    I said I was born in Lebanon. I was actually. Just not the country.

    I’m 5’5 3/4 bare footed but I never put that in my profile. I usually just put down 5’5-5’6. Mainly because, when you first meet someone in person, it’s almost never barefooted.

    Those are my “untruths”. The thing I never understood with people that lie online is, how can someone lie about something that will be visible upon sight?

  6. 26

    i liked about my first name, used a new fake name to people i met 4 years ago, and we r in touch until now, i know it sounds evil but its the truth ive recently confessed and told him my real name only cuz we r getting serious realtionship meeting for marriage, where as before we were goood friends

    but ill never ever do it again made me feel sooo guilty ashamed devasted and hated my entire life for my bad doings

    i never lied about my age hight weight religion anything else just my name

  7. 27
    Seductress Within

    No never lied. I wouldn’t be very trusting of my date if he did.

    Most men that I’ve met from an online dating site say “wow, you look exactly like your picture. That almost never happens. I’m always a little nervous to see how different she’ll be.”
    I don’t know how many men lie, but women must do it regularly if the majority of the men I’ve met seem surprised to meet me and “everything checks out”.

    What is up with that? Why would anyone want to start what could be a relationship with lies or misrepresentations, however small?

    1. 27.1

      Hear it and believe it! You are highly atypical of women online. In my experience less than 1 in 10 actually look like their profile photos. Personally if a woman doesn’t look like the pics she posted, I think she should be required to buy her date drinks until she does. 🙂

      Come on ladies, if a man posts pics like that, and the somewhat attractive guy you thought you were meeting turns out to be at least 70 lbs. overweight and bald, you’re outraged, and I bet at least half of you take the prearranged “emergency call” from your friend and bail. I realize most of you don’t give a rat’s rear end how the equivalent makes a man feel…but maybe, you could summon up some of that famous female empathy (you know, the sort you you always talk about, but rarely show for men), and try to imagine. I’ve never bailed on a date like that (I try to be a gentleman) but there sure have been plenty of times I wanted to.

      1. 27.1.1

        I can honestly say I didn’t lie in my profile either.   I’m sure that I may have drawn more men if I had lied–namely, by shaving a few years off my age to that 20s to early 30s demographic that so many men want.   However, I decided that I didn’t want to start off a potential relationship that way.

        I also decided that I’d rather draw fewer people who liked the real me, rather than more people who liked a fake one.   If anyone didn’t like me “as is”, I actually preferred not to meet them at all and move on–rather than meet them for a date that was destined to go nowhere.

        Yes, it took me a long time to finally meet my match–someone who actually liked my mid-30s self, rather than a younger version.   But it was more than worth the wait to find someone who loved and accepted the real me.

      2. 27.1.2
        Eye roll

        I’ll go with that Buck. And if the guy lies about his height he has to get himself off until he grows the requisite inches or starts telling the truth.

        With this system, nobody would ever get messaged. Or anything else.



        1. Buck25

          Funny, I’m 5’9″, I put my real height out there, and I get messages, and dates. I’m 68, I put my real age out there, and guess what? I still get messages, and dates. I put a recent   (as within the last year) full length pic out there, which shows me to be fit, and have most of my hair, albeit gray…and I still get messages and dates. Kinda shoots your little theory (or is it just an excuse) to hell and gone, doesn’t it? Once again, dismissed.

        2. Emily, the original

          Hi Buck,

          5’9″ is average height for a man. 5’4″ is average height for a woman. Even if she wears heels, she still won’t tower over him! I don’t get this big obsession with height.

  8. 28

    My applause on your last paragraph. I agree with you.

  9. 29

    Plenty of men have misrepresentative photos too — not just women. I think some people do it because they honestly don’t believe they look different. Others do it because they hope that once you meet them and get to know them, you won’t care that they don’t look exactly like their pictures. I also think that some might due it simply because of laziness — they just don’t feel like updating their profiles or their pictures. However, you’d think that in the extremely unforgiving world of online dating people would realize a dishonest strategy is a losing one, but it doesn’t appear that they do.

  10. 30

    Some women don’t call them lies, and they don’t call it misrepresenting. I think the word they use is, “Manipulative”.

    1. 30.1

      Doesn’t matter what they call it, Hunter. You can call a mule a horse, but   at the end of the day it’s still a mule, and a lie is still exactly that…a LIE! Actually it’s usually several lies, and they aren’t little, petty ones either; when women lie, there are no limits!

      1. 30.1.1
        Eye roll

        Yes women need to be models of honestly like men.

        Really Buck grow up.

        1. Buck25

          I don’t support men in lying either; it’s distasteful, dishonorable and just flat wrong. To which I’ll add, Eye Roll, I’m quite “grown up”; as in mature and secure enough in who I am to put my real self out there, warts and all, instead of some phony image built on lies and deception. Mature, confident, adult men and women don’t feel the need to lie. They’re ok with who they are including their imperfections, and don’t want to date someone someone who isn’t. Dismissed.

  11. 31

    I put some fun fiction in my profile.   I listed my occupation as “Lead Air Guitarist for an a cappella group”.   Not an entire fiction, one of the characters I played in theatrical production played air guitar with the cast as we sang a cappella.   So a true fact about a ficticious character I played.
    I also said that people fake being sick just to get some of my home made chicken soup.   As far as I know, no one has ever done that.
    As far as downright lies, no, haven’t done that.   Was very tempted to say I was divorced, when I was only separated, but decided that honesty was the best policy.  

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