Have You Ever Seen the Same People on Multiple Dating Sites and Rolled Your Eyes?


Have you ever seen the same people on multiple dating sites and rolled your eyes?

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  1. 41

    Not only have I seen the same men on multiple sites, I have had men abruptly stop returning messages on one site, only to find me on another site several days later and introduce themselves, and clearly they did not remember  me.   I had the same photos and the profile was consistent.   WTH?   Do guys message that many people, are they that ADD when online dating?

    Then there was the guy from POF who I determined was lying about his age, and after finding out about his lie I had dropped him right before we were set to meet up.   He shows up on Match days later, suddenly being honest about his age.   Hmm, guess he learned a lesson ….

  2. 42

    Have just come across this site and thanks for confirming my suspicions. I was just about to join an over-fifties dating site and so I was just doing a little research on who runs them. I discovered that one company operate several dating sites and charge different membership fees for the same services. So I then looked at the profiles and found that they were the same with only a few extra faces on one. It isn’t the members choice to be on several sites [mainly]. They are unaware that there profiles are up on other sites too. Years ago I discovered that my Match profile was on Dating Direct and then I believe I was on a Sex site [after certain comments for male members ]. I was horrified and so I contacted Match who confirmed that they were one and the same company. That made me even more angry as in the past I had paid for a membership on both sites. I’d say they took my second membership fraudulently. Since my experience with these dating sites I have met another woman who had the same awful experience of being on a sex led website. The industry is not truthful and they are making millions out of vunerable people.

  3. 43

    I feel sad for people on multiple dating sites. I hope that someday they find the one.

  4. 44

    I don’t know how old this blog is but… yes I’ve seen many of the same men on other sites, and well, I’m there too, so I can’t really say much about that.   What I have noticed, is that some of the men I’ve seen before, are from a different town than the they listed on another dating site.   And not a town close to where they listed before.   And in some cases, they have a neighboring state listed as their location.   That is certainly strange and a red flag for me.

  5. 45

    I was looking seriously for a long-term relationship but LOATHED online dating. I always would talk to the nicest guys, but when I would actually meet them it would be an immediate turn-off and cringe-worthy date… eventually I confess, I ghosted the bachelors. After swearing off online dating for over a year, a guy friend convinced me to try it one last time. BEHOLD. I MET THE PERFECT MAN.

    Everything between us was pure pure unfiltered chemistry and when I met him I had to remind myself that this was a first date.. not to get too excited. He felt the same way… it got to the point where we would talk for hours way into the night and early morning. Even talked about moving in.

    Then, he dropped the line “I know I will fall in love with you… and you will fall in love with me… so I have to leave now. We have to say goodbye.” … Stunned, I asked… “soooo can I still call you? text you? whats goodbye?” And he literally wanted to cut all ties and communication “but we can still be on Facebook so you can know I’m still looking at you.” … he’d go on to like anything and everything I posted.

    I was so confused. He told me he was looking for forever and that he had found that in me. We had amazing EVERYTHING between the two of us… then… because it was so good… goodbye? I was skeptical to say the least.

    I started doing more online dating… went to 4 different apps. This guy was on ALL of them. One of them even ranks how compatible you are and he, of course, was my “ultimate match.”

    Ugh. Dude, if you just wanted sex… that would’ve  been a hell of a lot let confusing. OR am I wrong? Did this guy really feel he could love me and just wanted to test the market first?? I don’t know… but I’m no ones trial or back-pocket girl.

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      Evan Marc Katz

      You do understand that this awful man is not a creature of online dating. He exists in real life, too. Quitting online dating because of men like this is like going on a hunger strike because you got food poisoning.

      1. 45.1.1

        You’re right, of course. But I want someone to pursue me…

        Sometimes I feel that by getting online I give up my value and reveal the fact that “im looking for you.”


        Is it wrong to believe old school men exist in which I will be simply going about my day and he will come to me and pursue me? Do I have to be online? Is that now the only way? I know I sound dramatic, but it’s frustrating

        1. Evan Marc Katz

          It’s not “wrong” Alaina. It’s “ineffective” in helping you achieve your goals. Sit back and wait for your old school man and you may go on 2 dates a year. Get my Finding the One Online program and you’ll have a date a week and 52 chances to find love. The choice is yours, my friend. Doesn’t sound like your way is making you all that happy.

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