Have You Ever Spied on Someone to See if They’re Still Using the Site When You Think You’re Starting to Get Serious?

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Have you ever spied on someone to see if they’re still using the site when you think you’re starting to get serious?

How did you feel when you saw that they were “active within 24 hours”?

Did you confront/question your partner about their recent activity on the site or remain silent?

Did you feel you SHOULD continue to date other people because they were still active?

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  1. 81

    Does anyone have the original article on this topic that they would share? This is a major topic in my world right now…would really like to see what Evan had to say on the issue.

  2. 82
    Bye bye bye

    I have been dating someone for 5 years. In the beginning he was on dating sites but after a year he was off of them. He travels for work. Well, turns out that when he was out of town he would reactivate his dating profiles in the city he was working in. I would confront him and he would deny it. Looking back I really was hurting myself by letting him tango with me in such a sick and twisted dance. For awhile he was off of the dating sites and he rebuilt my trust. It took a long time but I can say that I worked on trusting myself and self love rather than focusing on him. We broke up for awhile last summer and got back together last fall. Things were going well. Covid 19 hit and we quarantined together. I recently moved to a new home a couple weeks ago and he has started acting like he used to when he was preoccupied with other women. I found out yesterday that I am correct. There was an alert on his phone that came through I glanced over and it was a dating site saying that his account was paused. I decided to take a look and it turns out that he has been back on a dating site when he leaves my house he reactivates his profile and when he comes back to my house he pauses it. I was disappointed but not surprised. I asked him if he was on any dating sites he was very defensive. He called me crazy. I didn’t tell him anything about how I knew. He asked me if someone told me that. I was very clear that I will not be able to continue with him in a relationship if I see him in online dating. He all of the sudden decided to go stay at his house. I sarcastically asked if I could go he asked me if I wanted to follow him there. I said sure I’ll be there in a bit. I went to bed instead.

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