My Valentine’s Day Gift to You

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.

I know, I know…

Valentine’s Day is silly. Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark holiday.

But you have to admit, days like Valentine’s Day, your birthday, and New Years Eve DO make you stop and think: “What do I REALLY want out of life? And what am I doing to get it?”

I’ve been thinking a lot about this myself.

I really want to get better at guitar…but I always find an excuse not to practice.

I really want to buy a house…but I’d rather do anything on a Saturday than drive around Los Angeles.

I’d really like to have a family…but…okay, that’s not so difficult to find motivation!

Still, you get my point: we all get happier when we take the necessary steps to achieve our goals.

No effort = no reward. It’s not a very complicated formula.

…MY way of online dating will give you a very different experience than your previous ways of doing it.

So if you already have a date for Valentine’s Day, I applaud you. You’re in the game, you’re taking chances, and you’re open to whatever tomorrow brings.

Now stop reading this blog post.

This email’s for everybody else, who, like me, will be staying IN on Valentine’s Day.

If you’ve been reading for awhile, you know that I’m a big believer in actionable steps, as opposed to wishful thinking. I believe you have to work to find love, the same way you have to work to find a job when you’re unemployed.

It may not sound “fun”, but it’s far more effective than the alternative.

Which is why I am a noted and unabashed advocate of online dating. Not because it’s perfect, but because it creates opportunity in your busy life – a busy life that doesn’t currently involve meeting single men.

“But,” you might think, “I’ve TRIED online dating. And it really didn’t work. The men that I wanted didn’t want me. The men who DID want me were liars, and flakes, and players and losers. I found it frustrating and dispiriting. Why would I go back?”

I’ve got two answers to your question

You go back because without online dating, you’re barely dating at all. One date every three months is not a love life. You need more opportunity. Match provides it.

You go back because you’ve never tried online dating MY way.

And MY way of online dating will give you a very different experience than your previous ways of doing it.

Assuming that something is wrong with when you don’t find love in 3 months, is like assuming that something is wrong with 24-Hour Fitness when you don’t drop 20 lbs in three months. Both companies work fine. If you’re not getting results, the only thing you can do is look in the mirror.

Those who work out often go to a personal trainer to get the most out of their performance. They quickly learn that there are better ways of doing things:

Proper form is more important than higher weights; high intensity cardio instead of low intensity cardio, and so on.

You may have gone to the gym for 5 years, but if you never used it RIGHT, you wouldn’t even know what you COULD get out of it.

Not until a professional stood over your shoulders and gave you personal suggestions. Which is ironic, because a all the machines looked pretty simple and straightforward. It would seem that ANYONE should be able to get results at the gym.

Not quite.

This is why I developed Finding the One Online, a comprehensive audio system designed to attract more men and higher quality men in online dating.

Over the course of 7CDs, with a 180 page transcript and a 35 page workbook, I give you EVERY SINGLE TRICK that I give to my $2000+ one-on-one coaching clients.

And because it’s going to be a lonely Sunday for both of us – and because I just relaunched my site to focus entirely on smart, strong, successful women (check it out at!), I wanted to offer you a special Valentine’s Day gift.

The normal cost of Finding the One Online is $297, but for you, on this holiday weekend, I’m taking my signature program and slashing the price to $197.

Better yet, you can get it for only $66/month. Really. For the same cost of dinner and a movie or a new shirt, you can invest in your long-term future.

The best part is that by dispelling the disempowering perceptions you have about online dating, all of your frustration and confusion will be gone – leaving you a clearer path to love. Not to mention insider tips on how to make men do what YOU want them to do. (That’s my favorite part!)

This three-day sale starts NOW and runs until 12am, and runs until Monday, February 15th at 11:59pm. After that, Finding the One Online returns to its normal retail price, still an incredible value for the seven hours of coaching it provides you.

Naturally, if you’re away with your sweetie this Valentine’s Day, you can ignore this.

But if you’re at home (like I am), and want to be able to spend NEXT Valentine’s Day on a romantic getaway (like I do), I couldn’t recommend a stronger starting point than Finding the One Online.

Act now, jumpstart your love life, and save $100 instantly, before Monday night.

Write down this coupon code: vday2010 – and put it on your calendar to take advantage of this once-a-year special offering:

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Warmest wishes,

Your friend,


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  1. 31

    That’s the kind of hair you just want to reach out and run your fingers through. 🙂

  2. 32

    Live and let live, complain and let complain.

  3. 33

    A Reader-

    Sure. I get what you’re saying. It’s just that we all tend to come here to kind of ‘fix’ what’s wrong in our dating lives, or to figure out how to better navigate the dating world, proactively. Since you’re posting here pretty frequently, I’m “assuming” (big risk there, I know), that you’re interested in this topic, and possibly your own dating life.

    Like Evan said multiple times, you can’t have a dating life if you’re not dating. Online dating (though I’m not crazy about the idea myself) is really the best method to ‘meet’ lots of men. From what I’ve seen here, most people go into dating, relationships, etc. and tend to ask for ‘help’ or just exchange ideas on what’s currently happening, or not happening, in their dating lives.

    But you seem to be ‘waiting for Mr. Right to just come along’ and if he doesn’t, he doesn’t. That’s totally cool- but what’s odd is that people with that attitude tend not to post so frequently on dating blogs, and then get defensive about their choice to not date.

  4. 34
    A Reader

    Well, when people put words in my mouth (“fraught with peril”), throw around words like “paranoid” or make assumptions based on no information at all, it tends to make a person defensive. *shrug*

    I’m not really looking for a “fix” for my own dating life. I couldn’t afford Evan even if I was (ha!). I just happen to enjoy reading the blog and commenting on the different posts, so, yes, I guess you could say I have an interest in the topic. I dunno, I wasn’t aware that was a problem.

  5. 35

    Selena, 31-

    lol- yep, and the blue brings out the eyes too. ok, evan, I’ll stop hitting on you now. 😉

  6. 36

    I think we all suffer a little from the do- as- I- say- not- as- I- do syndrome in that we can easily tell someone else to do something we ourselves are unwilling to do. You have indicated that you simply don’t want to date the shy, feminine guys who are asking you out. Why? Because you don’t feel comfortable with them. What does this mean for you? Well, right now it means you aren’t dating as much as you could be. How is your situation all that much different from A Reader’s desire not to put her photo on an on-line dating cite? To me, it’s not different at all. She is unwilling to do something because she doesn’t feel comforable. Will it be harder for A Reader to find a guy without dating on-line? None of us really know the answer to that question. What I do know is that there are tons of both men and women who haven’t had much luck with it so it’s not the be all and end all for everybody. Let us not forget that Evan did not meet his wife on-line AND he said he is pretty certain that if he had seen her profile on-line, he would have ignored her. So, just let A Reader do her thing and we can all do ours.

  7. 37


    A Reader can do whatever she wants. The only reason I got into this at all is I was curious as to why someone who doesn’t really date frequents this blog. And she answered my question. That’s fine. No big deal. Also, the way she worded her responses made it seem that she kind of looked down on the whole ‘photo-on-the-Internet’ trend. Maybe I read it the wrong way, but I have a feeling that’s why she incited so many comments. For example, I had a friend who only listened to classical music- every time she saw my college dorm room, she’d look at my Who/Doors posters and wrinkle her nose saying- “you have those on your walls?”

    She didn’t say she looked down on my musical choices, or that I was better off listening to classical, but it was apparent indirectly.

    As for me, I’m just choosing not to date men whom I’m not clicking with in a certain way- that’s a different scenario from not putting myself in a situation where dating’s possible.

  8. 38


    Does that mean you’re now dating online?

  9. 39


    lol- yes, I’ve taken the plunge again. We’ll see how it does. My New Year’s resolution was, I will NOT allow the dating issues to drive me to post insane comments on this blog. lol we’ll see how that goes… I think Reva Seth’s “Arranged Marriage wisdom for modern relationships” book, coupled with Gottlieb’s treatise is helping keep my head on my shoulders a bit. 😀

    PS- Forgot to thank you for the ‘why men are great’ post- a much-needed post for me to read!

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