You can’t help who you fall in love with. This is true – but that doesn’t mean it’s the full story. When you fall in love with a man going through a divorce, you’re taking a huge risk, no matter how cute, kind and emotionally available he seems to be. Stick around to learn how attraction may not be a choice, but deciding which men you invest your time in is.
You’ve had moments where you wanted to give up on love. We all have. You sink your time, energy, and emotion into a guy, only to determine, after a long, tortuous process, that he is not the man you hoped he’d be and not the man you need him to be. You look inside at what you did wrong and come to the conclusion that there’s something wrong with men, something wrong with y
Cliches are cliches for a reason. Often, they have a solid basis in truth. But what happens when you believe in a cliche so deeply that it actually sabotages your desire to have a successful long-term relationship? Do you even know some of the deep-seated beliefs you hold that are preventing you from achieving your wildest dreams?
Your job is demanding. You are a single mom with lots of responsibilities. You feel like dating is one huge time suck. As a dating coach for smart, strong, successful women who have everything but the guy, I am quite familiar with women who are too busy to date.
You go online and browse through men. You know what you’re attracted to. You set your search criteria to get all these traits and come to the conclusion that dating sites suck and there no men on conventional dating sites. You conclude that the better path is to go on Tinder or Hinge because at least there are cute guys. The experience invariably sucks. What’s a girl to do
It’s lonely out there. And if you’ve been alone for a while and you have a vision of what you want your life to look like, I can appreciate if finding love is your top priority. It’s mine, too and I only work with women who are deadly serious about it. But if you’re so serious about meeting Mr. Right that you’re unintentionally sabotaging your efforts, then you should prob
Age is just a number. If you’re 60, I assume you feel 50. If you’re 50, I assume you feel 40, and so on. But when it comes to dating – specifically online dating – age isn’t just a number. It’s a real thing that you have to contend with, an obstacle that needs to be overcome. So what do you do when the dating pool gets smaller and, arguably, worse on the far side of 50?
You haven’t been happy for a while but you didn’t do anything about it. How did you get here? And what can you do in the future to ensure this never happens again? In this short Love U Podcast, I’m going to tell you the #1 Mistake You’re Making With Men so you can stop making it and finally start getting happy.
You go online and you swipe through thousands of guys. The guys you’re not attracted to pursue you hard. The guys you like the most are wildly inconsistent and don’t follow through. You have moments of despair, wondering what’s wrong with you, why is this so difficult, and whether you’re ever going to meet a guy to get you off this dating treadmill.
You know that he may not be inherently evil, but he’s simply incapable of giving you the consistent love, support, and compassion you need. If you know you’re yearning for someone stable and kind who puts you first – instead of wasting more time on a toxic narcissist – you know what you have to do.
"Hang in there if you are feeling despair — if this 60 year old English professor can find love, I suspect you can too!"
I know so much more about men and how they think, and because I have a man in my life who is worth my time and effort, I have a confidence in myself that I never had before, too.
"You really helped me filter and attract the 'kind, compassionate, funny' winner from the rest."
He was gentle, tough, hugely insightful and extremely accurate at decoding a man's words, his actions, his lack of action, his likely intentions. It was like having a direct line to a man's "private talk."
"Thank you, Evan, for enlightening me, having faith in women, and being honest with what 'is'!!"
The result of giving up the search for “why” is losing the worry, the wringing of the hands, the wondering if he will call, and all the stress and sadness that goes with the worry.
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