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Should I Go Out With Men Who Don’t Know If They Want Kids?

There are men who really, really want kids like you do. I was one of them. I always wanted to be a Dad and was always looking for a woman who wanted to be a Mom.

The Importance of Listening

I’m really proud of the 135,000 comments on this blog and the laissez-faire moderation I do (deleting personal insults, allowing just about all other topic-related commentary) and yet our regular commenters still come to defend their worldview but rarely acknowledge learning something valid about someone else’s experience.

I Don’t Make Money and I’m Worried That Men Will Judge Me For It

See, for the most part, men don’t “expect you to be successful.” Men expect you to be nice. To accept them as they are without trying to change them. To laugh at their jokes. To be able to carry on a good conversation. To appreciate their efforts to please you. To take the time to look attractive and sexy. To make them feel attractive and sexy. To be his soft place to land

Lori Gottlieb Wants You to Change Your Story

Lori Gottlieb is one hell of a writer. She published her childhood diaries as a book. She’s written for the New York Times, The Atlantic and NPR.

I Think I Pushed a Good Guy Away by Being Too Intense

You dated a guy who decided – after much interaction, intercourse and deliberation – that he did NOT want to be with you.
Whether that was because of his job, his lack of attraction to you, his feeling that you were not “the one” or a hundred other reasons doesn’t really matter.

How You Can Be a Better Partner – And Bring Out a Better Partner In Return

You can scour 1000 blog posts that I’ve written to basically figure out how to become more confident, communicate effectively and make healthier long-term relationship choices, but if you’re not actually in a happy, long-term relationship right now, you can see the massive difference between knowing and doing.

Why Are Men So Affected by Career Issues?

I think because men are wired a little differently, they are often willing to run into the arms of a nurturing woman even if the man is feeling fat, sad, or overwrought. These guys may not be ready for commitment but they are more than willing to find some sex and emotional support to get them through their tough times.

Tinder Has a Choose Your Own Adventure Show For You

Once upon a time – back in 2001, when I was working for JDate – this would have been my dream come true. Telling funny, true, relatable dating stories that had the potential to teach a lesson and reach a wide audience? Sign me up as a writer!

Should I Have a Long-Distance Relationship with a Man in Another Country?

Don’t say that to the woman who thinks that if she’s a self-made millionaire, she “deserves” to date a man who makes more.
And definitely don’t say anything to the millions of starry-eyed lovers who think that long-distance relationships are a good idea.

Do Men and Women Think About Sex Differently?

This New York Times piece by Kim Tingley (great name, if you’re writing about sex!) tried to come off as neutral but the structure of the piece – specifically the beginning and end – make it clear that the author very much WANTS men and women’s brains to approach sex similarly and DOESN’T want to discover that men and women are different.

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