In Defense Of Gender Stereotypes

Lovers washing dishes together in their kitchen

Because I have a girlie girl daughter, I don’t want to make her “wrong” for quitting soccer or not caring about the outcome of board games like my competitive son. But there’s a lot of backlash to promoting “femininity” in a world where masculine is perceived as good.

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The Importance of Listening

The Importance of Listening

I’m really proud of the 135,000 comments on this blog and the laissez-faire moderation I do (deleting personal insults, allowing just about all other topic-related commentary) and yet our regular commenters still come to defend their worldview but rarely acknowledge learning something valid about someone else’s experience.

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I Don’t Make Money and I’m Worried That Men Will Judge Me For It

I Don’t Make Money and I’m Worried That Men Will Judge Me For It

See, for the most part, men don’t “expect you to be successful.” Men expect you to be nice. To accept them as they are without trying to change them. To laugh at their jokes. To be able to carry on a good conversation. To appreciate their efforts to please you. To take the time to look attractive and sexy. To make them feel attractive and sexy. To be his soft place to land

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