“Men look for sex and find love.” If you disagree, you still don’t understand how sex is the primary driver for men. Essentially, men fall for you during the process of pursuing sex with you. Which means that if you have sex before you get into a relationship with him, you’re taking a predictably high risk that things aren’t going to work out. Click below to understand how men think about sex; you will be forever empowered.
I met a great guy on Match two months ago and we’ve been spending a good amount of time together since. We have great conversation, and have fun together no matter what we do. He values me for who I am, and it feels great that I can completely be myself around him.
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The debate rages on in this surprising Slate article from earlier this summer. Can porn be addictive? Sure can.
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A few years back I found the man of my dreams, a man that was a leader, intelligent, caring, great with my kids and attractive. When I first met him, he was going through the outcomes of celiac disease…
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this Glamour article, “(Incels are) an online community of men who are, in the simplest terms, angry that they can’t convince women to have sex with them. Unlike typical men…
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I didn’t write about the Aziz Ansari thing for a reason. There was no benefit to inserting my thoughts into a hot conversation, especially after I tried after #MeToo broke.…
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I’ve never cheated on anybody. Nor, to my knowledge, have I been with any woman who was cheating on her boyfriend. For most of my life, I thought that was…
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You don’t hear too many people write about the good old days, since the good old days coincided with the era in which women and minorities didn’t have equal rights.…
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I have kind of a delicate question that I can’t exactly ask the guys I date about. Now that I am 33 and am dating guys between age 30-36 I…
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I’ve been spending a lot of time with an attractive, interesting man these past few months (I’m 37, he’s 32). Until recently, we were just friends – dinners, cultural events,…
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I’m not pro-porn. I’m not anti-porn. Porn exists and many, many people consume it. The real question is: what are the consequences of the copious amounts of free pornography on…
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I’ve chosen to be cherished and allow myself to know that I was worthy of love. Now, I feel like when I go with the flow and stop trying to control any given situation, things fall into place. It’s so exhilarating!
I learned, through reading “Why He Disappeared”, that because of the fact that he did not commit to me, I really didn't want him back. I realized that I needed to find the man who would love me unconditionally for who I am, not for who he wanted me to be.
I'm in my 60's and expected that I would not have a committed relationship again. I'm still dealing with issues internally of fear and past experiences, as is he. But we can talk about these things and know that we have something special.
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