“Men look for sex and find love.” If you disagree, you still don’t understand how sex is the primary driver for men. Essentially, men fall for you during the process of pursuing sex with you. Which means that if you have sex before you get into a relationship with him, you’re taking a predictably high risk that things aren’t going to work out. Click below to understand how men think about sex; you will be forever empowered.
Let’s start with one thing: Just like every study ever conducted, just because this doesn’t apply to YOU doesn’t mean it doesn’t apply. There is just a mountain of evidence that suggests…
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You saw “When Harry Met Sally…” but have you lived it? I have. Once had a wicked crush on my best friend from eleventh grade. Lost touch, got back in touch,…
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I’m a 34-year old woman living in New York City, looking for that great love. I get asked on a lot of dates, however, it’s been difficult to find a…
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The end of Wednesday’s blog post brought up a very important topic; perhaps the most common question I get asked by women whenever I give a speech: Turn sex into…
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I’d like to hear your take on how a guy can smoothly handle the condom issue early in the dating relationship (assuming things get hot and heavy on the first…
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Lots has been written about casual sex and the hookup culture – to the point where it has to be very confusing for people to navigate the booty call waters…
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First off, I’m glad to have found your site. Your advice is thoughtful and reasonable, unlike many others out there. Suffice to say, you’ve given me a lot to think…
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I’ve had two dates with a man that I met online. We are in the process of getting to know each other. I don’t like to sleep with men within…
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You know what it’s like to get devastated when a promising new relationship doesn’t work out? Well, take heart – you didn’t actually lose ANYTHING. In fact, you gained the…
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Dear Evan, I keep losing relationships when I say that sex isn’t right outside of a marriage. I used to think that women have more self-control than men, but have…
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