"Many thanks to, you, Evan. You really know what you’re talking about — and you CARE."
Before I started working with you I was so frustrated with my dating trials and tribulations that I wanted to give up. I didn’t think I could take the pain of another “failed” attempt at dating or a relationship. Although I had met and become friends with some really nice men through online dating, I still felt like men were a foreign culture that I didn’t understand, that dating was a game where I didn’t know the rules, and like I was doing everything wrong. It was not fun — at all.
Over the Christmas and New Year’s holidays I realized I didn’t want to spend another holiday season alone. However, I didn’t think I could handle any more dating and relationship disasters — so I decided to take the leap and invest in your Inner Circle starting in January.
Your eBook gave me hope that I might actually be able to understand how to communicate better with men someday and be a good girlfriend, without compromising myself in any way. Your guidelines for setting up an online profile were extremely helpful. When I launched a new account on one of the major online dating services I was amazed at how many emails I received. Before I knew it I was trying to space out the first dates so I didn’t get overwhelmed. Your online dating tips helped me manage my emails, phone calls, and dates in a way that felt sane and effective, and saved me time and grief. I was even having fun!
Within a couple of weeks I met a really good man who had all the hallmarks of what Evan has referred to as “boyfriend material.” We had a very nice time together when we went out, and he was very present and attentive. He made it clear he was really interested in me, doing what he said he would do, and following up. He was also handsome and successful with his own business as an accountant. We “clicked” even though our backgrounds were miles apart. After a month of dating we agreed to be in a committed relationship.
As we got to know each other I found that I liked and respected him more and more, felt safe with him, and enjoyed our time together. But my brain kept finding reasons why this couldn’t work because of the differences in our backgrounds and lifestyles. There were also, honestly, some things about him that I thought wouldn’t “look right” to my family and friends back east. I found myself struggling with my own superficial expectations and preconceptions.
You helped me think about what is really important in a relationship, put things in perspective, and give the situation time. If I hadn’t been working with you I think I would have gone “AWOL” on the relationship soon into it, thinking it could never work out for the long term. But instead, with your guidance, I worked through my doubts, and the relationship kept deepening.
My boyfriend and I have been in a committed relationship now for about five months and it keeps getting better. I don’t yet know whether or not this relationship will end in a long-term commitment, but I’m finally feeling comfortable letting things unfold. The Inner Circle really has been a learning process for which I’m grateful. In the meantime, I am enjoying a type of peace and ease in a relationship that I’ve never experienced before. That, in itself, is a tremendous gift to me, and worth its weight in gold.
Many thanks to, you, Evan. You really know what you’re talking about — and you CARE.