Home > Blog > The Love U Podcast > Are Men and Women the Same?

Are Men and Women the Same?

Sure, men and women are equal, but are we the SAME? A Slate article that suggests we are the same leaves out some important information. Join me on this Love U Podcast to learn how women – because of their lack of testosterone – are not only different than men, but perhaps even better than men when it comes to relationships.

Click here for the full Slate Article

Want to be a guest on the Love U Podcast? Click here to ask a question.

Podcast: Play in new window | Download

Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Email | RSS

Watch: YouTube

Enjoy the podcast? Please leave a short review on iTunes by clicking

Join our conversation (7 Comments).
Click Here To Leave Your Comment Below.

Comments:

1
Nissa

I think I would like a copy of this infamous third grade memo Evan is referencing, that if you like a girl, you ask her out. Back when I was trying to date, I got several men that wanted to email back and forth, chatter for hours on the phone and wanted to give me their phone number. I would love to just send a copy of the memo with a note: Start here.

Reply
2
GoWiththeFlow

Thanks Evan!

What a fun topic. You and your guest did a great job bringing up a discussing many different angles. I especially appreciated when your guest illustrated how women DO get friend-zoned. I’m looking forward to next week’s interview!

Reply
3
Pascale

Interesting topic. It’s true that men & women are different and often, they don’t see things the same way. I just wished your guest could have shared more, because you did most of the talking.

Reply
4
cherise

You are SO articulate, Evan! A fair thinker, sharp as a whip, and always nailing it. Am really glad you end up doing this than writing scripts. Bless you!

Reply
5
Cheryl Lawson

Men these days seem quite lazy..very little effort ..they appear to want the gal to do the work..I am not chasing men.. I am not initiating anything.. how ever I show interest when I am.. They call, they don’t say much and expect that the gal takes if from there? I;m not doing his job ..you start rowing the boat early in the game and you will doing all the work while he sits back and enjoys the ride..WHERE ARE THE MEN?

Reply
1. 5.1
  AAORK
  
  Interesting. All of the characteristics you listed are associated to one type of man – those perceived as “upper tier” (based on Westernized culture’s radically updated ‘value definition’ of a man in recent decades) and thus have “a lot of options”. None of these traits are associated to the remaining 80%+ of men, most of whom are judged invisible/undateable by the same women who complain that there are no men left. Oh, the irony ..
  
  Reply
6
Cheryl Lawson

Upper tier ..interesting definition..what is the value definition given to women of late? how is the 80/20 split determined? surveys?Perhaps a chunk of the remaining 80% aren’t seeking relationships? or did you just tap those seeking relationships. I also wonder what is the age bracket of the new upper tiered group of men.I believe there is alot of confusion these day when it comes to relationships in general.I quite enjoy men ..I have men friends ..and I have dated a few I am not actively persuing relationship ie on line ,I would embrace the opportunity to get to know and develop a relationship.I am not committed to the on line process.Yes, I know that your next comment how? do you expect to meet men ? the old fashion way I guess..the beat goes on.. ..interesting comments from folks and keep up your good work ..Perhaps I will buy into the process someday..in the meantime I am quite content in my life ..My men friends (no benefits)give me that fix of having a guy to do somethings with..My comment is based on an observation that I made from my experience.

Reply

Happy Clients

"I have read it 10 times already, and keep revisiting it every time I begin to even hint at a moment’s insecurity."
Brilliant! Once you understand where men are coming from, which I would not have been able to do without the help of "Why He Disappeared," it is very simple! I have never felt so relaxed around him, he knows this and wants to spend more time with me. His choice!
Karen M.
"Your email gave me new motivation to be open to new possibilities that didn't fit in my box."
He makes me feel special, goes out of his way for me, doesn't keep me guessing about whether I'll hear from him, gives me his full attention.
Jeannie R.
"Dale and I have been together for two and a half years and will be married in 3 months."
You provide a reality check and remind me that everyone has doubts and there is no one "normal" response to love and commitment. I think your insight and perspective is incredibly accurate - you seem to understand the plight/perspective of the working, successful urban woman over 30.
Shelagh M.

[gravityform id="10" title="false" description="false"]

<div class='gf_browser_unknown gform_wrapper' id='gform_wrapper_10' ><form method='post' enctype='multipart/form-data' id='gform_10' action='/blog/the-love-u-podcast/are-men-and-women-the-same'> <div class='gform_body'><ul id='gform_fields_10' class='gform_fields top_label form_sublabel_below description_below'><li id='field_10_1' class='gfield gfield_contains_required field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_10_1' ><span class='gfield_required'>*</span></label><div class='ginput_container ginput_container_text'><input name='input_1' id='input_10_1' type='text' value='' class='medium' placeholder='Enter your first name' aria-required="true" aria-invalid="false" /></div></li><li id='field_10_5' class='gfield gfield_contains_required field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_10_5' ><span class='gfield_required'>*</span></label><div class='ginput_container ginput_container_email'> <input name='input_5' id='input_10_5' type='text' value='' class='medium' placeholder='Enter your best email address' aria-required="true" aria-invalid="false" /> </div></li><li id='field_10_3' class='gfield gform_hidden field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><input name='input_3' id='input_10_3' type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' aria-invalid="false" value='' /></li><li id='field_10_4' class='gfield gform_hidden field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><input name='input_4' id='input_10_4' type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' aria-invalid="false" value='https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/the-love-u-podcast/are-men-and-women-the-same' /></li><li id='field_10_6' class='gfield gform_validation_container field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_10_6' >Comments</label><div class='ginput_container'><input name='input_6' id='input_10_6' type='text' value='' /></div><div class='gfield_description' id='gfield_description__6'>This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.</div></li> </ul></div> <div class='gform_footer top_label'> <input type="submit" id="gform_submit_button_10" class="gform_button button om-trigger-conversion" value="Get Instant Access" onclick='if(window["gf_submitting_10"]){return false;} window["gf_submitting_10"]=true; ' onkeypress='if( event.keyCode == 13 ){ if(window["gf_submitting_10"]){return false;} window["gf_submitting_10"]=true; jQuery("#gform_10").trigger("submit",[true]); }'> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='is_submit_10' value='1' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_submit' value='10' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_unique_id' value='' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='state_10' value='WyJbXSIsIjM5YjE2ZTFlY2Y0NGVmZTI0NmI1OGU0NWZhMWYzZmI2Il0=' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_target_page_number_10' id='gform_target_page_number_10' value='0' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_source_page_number_10' id='gform_source_page_number_10' value='1' /> <input type='hidden' name='gform_field_values' value='' /> </div> </form> </div><script type='text/javascript'> jQuery(document).bind('gform_post_render', function(event, formId, currentPage){if(formId == 10) {if(typeof Placeholders != 'undefined'){ Placeholders.enable(); }} } );jQuery(document).bind('gform_post_conditional_logic', function(event, formId, fields, isInit){} );</script><script type='text/javascript'> jQuery(document).ready(function(){jQuery(document).trigger('gform_post_render', [10, 1]) } ); </script>

[gravityform id="13" title="false" description="false"]

<div class='gf_browser_unknown gform_wrapper 8-mistakes-sidebar-form_wrapper' id='gform_wrapper_13' ><form method='post' enctype='multipart/form-data' id='gform_13' class='8-mistakes-sidebar-form' action='/blog/the-love-u-podcast/are-men-and-women-the-same'> <div class='gform_body'><ul id='gform_fields_13' class='gform_fields top_label form_sublabel_below description_below'><li id='field_13_1' class='gfield gfield_contains_required field_sublabel_below field_description_below hidden_label gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_13_1' ><span class='gfield_required'>*</span></label><div class='ginput_container ginput_container_text'><input name='input_1' id='input_13_1' type='text' value='' class='medium' placeholder='Enter your first name' aria-required="true" aria-invalid="false" /></div></li><li id='field_13_5' class='gfield gfield_contains_required field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_13_5' ><span class='gfield_required'>*</span></label><div class='ginput_container ginput_container_email'> <input name='input_5' id='input_13_5' type='text' value='' class='medium' placeholder='Enter your best email address' aria-required="true" aria-invalid="false" /> </div></li><li id='field_13_3' class='gfield gform_hidden field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><input name='input_3' id='input_13_3' type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' aria-invalid="false" value='' /></li><li id='field_13_4' class='gfield gform_hidden field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><input name='input_4' id='input_13_4' type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' aria-invalid="false" value='https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/the-love-u-podcast/are-men-and-women-the-same' /></li><li id='field_13_6' class='gfield gform_validation_container field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_13_6' >Comments</label><div class='ginput_container'><input name='input_6' id='input_13_6' type='text' value='' /></div><div class='gfield_description' id='gfield_description__6'>This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.</div></li> </ul></div> <div class='gform_footer top_label'> <input type="submit" id="gform_submit_button_13" class="gform_button button om-trigger-conversion" value="Yes! Send me a copy of the 8 Massive Mistakes Report." onclick='if(window["gf_submitting_13"]){return false;} window["gf_submitting_13"]=true; ' onkeypress='if( event.keyCode == 13 ){ if(window["gf_submitting_13"]){return false;} window["gf_submitting_13"]=true; jQuery("#gform_13").trigger("submit",[true]); }'> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='is_submit_13' value='1' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_submit' value='13' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_unique_id' value='' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='state_13' value='WyJbXSIsIjM5YjE2ZTFlY2Y0NGVmZTI0NmI1OGU0NWZhMWYzZmI2Il0=' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_target_page_number_13' id='gform_target_page_number_13' value='0' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_source_page_number_13' id='gform_source_page_number_13' value='1' /> <input type='hidden' name='gform_field_values' value='' /> </div> </form> </div><script type='text/javascript'> jQuery(document).bind('gform_post_render', function(event, formId, currentPage){if(formId == 13) {if(typeof Placeholders != 'undefined'){ Placeholders.enable(); }} } );jQuery(document).bind('gform_post_conditional_logic', function(event, formId, fields, isInit){} );</script><script type='text/javascript'> jQuery(document).ready(function(){jQuery(document).trigger('gform_post_render', [13, 1]) } ); </script>

[gravityform id="27" title="false" description="false" ajax="true"]

<div class='gf_browser_unknown gform_wrapper' id='gform_wrapper_27' ><div id='gf_27' class='gform_anchor' tabindex='-1'></div><form method='post' enctype='multipart/form-data' target='gform_ajax_frame_27' id='gform_27' action='/blog/the-love-u-podcast/are-men-and-women-the-same#gf_27'> <div class='gform_body'><ul id='gform_fields_27' class='gform_fields top_label form_sublabel_below description_below'><li id='field_27_1' class='gfield gfield_html gfield_html_formatted gfield_no_follows_desc field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><img class="em-head" src="//www.evanmarckatz.com/images/em-head.jpg" width="120" height="120"> <p align="center">Evan Marc Katz</p></li><li id='field_27_2' class='gfield gfield_html gfield_html_formatted gfield_no_follows_desc field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><center><br><br> <strong><span style="font-size: 14px">Are you sick of men not making an effort? <br><br> Are you tired of texting relationships? <br><br> Are you done with “Netflix and chill?”</span></strong><br><br> <span style="font-size: 12px">Sign up for this free email training and I’ll tell you the <strong>8 Massive Mistakes You’re Making in Relationships</strong> so you never end up feeling this way again. </span></center></li><li id='field_27_3' class='gfield gfield_html gfield_html_formatted gfield_no_follows_desc field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><center><img style="margin: 20px 0" width="131" height="190" src="//www.evanmarckatz.com/images/8-mistakes-cover.png"></center></li><li id='field_27_10' class='gfield gfield_contains_required field_sublabel_hidden_label field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label gfield_label_before_complex' >Name<span class='gfield_required'>*</span></label><div class='ginput_complex ginput_container no_prefix has_first_name no_middle_name no_last_name no_suffix gf_name_has_1 ginput_container_name' id='input_27_10'> <span id='input_27_10_3_container' class='name_first' > <input type='text' name='input_10.3' id='input_27_10_3' value='' aria-label='First name' aria-required="true" aria-invalid="false" placeholder='First Name'/> <label for='input_27_10_3' class='hidden_sub_label screen-reader-text'>First</label> </span> </div></li><li id='field_27_9' class='gfield gfield_contains_required field_sublabel_below field_description_below hidden_label gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_27_9' ><span class='gfield_required'>*</span></label><div class='ginput_container ginput_container_email'> <input name='input_9' id='input_27_9' type='text' value='' class='medium' placeholder='Enter your best email address' aria-required="true" aria-invalid="false" /> </div></li><li id='field_27_5' class='gfield gform_hidden field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><input name='input_5' id='input_27_5' type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' aria-invalid="false" value='' /></li><li id='field_27_6' class='gfield gform_hidden field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><input name='input_6' id='input_27_6' type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' aria-invalid="false" value='https://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/the-love-u-podcast/are-men-and-women-the-same' /></li><li id='field_27_11' class='gfield gform_validation_container field_sublabel_below field_description_below gfield_visibility_visible' ><label class='gfield_label' for='input_27_11' >Email</label><div class='ginput_container'><input name='input_11' id='input_27_11' type='text' value='' /></div><div class='gfield_description' id='gfield_description__11'>This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.</div></li> </ul></div> <div class='gform_footer top_label'> <input type="submit" id="gform_submit_button_27" class="gform_button button om-trigger-conversion" value="Sign Up Now" onclick='if(window["gf_submitting_27"]){return false;} window["gf_submitting_27"]=true; ' onkeypress='if( event.keyCode == 13 ){ if(window["gf_submitting_27"]){return false;} window["gf_submitting_27"]=true; jQuery("#gform_27").trigger("submit",[true]); }'> <input type='hidden' name='gform_ajax' value='form_id=27&title=&description=&tabindex=0' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='is_submit_27' value='1' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_submit' value='27' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_unique_id' value='' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='state_27' value='WyJbXSIsIjM5YjE2ZTFlY2Y0NGVmZTI0NmI1OGU0NWZhMWYzZmI2Il0=' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_target_page_number_27' id='gform_target_page_number_27' value='0' /> <input type='hidden' class='gform_hidden' name='gform_source_page_number_27' id='gform_source_page_number_27' value='1' /> <input type='hidden' name='gform_field_values' value='' /> </div> </form> </div> <iframe style='display:none;width:0px;height:0px;' src='about:blank' name='gform_ajax_frame_27' id='gform_ajax_frame_27' title='This iframe contains the logic required to handle Ajax powered Gravity Forms.'></iframe> <script type='text/javascript'>jQuery(document).ready(function($){gformInitSpinner( 27, '//www.evanmarckatz.com/wp-content/plugins/gravityforms/images/spinner.gif' );jQuery('#gform_ajax_frame_27').on('load',function(){var contents = jQuery(this).contents().find('*').html();var is_postback = contents.indexOf('GF_AJAX_POSTBACK') >= 0;if(!is_postback){return;}var form_content = jQuery(this).contents().find('#gform_wrapper_27');var is_confirmation = jQuery(this).contents().find('#gform_confirmation_wrapper_27').length > 0;var is_redirect = contents.indexOf('gformRedirect(){') >= 0;var is_form = form_content.length > 0 && ! is_redirect && ! is_confirmation;var mt = parseInt(jQuery('html').css('margin-top'), 10) + parseInt(jQuery('body').css('margin-top'), 10) + 100;if(is_form){jQuery('#gform_wrapper_27').html(form_content.html());if(form_content.hasClass('gform_validation_error')){jQuery('#gform_wrapper_27').addClass('gform_validation_error');} else {jQuery('#gform_wrapper_27').removeClass('gform_validation_error');}setTimeout( function() { /* delay the scroll by 50 milliseconds to fix a bug in chrome */ jQuery(document).scrollTop(jQuery('#gform_wrapper_27').offset().top - mt); }, 50 );if(window['gformInitDatepicker']) {gformInitDatepicker();}if(window['gformInitPriceFields']) {gformInitPriceFields();}var current_page = jQuery('#gform_source_page_number_27').val();gformInitSpinner( 27, '//www.evanmarckatz.com/wp-content/plugins/gravityforms/images/spinner.gif' );jQuery(document).trigger('gform_page_loaded', [27, current_page]);window['gf_submitting_27'] = false;}else if(!is_redirect){var confirmation_content = jQuery(this).contents().find('.GF_AJAX_POSTBACK').html();if(!confirmation_content){confirmation_content = contents;}setTimeout(function(){jQuery('#gform_wrapper_27').replaceWith(confirmation_content);jQuery(document).scrollTop(jQuery('#gf_27').offset().top - mt);jQuery(document).trigger('gform_confirmation_loaded', [27]);window['gf_submitting_27'] = false;}, 50);}else{jQuery('#gform_27').append(contents);if(window['gformRedirect']) {gformRedirect();}}jQuery(document).trigger('gform_post_render', [27, current_page]);} );} );</script><script type='text/javascript'> jQuery(document).bind('gform_post_render', function(event, formId, currentPage){if(formId == 27) {if(typeof Placeholders != 'undefined'){ Placeholders.enable(); }} } );jQuery(document).bind('gform_post_conditional_logic', function(event, formId, fields, isInit){} );</script><script type='text/javascript'> jQuery(document).ready(function(){jQuery(document).trigger('gform_post_render', [27, 1]) } ); </script>

Dating Coach – Evan Marc Katz | Understand Men. Find Love.

Understand Men. Find Love.

Join our conversation (7 Comments).
Click Here To Leave Your Comment Below.

Comments:

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Happy Clients

"I have read it 10 times already, and keep revisiting it every time I begin to even hint at a moment’s insecurity."

"Your email gave me new motivation to be open to new possibilities that didn't fit in my box."

"Dale and I have been together for two and a half years and will be married in 3 months."

Join our conversation (7 Comments). Click Here To Leave Your Comment Below.

Comments:

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Recommended for You

Happy Clients

"I have read it 10 times already, and keep revisiting it every time I begin to even hint at a moment’s insecurity."

"Your email gave me new motivation to be open to new possibilities that didn't fit in my box."

"Dale and I have been together for two and a half years and will be married in 3 months."

Join our conversation (7 Comments).
Click Here To Leave Your Comment Below.