How Your Bedroom’s Decor May Be Secretly Sabotaging Your Love Life – An Interview with Bumi Lauren Kristen



Does your bedroom impact the way men see you? Does your decor affect the way you feel at home. Bumi Lauren Kristen is a licensed architect, interior designer, and pioneer in design psychology who helps women rekindle the romance at home. Definitely take a listen to this special Love U Podcast interview and see if your decor needs a make over.

Click here to enjoy Bumi’s free webinar on redesigning your room.

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  1. 1

    I agree with Evan, men don’t judge women’s color choice or how her bedroom is decorated, especially when it would mean turning down sex.

    Of course a man would react negatively or turn down a woman if she has a very dirty or disgusting bedroom, but in general decor is not that important to most of us.

    It reminds me of a book I read about flirting and the author reprimanded women for not having matching underwear when getting naked with a man for the first time, but I was thinking… If this guy is finally going to get sex after weeks or months of courting, I doubt he will stop a woman and turn down his first time to have sex with her just because her bra and panties don’t match or because her room is not decorated in a sexual manner and has white walls.

    However I can see this all “possibly” mattering in a long-term relationship where the passion has cooled down.

  2. 2
    Susanna McCan

    Very enjoyable podcast, Bumi and Evan–thank you!!!

    I can’t find Bumi’s website.   Could you post a link?

    1. 2.1

      Glad you enjoyed it, Susanna!

      In the rush surrounding yesterday’s launch, we had some broken links 🙁

      Pls follow the link Evan provided above, to get additional free information.



  3. 3

    My utilitarian flat  with the white walls and furniture picked out at a bargain retailer  sale in the 90’s (right down to the still-active TV)  by my landlord would probably make Bumi howl in despair.  ‘How does this paint colour make me feel?’ will have to be the big question I can ask myself when i move away from my hole in the wall studio.

    It’s a very interesting topic, and it might baffle people who are a natural at interior decoration that it needs to be pointed out to people like me who buy the first thing in Ikea and then rush out of the door.

    1. 4.1

      Hi Rosanna,

      In the rush surrounding yesterday’s launch, we had some broken links 🙁

      That link should work now, or you may click on the link provided by Evan above.




  4. 5

    OK, call me crazy but I don’t see any web links “below”, and when I google her, all I see is a list of her trademarks, but no web-sites or links to other info on her / her book.

    What’s up with that??

    I get that she didn’t want to give away her trade secrets in the Podcast – it was very obvious she was avoiding getting into what I would call really useful specifics (because then people wouldn’t need to buy her book when it comes out) – but there doesn’t appear to be any other info out there on her, or her book, which I find pretty frustrating.

    Hate to say it, but this podcast for me was a waste of time. I didn’t learn anything new or any particularly useful specifics, and neither did I get any viable leads/links for additional information over and above the content of the podcast.

    1. 5.1
      Evan Marc Katz

      Are you on my mailing list? If not, you should be. 🙂 You’ll get a link to a free webinar on Sunday.

      1. 5.1.1

        OK, good to know that.
        And yes, I am on your mailing list 😉

        1. bumi

          Hi Robyn,

          In the rush surrounding yesterday’s launch, we had some broken links

          That link should work now, or you may click on the link provided by Evan above.



  5. 6

    I agree with Robyn. Evan, I’ve read “Why He Disappeared” and “Believe in Love”, I read your blog, and I subscribe to your podcast and newsletter – normally I get *a lot* of value out of all of it, and your insights have helped me navigate dating and, now, my relationship. You’re a wise, level-headed, and funny man, and I so appreciate your perspective. But this podcast was really nothing but a generic sales pitch from her. As Robyn says, I don’t blame her for not wanting to “give it all away”, but usually your guests are all very generous in sharing insights – and in doing so it makes me want to learn more from them. Not this one. Even when you diplomatically pressed her for specifics, she usually danced around the question while applauding you for your wise question. 😳 I listened for 50 minutes and learned one thing- use vibrant colors. This episode was a rare disappointment for me. I very much look forward to your next one.

    1. 6.1

      Hi Jeanette,

      Please feel free to  click on the link provided by Evan above, for a full, free presentation. You should get more out of that.



  6. 7

    She talked in circles and never really said anything.   Totally waste of time.   It was always “I’ll tell you in a second.”   That second never came.

    1. 7.1

      Hi Emily,

      Please feel free to  click on the link provided by Evan above, for a full, free presentation. You should get more out of that.



    2. 7.2

      I totally agree with you, Emily.


      Sadly, the webinar was almost word-for-word a repeat of what was said in the podcast.   There was very little new information.   It’s a shame because I would’ve really liked to hear more.   I’d like to see how these ideas fit in with the stuff I’ve been reading from Marie Kondo, for example, about changing your environment and changing your life.


      No offence to the woman – she seems nice and genuine – but her webinar was rubbish.



  7. 8
    Kristine NORTHEY

    Hi Evan

    I found Bumi’s info quite interesting.   However her product cannot actually be purchased because no links were available.   Are you able to get in touch with her to provide the links to her program?   It was heavily discounted and   I would have been interested in purchasing it. thank you so much, Kristine

  8. 9

    Hi Kristine,

    Thanks so much for your interest and recent purchase.

    We’ve responded to your email regarding purchase and course access.

    We look forward to helping you create your Magical Escape and Fulfilling Home.

    Welcome to the studio!


  9. 10

    Too bad she feels this information is proprietary. I tell my clients that the bedroom is for 4 things: sleeping, reading one book before bed, getting dressed, and the 4th thing. Anything that doesn’t support these activities should be relocated. If you don’t feel comfortable doing these four things in your bedroom, brainstorm how  to change that so this room can better support your life.

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