“Why Bother” syndrome — that feeling of wondering why one would continue to date when dating has brought you nothing but pain, confusion and disappointment.
I coined the term “Why Bother” Syndrome 6 years ago.
I created an entire week of videos about conquering it in Love U.
But whether you’re a casual reader or a private client, this subject always comes up — especially when you feel you’re doing the best you can, yet your best isn’t good enough.
Why bother, indeed?
You know the answer to that question, right?
Because it’s worth it. Because love is right around the corner. Because the alternative: to give up on men forever, just feels a bit too permanent.
Yet the struggle persists.
Online dates that lead nowhere.
Selfish men who rely solely on texting.
Great chemistry masking bad behavior.
There are a hundred ways that relationships don’t work out, but only one way that relationships do — when both people feel like they’re getting the deal of a lifetime.
And as rare as that seems, it happens all the time. Maybe not to you. Maybe not yet. But when I get emails like this, it’s hard to fathom that you can’t write one just like it:
A friend referred me to your blog four years ago, Evan, and your wit and honesty really resonated for me. Skip ahead, two years later, I read all your free stuff, took the advice, considered you my COACH and bought a program or two along the way. Mostly, I applied the wisdom, made room in my life for love, got clear on the QUALITIES of man I wanted in my life, and how I wanted to FEEL in a relationship and attracted just that. Ya Fricken Hoo!!
Some diligent dating, doing my own personal work, clarity and self-awareness, and voila:
I am in love.
I’ve an easy relationship with a man I deeply respect who totally admires and cherishes me and we’re creating a life and growing future together that we both love.
I figured I’d take a minute to say “thank you” and let you know I pay it forward as often as I can, by sharing the tools, mindset shifts and clarity strategies that worked for me with others and sending them your way.
Clients like Tracy remind me to always be a dating optimist. That’s why I continue to create free content to pay things forward for loyal readers like you.
Tomorrow, June 20th at 5pm Pacific (8pm Eastern), I’m hosting a free webinar called 3 Reasons You’re Guaranteed to Fall in Love and Live Happily Ever After.
I know: “guarantee” is a pretty bold word, but when you’re done, you’ll feel as positive as I do about your long-term romantic prospects.
In case you were wondering what’s in store for you, here’s just a small taste of what you’ll learn during this special online training:
- The two biggest obstacles you face in dating and how to quickly overcome them.
- How to instantly identify the #1 fear that’s holding you back from true love.
- 4 things you must do to cultivate a successful relationship.
- Why falling in love is as easy as 1-2-3.
- The inspiring story of three women who finally landed the man of their dreams.
- An exercise that ensures your future happiness is all but inevitable.
And, of course, the 3 reasons you’re guaranteed to fall in love and live happily ever after.
Can’t wait to see you on the webinar, teach you something powerful, and answer your questions on a live Q&A at the end.
Warmest wishes and much love,